Finding gay friends in a new city .

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    Jun 29, 2013 1:18 AM GMT
    Is it just me or it hard to find out going nice , down to earth guys with out the drama or Head games ?
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    Jun 29, 2013 2:26 AM GMT
    you are not alone
  • Apparition

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    Jun 29, 2013 2:52 AM GMT
    No. But if you are just looking at hottie club kids then good luck with that.
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    Jun 29, 2013 3:06 AM GMT
    I'd hang out with you.
  • Diplo

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    Jun 29, 2013 3:12 AM GMT
    kenton1990 saidIs it just me or it hard to find out going nice , down to earth guys with out the drama or Head games ?


    Im having a hard time meeting people online, however meeting people while Im out through other friends is working out.
  • PR_GMR

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    Jun 29, 2013 3:24 AM GMT
    It's hard making gay friends in new cities--I just got dumped by the first friend I made in NYC 'cause he was crazy in the head. But, it's possible. Keep putting yourself out there. I recommend going to social gay nights or events and meet like-minded guys.
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    Jun 29, 2013 3:27 AM GMT
    Just make friends with people beyond their orientation and eventually you'll find them.
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    Jun 29, 2013 4:08 AM GMT
    Myol saidJust make friends with people beyond their orientation and eventually you'll find them.


    !!!
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    Jun 29, 2013 3:18 PM GMT
    I moved out of state in the 90's - to Arizona, where I knew one person. I started meeting people right away in the following places:

    * While out running in my neighborhood (be friendly & say hello to guys you see running or out doing their lawnwork);
    * By joining my university's alumni association;
    * By joining the local Rotary Club;
    * At my new gym (just don't chat away too much);
    * At my new office (although we don't want to 'fish off the company pier';
    * Local RealJock guys.

    It's all about putting yourself out there and not staying home too much.
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    Jun 29, 2013 3:19 PM GMT
    Jockbod48 saidI moved out of state in the 90's - to Arizona, where I knew one person. I started meeting people right away in the following places:

    * While out running in my neighborhood (be friendly & say hello to guys you see running or out doing their lawnwork);
    * By joining my university's alumni association;
    * By joining the local Rotary Club;
    * At my new gym (just don't chat away too much);
    * At my new office (although we don't want to 'fish off the company pier';
    * Local RealJock guys.

    It's all about putting yourself out there and not staying home too much.


    This ^ ^ ^ ^
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    Jun 29, 2013 3:23 PM GMT
    Trust me you are not alone. You can find anything but gay "friends".
    I have just given up and I go out all the time with Straight crowd.
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    Jun 29, 2013 3:27 PM GMT
    The gay friends I have had in life were all childhood friends. Rest all are either romantic partner or fuck buddies.
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    Jun 29, 2013 3:29 PM GMT
    I'm honestly at the point of not making too many more because I'm tired of the drama. But if you consider yourself an attractive person and have confidence, you'll make some gay friends. A lot of guys like to have friends they are attracted to (I don't really understand why) so you should be fine.
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    Jun 29, 2013 3:38 PM GMT
    I see posts like this all the time and I tend to be a bit skeptical..

    ..Good friends come in different sexes ,ages ,shapes, colors and sizes!

    Someone you'd like to end up dating is a different story.

    I have seen profiles seeking friendship with a long attached list of specifics.

    ..Does the OP mean good friends? Or..

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    If it seems i'm being obnoxious or rude..
    I Promise i'm not. icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 29, 2013 3:39 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidI see posts like this all the time and I tend to be a bit skeptical..

    ..Good friends come in different sexes ,ages ,shapes, colors and sizes!

    Someone you'd like to end up dating is a different story.

    I have seen profiles seeking friendship with a long attached list of specifics.

    ..Does the OP mean good friends? Or..

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    If it seems i'm being obnoxious or rude..
    I Promise i'm not. icon_smile.gif


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    Jun 29, 2013 3:48 PM GMT
    I have met some nice guys here that literally have no friends..

    The cool goth girl at the coffee shop that smiles at you could be a contender..

    .. That older lady in your building that is polite enough to wave..and ask how your day is going.. Offering brownies or cookies.. might be worth sitting with an hour a week.

    Friendships are everywhere.. Just saying..
    Don't limit yourself..
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    Jun 29, 2013 4:07 PM GMT
    I'm temporarily in Boston for the summer for work and did not know anyone here. I have hung out with some guys and made some 'friends', but truth is that most people I've met only talk try to be friends with you if they think you're hot or want to fuck you...

    I do understand that it's hard to be friends with someone who's leaving so soon, but I don't know, it'd still be nice to have friends and have a meal, not just 'hint' at sex the entire day/night icon_sad.gif
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    Jun 29, 2013 4:12 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidI have met some nice guys here that literally have no friends..

    The cool goth girl at the coffee shop that smiles at you could be a contender..

    .. That older lady in your building that is polite enough to wave..and ask how your day is going.. Offering brownies or cookies.. might be worth sitting with an hour a week.

    Friendships are everywhere.. Just saying..
    Don't limit yourself..


    Some people get embarrassed hanging out with an old woman or people very different to them and miss out on great relationships. The goth girl at the coffee shop actually made me smile because I am friends with a goth girl who I met on a visit to a coffee shop. She works there.