Does age weary you?

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    Jun 30, 2013 8:47 AM GMT
    So into my mid to late twenties I found myself doing what I did when I was in my teens. I played a lot of sport regularly, surfed a lot ,and was generally energetic and injury free. I'm still working out but I have retracted involvement in sports, haven't caught a wave in a few years and now I'm finding that I'm not the horny devil 24/7 I used to be. I also recently found out I will require a knee recon in the future as a result of the years of relentless sports.

    I just wondered if guys around my age whether you are single or not, have or are slowing down or slowed physically, sexually, does this happen to us all, is it in my head. I kinda feel like I'm getting old. How do we deal with it? It's not that it scares me. It's just a realisation.
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    Jun 30, 2013 8:58 AM GMT
    Yup. Can't run as fast or as long as I used to. Starting to get some aches in the shoulders. But whatever. I don't plan on just sitting around and throw fitness out the door. Just need to adjust my activities accordingly.
  • Buddha

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    Jun 30, 2013 9:04 AM GMT
    I've always felt like an old person icon_biggrin.gif I've had problems with my neck constantly since I've been a teenager, so whenever I take too much weights at the gym my neck starts to complain. I guess it'll only get worse?
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    Jun 30, 2013 9:24 AM GMT
    From now on it's just a slow march towards death.
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    Jun 30, 2013 9:39 AM GMT
    Considering how inactive I was as a teen, I seem to have went backwards. Now I do WAY more stuff than I used to, and feel better.
  • rawjack

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    Jun 30, 2013 9:42 AM GMT
    Age happens on two fronts. The physical and the mental.
    The physical front can be very greatly modified by committing yourself to a routine of fitness. And that means working out regularly, eating intelligently and resting intelligently. Where have we heard that before? Oh yeah: body building. Keep it up and you will find that most of the age related problems so common in our culture will be kept at bay and/or avoided all together.
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    The mental state is altogether different. But first I'm going to suggest a radical new approach. Consider this: all of the most commonly accepted notions about "getting old" are based on misinformation, societal preconceptions and mass marketing and manipulation of the truth. We hear things like "when you hit 40 things begin to slow down" or "at 50 I'm no longer able to run, lift, carry, make love, with the same verve and endurance I had at 20 and 30" or many many other similar expressions that all seem to say much the same thing: that I'm not the man I used to be. We hear these things repeated over and over by many many people, "experts" in the field of aging, doctors and other health care providers, pharmaceutical companies that make mess for the "older" man or woman and are constantly told that we are different now and things therefore will have to change to accommodate these "new" changes.
    All very interesting and even entertaining even but they all have ine glaring flaw: they're all total bullshit!!!
    I am living proof of that. This year I turned 64. Yup I'm just one year away from being officially "old".
    I well remember believing these "truths" and casually accepting them as "truth". After all the "experts" keep saying they're true so they must be right?
    WRONG!! A thousand times WRONG.
    An actual truth is that the average Gay man takes wayyyy better care if himself than the average str8 man. Why this is so is a matter for another discussion at another time.
    The simple fact is that along with rewriting much of societal conceptions about human sexuality, the Gay community is in the process of rewriting the so called "truths" about aging as well.
    The truth is j have NOT slowed down in ANY area of my life.
    My stamina is certainly just as good and probably better than its ever been and, at risk of being accused of bragging, my sex life has never rpt. NEVER been better or more rewarding IN, MY, LIFE!!!
    If you wish to buy into the falsehoods that spew so easily from the aging industry go right ahead. Hell you might even learn to enjoy yourself as life passes you by.
    But BY ALL THE GODS NOT ME!!!
    Gentlemen listen up!! An 80 year old man recently summited Mt Everest!
    I rest my case!!
    I am going to be dead for a very very long time. I have no intention of "takn it easy" and saving up some if my life to delay the inevitable. I intend to die jogging along the Great Wall of China. Or skydiving. Or conducting a symphony or sailing accross the south pacific or walking
    the Kalahari dessert or making insanely passionate love to my husband.
    I'm not buying the myths any longer.
    How in Gods name did they ever get to be "truths" in the first place?
    True, my machine is 64 years old and I treat it with very great care. I will not abuse it or do stupid things to it. But I refuse to accept that the way to live is in fear if getting older.
    C'mon boys wise up!! It ain't over til it's over. It IS profoundly stupid to believe otherwise.
    So very much of what the "str8" world believes turns out to be incoherent nonsense - why, by any measure would we accept their beliefs about getting older?
    Jack.
    Vancouver.
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    Jun 30, 2013 1:08 PM GMT
    The changes are very slow and gradual, & can be kept in check by staying healthy and active.

