For all the grindr, scruff, hook-up-app addicts, and relationship drama queens.

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    Jun 27, 2013 5:07 AM GMT
    I read so many posts about the malaise and depression about hook up sites, the drama of not being in a relationship, the drama of being in a a relationship, finding someone "perfect" just for you. People don't seem to understand that finding your own self worth in the approval of others will never make you happy, it will just give you gonorrhea or something worse.

    So many times I have posted this video that I felt it needs its own thread. You got to be okay with yourself before you can be happy with anyone else.

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    Jun 27, 2013 5:09 AM GMT
    I've always loved this video. I feel as an introverted person that this fits me perfectly. I also feel that you should only be in a relationship when you feel you're confident in yourself - and not looking for someone else to fill the voids in your life.

    Good post, Pasfu :-)
  • PR_GMR

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    Jun 27, 2013 5:16 AM GMT
    Lovely video. Sharing it on my Facebook. I've been alone and single most of my adult life.. and her words encapsulate many of my feelings and thoughts through the years. It's not a sin to be alone. In fact, it's where you truly find yourself. I appreciate my aloneness.. and will continue to wait for that guy that I can share my life with.
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    Jun 27, 2013 5:33 AM GMT
    one of the greatest challenges in life. most people have a hard time figuring out important stuff like this.


    OP, you're good looking and thoughtful...soo dreamy icon_smile.gif
    one day, when i'm more mature, i'll be just like you.

    why can't more men be like this?
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 27, 2013 6:35 AM GMT
    Cool video



    I am a whole, all by myself;
    Not a half, with a missing part.
  • killercliche

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    Jun 27, 2013 7:08 AM GMT
    I think if she hit the gym more she wouldn't be so lonely
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  • Drift

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    Jun 27, 2013 3:12 PM GMT
    Gorgeous.thank you for sharing. I've been struggling with this one. Falling into patterns and organisations that trap, rather than carry me forward. About to go off wandering for three months through Europe, and been worried about how I will be alone. Time to let that go. ^_^
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    Jun 27, 2013 3:17 PM GMT
    100% agree.

    You will NEVER be happy unless you are capable of happiness on your own. Babies don't save marriages and men can't make you happy. They can make you happiER but you need to be able to say that you are happy as a single independent man and that someone else is merely what turns a wonderful life into an out of this world, super duper life.

    Learn to love self first. So many men are terrified of being alone that they forget this. How can anyone honestly expect someone to like them when they don't even like themselves? You tell yourself your not worth it and then you become what you believe then everyone believes it.
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    Jun 27, 2013 4:03 PM GMT
    killercliche saidI think if she hit the gym more she wouldn't be so lonely
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    Lol pot stirrer
  • PharmKY

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    Jun 27, 2013 4:08 PM GMT
    Thanks for sharing this video, I loved it!
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    Jun 27, 2013 4:10 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidCool video



    I am a whole, all by myself;
    Not a half, with a missing part.


    My problem is: I am a hole all by myself icon_evil.gif
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    Jun 27, 2013 4:11 PM GMT
    I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to love someone and be loved back. It's a basic human need for most people.
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 27, 2013 4:13 PM GMT
    killercliche saidI think if she hit the gym more she wouldn't be so lonely
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    I say her skinny legs could use sun.
  • FitGwynedd

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    Jun 27, 2013 4:14 PM GMT
    pasfu31 saidI read so many posts about the malaise and depression about hook up sites, the drama of not being in a relationship, the drama of being in a a relationship, finding someone "perfect" just for you. People don't seem to understand that finding your own self worth in the approval of others will never make you happy, it will just give you gonorrhea or something worse.

    So many times I have posted this video that I felt it needs its own thread. You got to be okay with yourself before you can be happy with anyone else.



    What a shit depressing video
  • mizu5

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    Jun 27, 2013 4:19 PM GMT
    i watch that video often.
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    Jun 27, 2013 4:23 PM GMT
    FitGwynedd saidWhat a shit depressing video
    As much as I concur with the OP's criticism of booty-seeking black holes, your post struck my cynicism chord at just the right moment, and I thank you for the laugh.
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    Jun 27, 2013 4:30 PM GMT
    The funny thing is that the most time she spent alone the feeling of lacking something and or emptiness will grow, cause naturally human beings need company no matter what. Is the super ego, the egoist who think that because of their uniqueness and because no one is like himself it's ok to be alone, when naturally people do think the same and share the same feelings and ideas.
  • killercliche

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    Jun 27, 2013 5:31 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    killercliche saidI think if she hit the gym more she wouldn't be so lonely
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    I say her skinny legs could use sun.


    Spent too much time
    "running after billy
    Running after the rain"
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    Jun 27, 2013 5:33 PM GMT
    My brother showed my this video when I told him I was lonesome, I loved this.