Gay PA Man Adopts His Partner For Financial Protections Found In Marriage

  • metta

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    Jun 28, 2013 4:56 PM GMT
    Gay PA Man Adopts His Partner For Financial Protections Found In Marriage


    http://instinctmagazine.com/post/gay-pa-man-adopts-his-partner-financial-protections-found-marriage
  • metta

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    Jun 28, 2013 5:00 PM GMT
    Will that work with green cards as well? I have a friend that lives in the US legally under a student visa. The process of getting him a green card is ridiculous and constantly on hold. If I adopted him, could he get a green card that way? He is over 30 now and has been here since his teens. The government has messed around with him all this time and he does everything by the book.
  • metta

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    Jun 28, 2013 5:31 PM GMT
    Adult Adoptions
    Making the Relationship Legal


    http://adoption.about.com/od/typesofadoption/a/adultadopt.htm
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    Jun 28, 2013 6:37 PM GMT
    As I reported in another thread (sorry, don't recall which), I knew a couple in south Florida who had done this. They'd been together for decades. Lovely people. I knew them for about five years when the partner died of old age. The older guy had the money and his family attacked, stealing everything, including the house. We felt terrible for him. By then the surviving spouse was in his 60s, he found a house to rent and started back to work, having none of their substantial funds to support him. It was horrible for him and made us all feel like shit to witness that.

    That was here in Florida. At the time it was illegal here for a gay person to adopt so I guess the adoption took place elsewhere, way before I knew them, but I don't recall all the details. Just the impression it left upon me: this world owes us.
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    Jun 28, 2013 6:46 PM GMT
    I thought this, for a long time, was almost de rigueur for older-younger adult relationships, especially in states currently without marriage equality.
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    Jun 28, 2013 6:49 PM GMT
    dayumm saidI thought this, for a long time, was almost de rigueur for older-younger adult relationships, especially in states currently without marriage equality.


    I get that it's all in name alone, but I can't even date someone with my brother's first name so it strikes me as a little gross.

  • metta

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    Jun 28, 2013 8:42 PM GMT
    metta8 saidWill that work with green cards as well? I have a friend that lives in the US legally under a student visa. The process of getting him a green card is ridiculous and constantly on hold. If I adopted him, could he get a green card that way? He is over 30 now and has been here since his teens. The government has messed around with him all this time and he does everything by the book.


    I don't think it will work. After 21, my friend told me that you can't use your parents to get the green card.
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    Jun 29, 2013 3:19 PM GMT
    Moral of the story : If there is will, there is a way.
  • great_scott

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    Jun 29, 2013 3:32 PM GMT
    Clever but just seems sort of emasculating. Now John can literally shout out, "who's your daddy?!" icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 29, 2013 3:38 PM GMT
    great_scott saidClever but just seems sort of emasculating. Now John can literally shout out, "who's your daddy?!" icon_lol.gif


    I feel the real joke is on the immigration system.