    What "wearies" me far more than age is ageism. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Jun 30, 2013 1:31 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidConsidering how inactive I was as a teen, I seem to have went backwards. Now I do WAY more stuff than I used to, and feel better.


    Funny you mention that Paul! I wasn't that active in my youth either, yet since my mid forties to date I am feeling a lot of energy, and my body seems a whole lot more responsive to the benefits of physical activities, yet quite resilient to the exhaustion or the excessiveness that comes with it! my body seems to want more, but with caution! the added bonus is that as you get older you become wiser, thus you know your limits! an attitude that I didn't have when I was younger, as I thought I was invisible and indestructible!? young people do not know their limits, as they seem to have no idea of how important is giving the body a rest! unfortunately they find out the consequences later in life.
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    Jun 30, 2013 1:46 PM GMT
    Nope, age doesn't weary me. My mind set is to keep going until I can't. Remember this, "what you manifest lies before you" (The Art of Racing In The Rain), or as said otherwise in that great book, "the car goes where your eyes go." You'll become what you expect of yourself.
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    Jun 30, 2013 3:16 PM GMT
    no
  • MikeW

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    Jun 30, 2013 4:14 PM GMT
    rawjack said...The simple fact is that along with rewriting much of societal conceptions about human sexuality, the Gay community is in the process of rewriting the so called "truths" about aging as well.
    The truth is j have NOT slowed down in ANY area of my life.
    My stamina is certainly just as good and probably better than its ever been...
    I'm not buying the myths any longer.
    How in Gods name did they ever get to be "truths" in the first place?

    Hey, Jack. You are so right on the money. As someone who IS now "officially old" I agree with everything you said.

    What is interesting is I was never particularly "athletic" in my younger years. Never into sports or working out, although I did walk, hike do outdoorsy stuff and stayed relatively thin.

    However, I didn't take particularly good care of my physical health and had a horrible diet. In my late 50s and early 60s all that caught up with me and I gained a ton of weight and felt like shit.

    Beginning about 2.5 to 3 years ago, I started changing all that little by little. I lost a lot of fat and am now in the process of building muscle (down from 250lbs to 175lbs now back up to 195lbs, mostly muscle growth). I feel great and enjoy working out and wish I'd started years before I did. The point is, within reason, it is never too late to start making healthy life changes -- and we're living proof.
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    Jun 30, 2013 4:24 PM GMT
    I was one of those kids people liked to call an old soul which I only later discovered was their polite way of saying I'm a very slow learner so there's been no slowing down from that which I continue to explore and enjoy as much as always.

    Physically I was active as a kid, though not so much heavy impact stuff (bad knees from childhood so never ran, etc.) but I did continue swimming about a mile a day though my 40s when I started noticing arthritis. Mom had it and now I do too. I actually noticed it while swimming laps and thought it a torn rotator cuff. I went to the doc and asked what I could do and he said "blame your mother." Basically there's not much I can do about it, and that is aging. Other than death or denial, it's delay-able but unavoidable.

    Sexually I was on overdrive for most of my life and only started slowing down in my 50s. Probably still not quite slow by most standards but for me it's a relief. For most of my life I could hardly concentrate on anything else. Woof. I've had a lot of fun.

    I have found that most of my aging was not as much internal as external. Living life wears me down. I started off with a large, close family (60 at least would show up for regular parties) and lots of friends and the more they die the more I age. Plus I experienced some betrayals in the last few years and that put a putter to my Peter Pan.

    Mid 50s now and the arthritis in my hands is horrible. I hate it. I even went through a period about a year or two ago when I'd wake up, open my eyes and see a stranger's hand in my face and wonder who got into bed with me. I used to have beautiful hands; people would comment on them. But now I didn't even recognize my own hand. So I have become a little suspicious of life and that probably slows me down. They call it age.