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    Jun 30, 2013 10:39 AM GMT
    I'm thinking I'm gonna pull the plug and delete my account here at RealJock. icon_sad.gif

    Life has been happening for me on my end, I graduated from my university after having burned out in the middle, moved home to unsuccessfully find a job for a year, then returned to the university to finish. Earned my BA in general music. Because I was doing a lot of research for my senior project in these last couple of terms, I was given to not going to the gym and eating a good amount of junk food. All in all, I've gained maybe only about 10 lbs or so. Clothes still fit, but I have gotten flabbier. So now that the weather is better and I am finished with school, I'm gonna try to make an effort to be outside and move more and watch my diet. I'm a bit discouraged though because I now no longer have a rec center to do my workouts. Getting a gym membership may be a bad idea since I am contemplating moving out of the city in the next couple of months. Anyway...

    So I feel myself kinda frustrated for having let myself go like that. It's making me very self-conscious again, and I think I need to actually stay away from this site. It's not that anybody did anything bad, oh no, I've talked to a lot of very nice people on here. But there are so many very well-built bodies on here, I think that kind of exposure is emotionally hurting me. It tends to make me feel ashamed and embarrassed that I don't look as amazing. I realize it's not something that you have handed to you. It takes a lot of great dedication and motivation and a lot of careful nutrition and exercise over a super long period of time to get your results. So I get that it's not easy and it doesn't come free. But the challenge to trying to reach that level of athleticism is really daunting to me. I'm not afraid to be honest and express my feelings. Sometimes I really wish I had someone who really knew what they were doing who could help me along the way, but at the same time, I'll see their results and I will just feel awful in comparison. I shouldn't, but those thoughts just don't stop. I'll see images still in other media and in real life as well, but leaving this site will lessen that load considerably and will ease things.

    For those who did talk to me, thank you for being nice. Maybe we may see each other again sometime in the future elsewhere.

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    Jun 30, 2013 10:43 AM GMT
    You'll be back......they always come crawling back icon_wink.gif

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    Jun 30, 2013 12:05 PM GMT
    Cheer up mate..
    Life is just pulling you in all sorts of directions !

    So your focus shifted temporarily to one set of positive events and maybe its time to shift them back to your workout routine..

    ..It's not fair to put yourself under a microscope based on what you think everyone looks like..

    ..How about making your profile about your new transformation?..


    Worse comes to worst.. Hide your profile..Do what you feel you need to do and come home!

    IMO..You look great!

    Big Sunday Morning Sloppy Hug!!
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    Jun 30, 2013 12:10 PM GMT
    Welcome to the cycles of life. Sometimes you're active and fit; sometimes other responsibilities get in the way.

    Personally, I'm been as low as 162 lbs, and as high as 235 lbs. Now I'm holding steady between 170 and 175 lbs...the "happy medium" if you will. I do miss having abs, but looking at the ripped guys on here keeps me motivated rather than ashamed. It's nice to know it can still be done.
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    Jun 30, 2013 12:25 PM GMT
    Who are you?
    Why do these narcissists always do these drama filled exits? Why not just leave? It's a website, not a family dinner. Get over yourself and disappear with dignity without insecurely searching for some sort of approval.
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    Jun 30, 2013 9:53 PM GMT
    IrishDarren saidYou'll be back......they always come crawling back icon_wink.gif



    "You can check out anytime you like, but you can never leave."
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    Jun 30, 2013 10:13 PM GMT
    There is room for all here at RJ. Stay and be inspired, not ashamed.
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    Jun 30, 2013 10:15 PM GMT
    GAMRican said
    IrishDarren saidYou'll be back......they always come crawling back icon_wink.gif



    "You can check out anytime you like, but you can never leave."


    Aint that the truth!
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 30, 2013 10:29 PM GMT
    So does this mean you will now be prejudiced against guys with gym bodies?icon_confused.gif
  • Import

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    Jun 30, 2013 10:44 PM GMT
    Truly a sad day in the land of RJ.
    I will remember all of our precious times together, OP.
    All the laughs..... the memories..... the good times shared...the struggles we faced together, everything.

