Grindr Survey Shows 77% Of Members Want To Get Married

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    Jun 29, 2013 5:12 AM GMT
    Grindr, the go-to gay online social app, isn't just about finding a partner for the night.

    A recent survey conducted by the company shows that out of the 2,000 participants questioned, 77% say they want to get married. Not only that, but 76% said they want kids someday. When asked if having an open relationship was the key to a good marriage, the participants were almost split with 59% saying they did not believe in open marriages.

    There were other findings in the study, too. When it comes to the subject of soul mates, 60% believed that their soul mate was still out there waiting for them, compared with the 22% that said they were currently with their soul mate, and 18% who didn't believe in soul mates at all.

    While Grindr may have a controversial reputation in some circles, the company has taken proactive strides to look out for their members health by alerting them to free STI and HIV tests, as well as promoting various gay parties and social events happening in cities around the world.

    Debuting in 2009, Grindr now has more than 6 million users globally, making it one of the largest networks of gay men in the world.


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    It looks suspiciously like part press-release, part commercial, but I still have to wonder... 77% sounds high--or am I too jaded :p
  • Apparition

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    Jun 29, 2013 1:58 PM GMT
    Most gay men want love, and a regular sex partner. Hooking up all the time is too much work
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    Jun 29, 2013 3:59 PM GMT
    Some people seek frequent sex as a means to fill their empty dreams.
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    Jun 29, 2013 5:28 PM GMT
    This is what I've always known to be true, despite bitter conservatives who try to paint us as all being hedonists.
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    Jun 29, 2013 5:37 PM GMT
    re-installing app.... brb.
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    Jun 29, 2013 5:42 PM GMT
    Broseph said
    Grindr, the go-to gay online social app, isn't just about finding a partner for the night.

    A recent survey conducted by the company shows that out of the 2,000 participants questioned, 77% say they want to get married. Not only that, but 76% said they want kids someday. When asked if having an open relationship was the key to a good marriage, the participants were almost split with 59% saying they did not believe in open marriages.

    There were other findings in the study, too. When it comes to the subject of soul mates, 60% believed that their soul mate was still out there waiting for them, compared with the 22% that said they were currently with their soul mate, and 18% who didn't believe in soul mates at all.

    While Grindr may have a controversial reputation in some circles, the company has taken proactive strides to look out for their members health by alerting them to free STI and HIV tests, as well as promoting various gay parties and social events happening in cities around the world.

    Debuting in 2009, Grindr now has more than 6 million users globally, making it one of the largest networks of gay men in the world.


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    It looks suspiciously like part press-release, part commercial, but I still have to wonder... 77% sounds high--or am I too jaded :p



    Wow! Talk about looking for love in the wrong places. That site definitely trains one to be undatable. It's why 70% of gay men are single.
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    Jun 29, 2013 5:43 PM GMT
    Personally I think the gay community is being taken advantage of and we don't realize it.

    ..Consider these variables..
    Hard working gay men, Single and lonely..

    Then someone decides to release an application where you can click the next hot guy 500 ft away.
    ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^
    Fun.. but not stable or good for us as a community.

    If we want marriage we have to do things differently!

    just my personal opinion.
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    Jun 29, 2013 5:52 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidPersonally I think the gay community is being taken advantage of and we don't realize it.

    ..Consider these variables..
    Hard working gay men, Single and lonely..

    Then someone decides to release an application where you can click the next hot guy 500 ft away.
    ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^
    Fun.. but not stable or good for us as a community.

    If we want marriage we have to do things differently!

    just my personal opinion.


    Interesting perspective.
    Also I think since men are generally more aesthetic and sexually driven, it's easier for them to just suffice for the hook up world.
    It's probably just coincidental but it's kind of funny how we're fighting for gay marriage but throughout the forums there are people expressing how marriage is overrated and don't want to get married.
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    Jun 29, 2013 5:55 PM GMT
    ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ Ihateyoutoo

    See you are projecting !
    You described everything you would and wouldn't do..
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    Jun 29, 2013 7:11 PM GMT
    Alpha13 saidWow! Talk about looking for love in the wrong places. That site definitely trains one to be undatable. It's why 70% of gay men are single.


    Many straight LTRs owe their existence to the fact that straight men are for the most part unable to obtain regular free sex unless they commit to a woman. Gay men are not under such restriction, so it's predictable you will see proportionally less gay couples than straight couples.

    PS: for anyone willing to test the 70% statistic, check the advanced search from RJ and extract the proportion of single guys... it remains 70% for all age groups, except under 30s who are 90% single
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    Alpha13 saidWow! Talk about looking for love in the wrong places. That site definitely trains one to be undatable. It's why 70% of gay men are single.


