Anocxu saidPersonally I think the gay community is being taken advantage of and we don't realize it.
..Consider these variables..
Hard working gay men, Single and lonely..
Then someone decides to release an application where you can click the next hot guy 500 ft away.
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Fun.. but not stable or good for us as a community.
If we want marriage we have to do things differently!
just my personal opinion.
how are the companies that cater towards the interests of the gay community such as grindr and andrew christian taken advantage of us when using that site or support these companies are voluntary? don't blame the gay bar, the underwear company or the hookup application for the choices that people chose to make. it's called owning up to responsibility. if you want to hook up and get your ho on, that's your choice. now if you want to look for a relationship and are willing to set yourself some rules such as not hooking up and refusing to get intimate with whoever, that's also your choice. folks are busy acting all powerless when they have options but chose to limit themselves on some bullshit. for the record, being single is also a choice BUT people chose to frown down on it. they feel that being single means that they're not desirable when that's NOT true. you can chose to be happy being a single person or you can make it into a miserable experience. the choice is yours.
i just hate how people act as if it's the end of the world if they don't get laid, aren't dating or whatever. all that time worrying about shit could be used constructively on something else. there's nothing wrong with getting a hobby. folks seem to worry about the dumbest things.
ya know, us long time out gay people remember the times when we had to hide who we are, where we went, who and how we met eachother, pairing up to one partner was a difficult thing, got even more difficult with the introduction of the internet (yes, some of us remember those days without it), before internet, your only option was the bar and or bath house, most of us "old timers" are trained in the art of cruising and one night stands because the rest of society kept us in this place, hidden in the underground and shadows, this is what we knew, if society had done a better job with acceptance, the less death of our gay brothers throughout our lifetime and generations.
young gay men today don't have a fucking clue on what it was like just a short 25 years ago, who exactly paved the way for them?, do they think their gay fairy god mother did it?
give it some more time, gay men have been conditioned by society that we must hide ourselves, have many hook ups and risk getting STI's, (that is why the gays "are bad") it does not surprise me that 70% Grindr survey says guys (now) want to get married, Society is the one changing
and becoming more accepting where we don't have to hide and we can (now) find a partner to marry, its now upto the gay community (men in particular) to say to ourselves, I don't have to cruise or do one night stand hook ups anymore because I am now free to live and marry somebody I truly love