Do you enjoy silences?

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    Jun 30, 2013 2:45 AM GMT
    I love enjoying comfortable silences with friends, the japanese find silences very comfortable, while in the West silences are usually considered awkward.

    Why don't we just enjoy each others company, without having to exert ourselves?
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    Jun 30, 2013 3:04 AM GMT
    Yeah, I don't feel the need for constant chatter. It's totally ok to just enjoy the moment. But from my experience, most people are uncomfortable with that, and they translate that as a lack of interest. Or they think I'm a self-absorbed jerk. icon_neutral.gif
  • MikeW

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    Jun 30, 2013 3:17 AM GMT
    Yes, very much.

    Recently I had the experience of driving two Australian visitors on a long two-day drive. One of the guys is a good acquittance the other is his brother I hadn't met previously. Although there were many conversations there were also many instances of silence, sometimes for long stretches. I even commented on it to them and how much I appreciated no one felt the need to 'fill up the void' with unnecessary chatter.
  • omgazn

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    Jun 30, 2013 3:26 AM GMT
    I actually don't enjoy the silence. I grew up in the city and everywhere you go you hear noise from cars, people, whatever... Plus everywhere I go I normally have my ipod on listening all sort of music.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 30, 2013 3:26 AM GMT
    yup ... silence is golden
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    Jun 30, 2013 3:30 AM GMT


    Silence is a state of mind. There really is no "silence".
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    Jun 30, 2013 3:37 AM GMT
    I find that those who can enjoy silence, realize it's power, while those who can't stand silence don't realize how good it can be. (Rather than making a fool of yourself trying to talk)
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    Jun 30, 2013 3:38 AM GMT
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    Jun 30, 2013 3:40 AM GMT
    DudeInNOVA said...

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    Jun 30, 2013 3:41 AM GMT
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    Jun 30, 2013 3:42 AM GMT
    Yes!

    Books are my teachers & silence is my classroom.
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    Jun 30, 2013 3:56 AM GMT
    The_Guruburu said


    Damn! Beat me to it!! icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Jun 30, 2013 3:58 AM GMT
    Love it. Going on a camping trip in a couple of days and looking forward to hanging out with my buddy and we both agree we enjoy the silent moments.
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    Jun 30, 2013 4:22 AM GMT
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    Jun 30, 2013 4:24 AM GMT
    With other people, I can't stand them. Silences are awkward and it just freaks me out and amplifies any insecurities.

    I do however enjoy solitude.
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    Jun 30, 2013 4:33 AM GMT
    Mom told us once that when you're truly in love, and you're doing something that's all you, and he's doing something that's all him, and in silence you happen to exchange glances, the feeling is like nothing else. She was right.

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    Jun 30, 2013 4:35 AM GMT
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    Jun 30, 2013 6:33 AM GMT
    With my close friends, yes. Fortunately, they know me well enough that they know that just because I am sometimes silent, does not mean I am not interested in what they are saying. Now, dealing with strangers and acquaintances is something else...
  • Drift

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    Jun 30, 2013 7:19 AM GMT
    meninlove said Mom told us once that when you're truly in love, and you're doing something that's all you, and he's doing something that's all him, and in silence you happen to exchange glances, the feeling is like nothing else. She was right.



    +1
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    Jun 30, 2013 10:21 AM GMT
    i certainly do--- i know i've found a good friend in somebody when i can just sit in the passenger seat of the car while he's driving and i'd just stare out the window and take the sceneries in without speaking to each other...

    then i'd look at him and he'd look at me and we'd smile because we both feel good.

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    Jun 30, 2013 10:33 AM GMT
    As I am getting older I am getting more comfortable with my self, I personally think the biggest problem with the world is that we are over-social.

    I would personally be able to be more confident and stand more people if we all didn't talk soo much, humans talk too much, and often its to fill up the silence, making them appear weird or annoying and ending up making you feel uncomfortable if you didn't feel uncomfortable already.


    Maybe I should become a monk

    The silence of meditation can be very powerful.
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  • Joeyphx444

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    Jun 30, 2013 10:45 AM GMT
    Some guy to me was like, "you're not talking it's weird, I don't know what to say"

    Funny how I looked like the messed up one when he was clearly insecure and making it awkward, not me

    Sorry, I don't wanna talk your head off like a girl, but you aren't looking for a girl, it says in your profile you are looking for a MAN icon_rolleyes.gif

    If I have something to talk about then I will, I don't pull stupid filler convos out of my butt

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    Jun 30, 2013 11:04 AM GMT
    Joeyphx444 saidSome guy to me was like, "you're not talking it's weird, I don't know what to say"

    Funny how I looked like the messed up one when he was clearly insecure and making it awkward, not me

    Sorry, I don't wanna talk your head off like a girl, but you aren't looking for a girl, it says in your profile you are looking for a MAN icon_rolleyes.gif

    If I have something to talk about then I will, I don't pull stupid filler convos out of my butt



    Ah, the strong silent type, very good icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 30, 2013 1:50 PM GMT
    I don't mind silences... never even put too much thought into it.

    tho i never have those moments when i'm w/ my friends.

    if i meet somebody and they don't really know how to make small talk or how to converse.
    you know those people that are like
    what's up
    i'm good. thnx and yourself?
    i'm fine
    tumbleweed

    i just turn around and leave.

    however
    i do think silence is a nice thing when you're having a special time w/ your special parson. & it's just what feels natural.
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    Jun 30, 2013 4:16 PM GMT
    I do I suppose, but I think because I happen to get it a lot.
    I know on my side I don't feel awkward but I defintely know they do.
    Not sure why, I do try to be engaging and ask them questions about themself to show general conversational interest.
    Then after that the conversation just dies because I've asked them all the questions I can think of without being invasive on privacy and they never ask me anything back.

    So I think they'll go away because I just figure they're not interested in conversing with me, but they just stand and smile at me so in my head I'm like "wtf else am I supposed to ask?".

    This is why I don't really bother talking to people that much anymore or even skyping. A minute later it just falls quiet without fail.