    Many straight LTRs owe their existence to the fact that straight men are for the most part unable to obtain regular free sex unless they commit to a woman. Gay men are not under such restriction, so it's predictable you will see proportionally less gay couples than straight couples.

    PS: for anyone willing to test the 70% statistic, check the advanced search from RJ and extract the proportion of single guys... it remains 70% for all age groups, except under 30s who are 90% single


    i think there are fewer gay couples because of inherent scarcity of acceptable choice, idealization of a perspective partner from a lack of dating experience, and battered self-esteem to name a few.
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    Jun 29, 2013 8:06 PM GMT
    No two marriages are same as such they can't held to a benchmark.
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    Jun 29, 2013 8:10 PM GMT
    I tend to be skeptical of any statistical research that includes the word Grindr.
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    Jun 29, 2013 8:17 PM GMT
    ihateyoutoo saidglad i'm not on that mess of a site. 77% of people looking for a hookup talking about a desire for marriage. do they even know how to stay with another guy after the night is over? you can't stop talking to your boyfriend or your husband after you finish having sex with them.


    I had similar thoughts haha - I'm going to guess there was also some sort of volunteer selection bias influencing the results. People who do online surveys are more likely to exhibit at least some altruistic tendencies, which one will also be more likely to find in people who are (or have been) in long term relationships or marriages. Since guys participated on their own volition in that survey and there was no true random selection from the population (which, btw, is pretty much impossible with any research) one can't confidently generalize from those results. If that number or something close to it comes up when doing similar research in the future then maybe I'll believe it. Until then, I chalk that one up to variance and will await a regression to the mean...
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    Jun 29, 2013 8:23 PM GMT
    It doesn't surprised me, many gay men just want to get married and settle down. The ones who want to sleep around just don't know what they want yet !
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    Jun 29, 2013 8:23 PM GMT
    carabin saidi think there are fewer gay couples because of inherent scarcity of acceptable choice, idealization of a perspective partner from a lack of dating experience, and battered self-esteem to name a few.


    I agree, but my point is that even if the problems you mentioned didn't exist, we would still see less gay couples than straight couples.
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    Jun 29, 2013 8:25 PM GMT
    carabin saidi think there are fewer gay couples because of inherent scarcity of acceptable choice, idealization of a perspective partner from a lack of dating experience, and battered self-esteem to name a few.


    *applause* NUMBER ONE reason gay guys die alone:

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    http://www.discreetcity.com/1/post/2012/03/top-15-reasons-that-youre-still-a-single-masculine-gaybisexual-man.htmlThis is the main killer of all potential relationships and even basic platonic friendships of many Gay men. You only need to briefly scour the many profiles on Gay dating sites to discover the laundry list of requirements Gay men place on one another. The most disturbing part about this is that MOST times the men are demanding prerequisites in others that they themselves do not even meet. Guys seem to all want this perfect fantasy "Superman" that they've created in their minds to "save" them, that more likely than not doesn't even exist. No one is perfect, not even yourself.
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    Jun 29, 2013 8:26 PM GMT
    I thought 77% were already married.
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    Jun 29, 2013 8:29 PM GMT
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    Anocxu saidPersonally I think the gay community is being taken advantage of and we don't realize it.

    ..Consider these variables..
    Hard working gay men, Single and lonely..

    Then someone decides to release an application where you can click the next hot guy 500 ft away.
    ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^
    Fun.. but not stable or good for us as a community.

    If we want marriage we have to do things differently!

    just my personal opinion.


    how are the companies that cater towards the interests of the gay community such as grindr and andrew christian taken advantage of us when using that site or support these companies are voluntary? don't blame the gay bar, the underwear company or the hookup application for the choices that people chose to make. it's called owning up to responsibility. if you want to hook up and get your ho on, that's your choice. now if you want to look for a relationship and are willing to set yourself some rules such as not hooking up and refusing to get intimate with whoever, that's also your choice. folks are busy acting all powerless when they have options but chose to limit themselves on some bullshit. for the record, being single is also a choice BUT people chose to frown down on it. they feel that being single means that they're not desirable when that's NOT true. you can chose to be happy being a single person or you can make it into a miserable experience. the choice is yours.

    i just hate how people act as if it's the end of the world if they don't get laid, aren't dating or whatever. all that time worrying about shit could be used constructively on something else. there's nothing wrong with getting a hobby. folks seem to worry about the dumbest things.