    I have really gotten to know you and I feel like we could end up together if you would just let it happen and stop letting your weight dictate your feelings toward me.
    I bought u that Jack Lalanne juicer to perhaps provide you with some incentive to drop the pounds, but u threw it in my face. Sometimes, when one truly loves another----that person must set them free....and let them go. . I will truly miss you

    I love you.

    Your baby,

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    Jun 30, 2013 10:48 PM GMT
    Seems like you haven't even really communicated with people from the site... so, there's no blood loss.

    Sorry love.

    Have fun doing whatever it is you choose to do.
  • heyom

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    Jun 30, 2013 10:53 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidWho are you?
    Why do these narcissists always do these drama filled exits? Why not just leave? It's a website, not a family dinner. Get over yourself and disappear with dignity without insecurely searching for some sort of approval.


    How about you get over yourself and stop reversing your self-disapproval onto others just because you dont feel good about yourself and want to drag others down to your level?
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    Jun 30, 2013 11:06 PM GMT
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    Jun 30, 2013 11:32 PM GMT
    Why not just sign-on? I mean, do we have to be all dramatic and delete your account and make a forum post about it? Good luck, though.
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    Jun 30, 2013 11:35 PM GMT
    huhwhat saidWhy not just sign-on? I mean, do we have to be all dramatic and delete your account and make a forum post about it? Good luck, though.


    because it's only proper form.
    I'm a stickler for etiquette and I appreciate the OP following protocol.

    A farewell thread means everything./
  • mybud

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    Jun 30, 2013 11:35 PM GMT
    GAMRican said
    IrishDarren saidYou'll be back......they always come crawling back icon_wink.gif



    "You can check out anytime you like, but you can never leave."
    Saw wat u dun dere...
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    Jul 01, 2013 12:30 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
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    ..
    wait what was this thread about again..
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 01, 2013 12:38 AM GMT
    Now this is sad.. over 1K of posts and I hadn't even talked to him. There was a time on RJ when 1K of posts even earned Caslon's attention.

    Good luck and certainly hope you come back.
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    Jul 01, 2013 12:41 AM GMT
    I'm not used to dramatic exit threads without vitriol. Oh, wait...
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    Jul 01, 2013 4:41 AM GMT
    mybud said
    GAMRican said
    IrishDarren saidYou'll be back......they always come crawling back icon_wink.gif



    "You can check out anytime you like, but you can never leave."
    Saw wat u dun dere...


    Es la verdad. No? icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 01, 2013 4:53 AM GMT
    Is like the Roach Motel...you can check in but you CAN'T check out...Mhuhhahahaah!!!!

    Dude, just hook up with a guy from here...totes change yer perspective.
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    Jul 01, 2013 5:09 AM GMT
    I tend to see the ripped guys as inspiration, but I get how it could be seen as intimidating. I tend to use the fora for searching nutrition and fitness questions a lot, so even if I was not actively involved on RJ, I would still use it as a resource. Also, it's nice to have a 'community' of gay / bi athletes to share experiences with and learn from.

    I think it is fine to leave parting words. Best of luck, OP. RJ will be here when / if you wish to return. I don't think it is dramatic in the least.
  • Joeyphx444

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    Jul 01, 2013 6:42 AM GMT
    Like I said b4
    True divas leave with no announcement
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    Jul 01, 2013 7:51 AM GMT
    JeffSGV saidI tend to see the ripped guys as inspiration, but I get how it could be seen as intimidating. I tend to use the fora for searching nutrition and fitness questions a lot, so even if I was not actively involved on RJ, I would still use it as a resource. Also, it's nice to have a 'community' of gay / bi athletes to share experiences with and learn from.

    I think it is fine to leave parting words. Best of luck, OP. RJ will be here when / if you wish to return. I don't think it is dramatic in the least.

    What is it about this post that is so incredibly sexy?
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    Jul 01, 2013 11:23 AM GMT
    Emo quit. Just more finessed than others.