Is Gay life...all about sex or what..i hope not..

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    Jun 29, 2013 11:03 AM GMT
    Well....It is like this...I am 19 year old..

    I have little experience about people because the world is so huge...But from whatever I hv experienced till now...I am sad to say that all people I have talked to online or cam with...even the ones i thought were decent...Turned out to be only interested in my body or for that matter sex...'Bro u hv a hot body'...'looking sexy wanna hv fun'..etc etc..
    I feel anxious whether I will ever find someone interested in me as a person and not as a body...All this may sound weird from a 19 year old guy but I do want to be 'in love' with a person ..who is about more than that..
    Is everyone interested in just body...There's so much more to 'love' than just 'body'...there's the heart for example...hmm..
  • PR_GMR

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    Jun 29, 2013 2:26 PM GMT
    Sadly, most gay connections start with the physical. As gay men, we're way more physical than straight couples or lesbian women. Many of my gay friends started with a hookup before it transitione to friends. But, there's more to gay life than that. Hang in there and you'll find connections with like-minded men.. and even a boyfriend that will care about you for more than just a body. There's also the community too, which is a vibrant source of color, flamboyancy, love and humor.
  • Apparition

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    Jun 29, 2013 2:52 PM GMT
    The vast majority of gay guys would marry the first guy who asked
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    Jun 29, 2013 4:58 PM GMT
    It depends on where you are looking too.

    If you're using online sites, try some of the more dating-oriented sites like Match or OKCupid, rather than A4A or Grindr.

    Not every guy is looking for quick sex. The ones who are just usually happen to be more forward. Keep searching...
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    Jun 29, 2013 5:22 PM GMT
    Broaden your horizons..Advertise what you mean..

    How are all these guys seeing your body?? icon_confused.gif

    .. If you are a hot 19 year old guy that notices everyone on the net wants your body.. If this is not what you want.. Put some loose clothes on for your profile pics.

    <--- Look at my profile pic..

    See that sleezy pose?.. Now look at that sparkling white toilet bowl??..

    You can advertise sexy and integrity at the same time icon_biggrin.gif

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    Jun 29, 2013 6:15 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidBroaden your horizons..Advertise what you mean..

    How are all these guys seeing your body?? icon_confused.gif

    .. If you are a hot 19 year old guy that notices everyone on the net wants your body.. If this is not what you want.. Put some loose clothes on for your profile pics.

    <--- Look at my profile pic..

    See that sleezy pose?.. Now look at that sparkling white toilet bowl??..

    You can advertise sexy and integrity at the same time icon_biggrin.gif



    I sort of got your point...Thank you..icon_smile.gif
    Btw...I hv made an account on this site just yesterday...I just bumped into here nd was impressed by the forums here...where one could discuss a point..
    I will keep in mind what u said..I thought this wasn't provocative much so i put it up as profile pic..But yeah..u hv some point..
    P.S- They see my body if I cam lol..

    Thank you all for your opinions... icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 29, 2013 6:22 PM GMT
    Adi_99 saidWell....It is like this...I am a 19 year old Boy..

    I have little experience about people because the world is so huge...But from whatever I hv experienced till now...I am sad to say that all people I have talked to online or cam with...even the ones i thought were decent...Turned out to be only interested in my body or for that matter sex...'Bro u hv a hot body'...'looking sexy wanna hv fun'..etc etc..
    I feel anxious whether I will ever find someone interested in me as a person and not as a body...All this may sound weird from a 19 year old guy but I do want to be 'in love' with a person ..who is about more than that..
    Is everyone interested in just body...There's so much more to 'love' than just 'body'...there's the heart for example...hmm..


    You poor thing, I feel sympathy and pity for the shocks that are ahead of you if you think this is bad.
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    Jun 29, 2013 7:09 PM GMT
    i'm pretty sure almost every guy in the world (not me) dreams about getting young fresh pussy. it's kinda sick but that's how it is.

    when you're 19, it's not really about your body or your face. it's about your age.

    one can take advatage of that and have lots and lots of fun.

    i know i would!



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    Jun 29, 2013 7:26 PM GMT
    Darren..u miss my point..
    Jhonny..i believe smone smwhere wudn't be lyk dat..hmm..
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    Jun 29, 2013 7:30 PM GMT
    Adi_99 said<

    That is sad...I do hope I find such a guy...That is a sort of disadvantage of having a hot body..
    oh i dunno..:-|

    Seriously? Can you be less narcissistic?icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 29, 2013 8:04 PM GMT
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    Jun 29, 2013 8:22 PM GMT
    Your gay life is going to be what you make it. There are people on here, and in the gay community that have come from all different walks of life. Figure out what you want in your life, (could be random hook-up, could be solid friends, could be a loving partner) and position yourself to find that. Surround yourself it great people, and if someone isn't fitting into your life, weed them out.
    Your friends, gay or not, are going to be your support system for the rest of your life. Everything else you can make it what you want. If you want dance parties, go to the clubs or hit up the circuit parties(just because you do, doesn't mean you have to drink or partake in drugs, will power to do what you want). Make life your own and enjoy it for what you want. Don't let other people's stereotypes of gays, or themselves for that matter, influence you. You are your own person.
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    Jun 29, 2013 8:22 PM GMT
    Hey that's my song "Keep looking"! Oh and Adi good luck in finding your quality guy, they exist. Don't get discouraged.
  • TroyAthlete

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    Jun 29, 2013 8:26 PM GMT
    ihateyoutoo saidwell, that's what usually happens on the webcam or online chat.