    ya know, us long time out gay people remember the times when we had to hide who we are, where we went, who and how we met eachother, pairing up to one partner was a difficult thing, got even more difficult with the introduction of the internet (yes, some of us remember those days without it), before internet, your only option was the bar and or bath house, most of us "old timers" are trained in the art of cruising and one night stands because the rest of society kept us in this place, hidden in the underground and shadows, this is what we knew, if society had done a better job with acceptance, the less death of our gay brothers throughout our lifetime and generations.

    young gay men today don't have a fucking clue on what it was like just a short 25 years ago, who exactly paved the way for them?, do they think their gay fairy god mother did it?

    give it some more time, gay men have been conditioned by society that we must hide ourselves, have many hook ups and risk getting STI's, (that is why the gays "are bad") it does not surprise me that 70% Grindr survey says guys (now) want to get married, Society is the one changing and becoming more accepting where we don't have to hide and we can (now) find a partner to marry, its now upto the gay community (men in particular) to say to ourselves, I don't have to cruise or do one night stand hook ups anymore because I am now free to live and marry somebody I truly love
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    Jun 29, 2013 8:34 PM GMT
    Men are genetically predisposed to wanting to mate as often as possible. Monogamy sprung up as a need for child care. If gay men were more serious about finding long term partners or marriage they wouldn't even sign up for garbage like grindr.icon_idea.gif What men say they want and what they actually do on grindr couldn't further apart from the truth.

    at least 90% of men on grindr are their for sex. Wake up and smell reality men.

    I heard a drag queen comedian say you can't go from being a whore to a housewife. Wise bitch.icon_idea.gif

    non grindr member here.
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    MikemikeMike saidMen are genetically predisposed to wanting to mate as often as possible. Monogamy sprung up as a need for child care. If gay men were more serious about finding long term partners or marriage they wouldn't even sign up for garbage like grindr.icon_idea.gif What men say they want and what they actually do on grindr couldn't further apart from the truth.

    at least 90% of men on grindr are their for sex. Wake up and smell reality men.

    I heard a drag queen comedian say you can't go from being a whore to a housewife. Wise bitch.icon_idea.gif

    non grindr member here.


    yes, this would explain why heterosexual men cheat on their wives, and then get caught doing it, and the wife wonders, "what did I do", men are sex pigs, yes, though unique to gay men is the "open relationship" which probably is rare for straight couples
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    Jun 29, 2013 9:02 PM GMT
    Matiz saidI tend to be skeptical of any statistical research that includes the word Grindr.

    I'd have to agree. Unless the Grindr poll says "sup" or "pics" or has a headless torso, only a small group of users will take the poll.

    eagermuscle saidI thought 77% were already married.

    No, that's Craigslist.




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    MikemikeMike saidMen are genetically predisposed to wanting to mate as often as possible. Monogamy sprung up as a need for child care. If gay men were more serious about finding long term partners or marriage they wouldn't even sign up for garbage like grindr.icon_idea.gif What men say they want and what they actually do on grindr couldn't further apart from the truth.

    at least 90% of men on grindr are their for sex. Wake up and smell reality men.

    I heard a drag queen comedian say you can't go from being a whore to a housewife. Wise bitch.icon_idea.gif

    non grindr member here.


    A lot of people seek random sex as a mean to avoid loneliness and emptiness.
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    carabin saidi think there are fewer gay couples because of inherent scarcity of acceptable choice, idealization of a perspective partner from a lack of dating experience, and battered self-esteem to name a few.


    *applause* NUMBER ONE reason gay guys die alone:

    6590662_orig.jpg

    http://www.discreetcity.com/1/post/2012/03/top-15-reasons-that-youre-still-a-single-masculine-gaybisexual-man.htmlThis is the main killer of all potential relationships and even basic platonic friendships of many Gay men. You only need to briefly scour the many profiles on Gay dating sites to discover the laundry list of requirements Gay men place on one another. The most disturbing part about this is that MOST times the men are demanding prerequisites in others that they themselves do not even meet. Guys seem to all want this perfect fantasy "Superman" that they've created in their minds to "save" them, that more likely than not doesn't even exist. No one is perfect, not even yourself.


    Sorry, but this is a useless accusation. Can you change your taste in men? As far as I know, no one can deliberately change it.

    This is without mentioning that this factor alone is not sufficient to sustain your argument. If a guy who looks like Marco Dapper has high standards, he can get away with it and have plenty of guys available to him. High standards, alone, do not cause what you say. High standards and unattractiveness combined do.
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    Jun 30, 2013 4:23 AM GMT
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    Why do you automatically insult when you are challenged?

    ..I have seen your posts.. It's so easy for you to.."Fly off the Handle"..
    Chill out out man..
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