Grindr during a relationship and other app curiosities

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    Jun 28, 2013 4:13 PM GMT
    I think it's been mentioned before about how many of us guys have had or know people who Grindr or have boyfriends who use it even while in a relationship.

    I'm curious for the reason. There's the obvious one, that these guys are still prowling for some exotic piece of ass.

    I've only read one comment where the person claims to use it in a relationship as an "outlet" for attention from other guys. Isn't that neat?

    Is this a sort of trumped up version of porn, just with more interactivity? I mean, we don't harangue boyfriends for watching porn do we? It's an outlet.

    The danger of an app, I think, is that "what if" feeling of dread that this person could find someone else, or maybe you two are fighting and someone makes themselves sexually available to your boyfriend, or you're insecure and the thought of alternatives (alternative pairings, doubts about longevity) coming into a relationship can be too tempting to make some unfaithful decisions?

    Or maybe you get tired of the same piece of ass and want something different. Hell, you banged dozens and now just one isn't enough. Or maybe he banged dozens and you want that life experience for yourself.

    At what point does the app become more than an outlet? And an outlet for what?

    Can it be an insurance policy we take out, "if things don't go well then there's always..." much like keeping prospects on a back-burner?

    What's the common thread? I think it's insecurity at its core. People are so insecure, and maybe (if at all possible) "haven't found themselves" and so doubt leaks into every decision they have to make, causing room for a need for affirmation or confirmation from others, via Grindr or PoF or something, or an insurance policy via those same programs.

    Put another way, were people secure about who they are, what they want, would they need Grindr during a relationship?

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    Jun 29, 2013 6:24 AM GMT
    Bump because it's bloody interesting.
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    Jun 29, 2013 6:59 AM GMT
    makavelli saidI think it's been mentioned before about how many of us guys have had or know people who Grindr or have boyfriends who use it even while in a relationship.

    I'm curious for the reason. There's the obvious one, that these guys are still prowling for some exotic piece of ass.

    I've only read one comment where the person claims to use it in a relationship as an "outlet" for attention from other guys. Isn't that neat?

    Is this a sort of trumped up version of porn, just with more interactivity? I mean, we don't harangue boyfriends for watching porn do we? It's an outlet.

    The danger of an app, I think, is that "what if" feeling of dread that this person could find someone else, or maybe you two are fighting and someone makes themselves sexually available to your boyfriend, or you're insecure and the thought of alternatives (alternative pairings, doubts about longevity) coming into a relationship can be too tempting to make some unfaithful decisions?

    Or maybe you get tired of the same piece of ass and want something different. Hell, you banged dozens and now just one isn't enough. Or maybe he banged dozens and you want that life experience for yourself.

    At what point does the app become more than an outlet? And an outlet for what?

    Can it be an insurance policy we take out, "if things don't go well then there's always..." much like keeping prospects on a back-burner?

    What's the common thread? I think it's insecurity at its core. People are so insecure, and maybe (if at all possible) "haven't found themselves" and so doubt leaks into every decision they have to make, causing room for a need for affirmation or confirmation from others, via Grindr or PoF or something, or an insurance policy via those same programs.

    Put another way, were people secure about who they are, what they want, would they need Grindr during a relationship?



    Gay guys dont have to play by str8 married rules.
  • anketa

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    Jun 29, 2013 7:06 AM GMT
    Gay guys are just like this. They always look for something better...or for some fun (because, let's face it, sex is considered the best method for entertainment!)