    /end thread
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    Jun 29, 2013 8:30 PM GMT
    Go out in the real world and meet guys in person I'm pretty sure it's not all about sex.
  • MikeW

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    Jun 29, 2013 8:52 PM GMT
    Adi_99 said
    PR_GMR saidSadly, most gay connections start with the physical.

    Complains the headless avitar showing off his nude torso. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 29, 2013 8:55 PM GMT
    Of course its not all about sex, its really all about being hot, sex comes only second ...
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    Jun 29, 2013 9:18 PM GMT
    I think you will find that though mutual personal attraction may be what you are looking for, physical attraction is important too. Otherwise you can just hang out with people you love and be perfectly content.
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    Jun 29, 2013 9:22 PM GMT
    Nah bro. It will seem that way if most of your interaction with other gay guys is either online chat or online cam. Try messaging (mail) guys you're interested in. Also, meeting guys offline will probably help you too.
  • Beeftastic

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    Jun 29, 2013 9:24 PM GMT
    Sex is the currency in gay life. If you don't want to be treated like a rupee, don't show sex. Make your profiles about things that you like, your hopes desires and dreams. And show pics you would want your future in-laws to see icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 29, 2013 9:37 PM GMT
    Not if you don't want it to be. For those of us who want a lasting relationship, "gay life" is the same as "straight life." We want someone who makes us happy, someone we can be ourselves around. It doesn't have to be all about sex. I'm also not saying there's something wrong with people who don't want a lasting relationship. It's all according to taste. Life is what you make of it.
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    Jun 29, 2013 9:39 PM GMT
    Adi_99 saidWell....It is like this...I am a 19 year old Boy..

    I have little experience about people because the world is so huge...But from whatever I hv experienced till now...I am sad to say that all people I have talked to online or cam with...even the ones i thought were decent...Turned out to be only interested in my body or for that matter sex...'Bro u hv a hot body'...'looking sexy wanna hv fun'..etc etc..
    I feel anxious whether I will ever find someone interested in me as a person and not as a body...All this may sound weird from a 19 year old guy but I do want to be 'in love' with a person ..who is about more than that..
    Is everyone interested in just body...There's so much more to 'love' than just 'body'...there's the heart for example...hmm..


    You're young, nice and innocent. That's tempting. You'll get lot offers for sex, but it's up to you if you will say yes or no to that offer. Gay life doesn't have to be only about sex. Good thing is to ask directly what those guys want. Good thing is also to not believe everything what they say. Mostly if it's someone completely involved in scene, You can't expect miracles. Mostly guys having life outside the scene, making sports, outdoors, having straight friends too, want something more. More rich personality, more expectations from life. Yeah and man, don't forget work on Your personality. Have friends, have hobbies, be interesting person. Offer more than just body :-) Have two basic questions. First, what do You want from Your boyfriend. Don't be shy to be specific and want lot. But then comes the more important question for Your development - WHAT KIND OF BOYFRIEND WOULD YOUR DREAMGUY WANT. This will tell You a lot where to develop. What skills to have, what disciplines to learn.
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    Jun 29, 2013 9:47 PM GMT
    sex has a role to play in all of our intimate relationships, especially when you are young. straight and gay people all have to deal with this concept, its not that gay men are hyper sexual but that people in general are sexual. you do not have to make it the focus of all of your relationships. Its your life, focus on you. if some prick wants to use you for sex then leave him where you found him, clearly he isnt worthy of having you in any aspect. They have their own life to live and you have yours, do not give them so much power. who ever it is you find to be with you for the rest of this weird ass ride we call a life just be happy that you met him. you may never know when, where or how. You just gotta be open to meeting him when the time is necessary for you. in the mean time just have fun, either sexual or otherwise.
  • Joeyphx444

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    Jun 29, 2013 9:49 PM GMT
    I like to make sex jokes, it's funny but I don't ALWAYS do it. You can really tell if a guy is in it just for sex pretty early in meeting him. I mean, if he does a lot of innuendos and flirts sexually with you, he might just be for sex.

    I also hate when conversations just turn into sex, then he is clearly just looking for that.

    I don't understand why guys feel the need to have sex with you before deciding if they wanna be your boyfriend or not. It makes no sense because friends with benefits definitely throws the notion of sex is something you do with a partner only out the door.

    If a guy truly respects you and likes you he can wait or even be good when you are talking or cuddling. Well, I like to think that
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    Jun 29, 2013 9:53 PM GMT
    Eat the doughnuts to keep the hot guys away, and profit.