Flakey Friends

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    Jun 30, 2013 2:49 PM GMT
    I have a lot of friends and they're good people and fun to be around, so that's not my problem. When things happen spontaneously and spur of the moment, we have a lot of fun together. But the problem is when it's necessary to make plans for something. Like we decided to drive a motorhome to the beach for the 4th of July this week. We'll be gone for 4 days so it requires a bit of planning to make it happen. One of my many conversations I've had trying to plan this thing:

    James- Fuck yeah I wanna go! Sounds like a blast! I won't be able to ride with you guys though because I have to work Tuesday night, but I can probably come Wednesday after work and spend the rest of the trip with you.

    Me- Awesome. But you say "probably." What does it depend on?

    James- It depends on if my customers expect me to do shots that night with them or not. (He's a bartender) If I've been drinking, I won't feel like driving the next morning.

    Me- Ummmm, so you don't have control over what goes in your mouth?

    James- Yes but that's just part of my job. If customers buy me shots, I'm expected to drink them.

    Me- icon_rolleyes.gif


    Every time I try and plan a trip, this is the kind of shit I run into. No one wants to commit to doing anything, but then as we're about to leave, people call up wanting to know if we're still going. Arrrgggghhh! I mean these are fucking adults. Why can't people have more control over their lives and why is it so hard to get people to commit to plans? Is it just me or do you guys have this problem too?






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    Jun 30, 2013 3:33 PM GMT
    In general, people are flakes. That's why it seems you have to check with them the day before to see if they are still going to something they commited to a week ago. "Are we still on for tomorrow?" That kind of thing.

    There must be some way we can punish them. Hmmmm. icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 30, 2013 3:38 PM GMT
    Oh yes
    even worse they get all pisy after the fact that you went and did with out them--"Fucked up man...should have called/reminded me"
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    Jun 30, 2013 3:58 PM GMT
    Being a flake is cool. It shows u are popular and have other, more important things to do.... It shows u dont care and friends are disposable...because u have like...sooo many.

    jk

    but yeah ppl tend to be flakey....committing means they are held accountable for stuff and that can be annoying and hard work.
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    Jun 30, 2013 5:05 PM GMT
    Side topic inquiry: I thought bartenders are not allowed to drink at all during the job.
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    Jun 30, 2013 5:16 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidSide topic inquiry: I thought bartenders are not allowed to drink at all during the job.

    NO, it's actually encouraged at some places; however, most bartenders will just charge the customer not actually drink it or water it down if the customer is insistent to spend their money on you.
    I used to say on the house to get the party started, when it was never really on the house, but a drink bought for me.
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    Jun 30, 2013 5:44 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx said
    Erik101 saidSide topic inquiry: I thought bartenders are not allowed to drink at all during the job.

    NO, it's actually encouraged at some places; however, most bartenders will just charge the customer not actually drink it or water it down if the customer is insistent to spend their money on you.
    I used to say on the house to get the party started, when it was never really on the house, but a drink bought for me.


    So is the trick to water down the drinks so the bartender doesn't get drunk? Also, does this only apply to standalone bars and not restaurant bars? I've never worked in the food and beverage industry so I'm learning something new here. Reason for my inquiry is because the OP's friend seems to have control over watering down his own drinks. Therefore, he'll be sober enough to drive to the beach the next day.
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    Jun 30, 2013 7:38 PM GMT
    You sound surprised that gay men have a hard time committing. icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 30, 2013 7:44 PM GMT
    Aristoshark saidMust. Restrain. Self. From. Replying.



  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 30, 2013 7:56 PM GMT
    Hmmmm let me weigh this out
    partying and having fun, maybe finding a super hot trick for the night that could turn into the love of my life
    vs.
    going camping with the bro's

    Ya ... I can probably make it ... but if I meet some hot guy, I'll take a rain check


    Now do you understand?
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    Jun 30, 2013 9:20 PM GMT
    Yeah, hate to say it. Some people put their friends into certain ranks/priorities. Sounds like Scruffy is on the low end, if his friend puts more importance in getting plastered and possibly hooking up with customers/strangers.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jun 30, 2013 9:25 PM GMT
    dude, fuck em. if he can't come than enjoy it with your other friends that are coming. i use to get upset about those things but now i just say the hell with it. if you come and if you don't oh well. life goes on.
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    Jun 30, 2013 9:28 PM GMT
    hahas im the opposite. As long as I have time in advance to make plans, They almost always go according to plan. It's the spontaneous events that I have a hard time attending unless im free
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    Jun 30, 2013 10:17 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidSide topic inquiry: I thought bartenders are not allowed to drink at all during the job.


    You've never been to New Orleans have you Sweetie?
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    Jun 30, 2013 10:19 PM GMT
    hellass saidYou sound surprised that gay men have a hard time committing. icon_razz.gif


    None of these people are gay.
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 30, 2013 10:23 PM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    hellass saidYou sound surprised that gay men have a hard time committing. icon_razz.gif


    None of these people are gay.

    Straight people have a hard time committing???icon_neutral.gif

    At any rate, sounds like a fun trip for the Fourth! Hope you have a good time, with or without the flakes!
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    Jun 30, 2013 11:06 PM GMT
    ...Be thankful that you have friends
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    Jun 30, 2013 11:12 PM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    hellass saidYou sound surprised that gay men have a hard time committing. icon_razz.gif


    None of these people are gay.


    Ha, neither are mine...getting nearly impossible to find a "straight acting" straight guy--god for bid we get mud on our 4X4's.
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    Jun 30, 2013 11:12 PM GMT
    Erik101 said
    dustin_K_tx said
    Erik101 saidSide topic inquiry: I thought bartenders are not allowed to drink at all during the job.

    NO, it's actually encouraged at some places; however, most bartenders will just charge the customer not actually drink it or water it down if the customer is insistent to spend their money on you.
    I used to say on the house to get the party started, when it was never really on the house, but a drink bought for me.


    So is the trick to water down the drinks so the bartender doesn't get drunk? Also, does this only apply to standalone bars and not restaurant bars? I've never worked in the food and beverage industry so I'm learning something new here. Reason for my inquiry is because the OP's friend seems to have control over watering down his own drinks. Therefore, he'll be sober enough to drive to the beach the next day.


    My old housemate worked in a hostess bar and the £10 "glasses of champagne" she got bought for her were ginger beer. They could never work out why they were getting drunk and she wasn't...
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    Jun 30, 2013 11:15 PM GMT
    So typical of a lot of people. I think they want to leave open their options in case something better/more fun comes along.

    Yeah, I find the same thing. A lot of times, guys won't commit to doing anything until the very last minute.
  • amirhassan

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    Jun 30, 2013 11:28 PM GMT
    fuck 'em.
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    Jun 30, 2013 11:30 PM GMT
    Yes, but it never seems to bother me. It should. But it just doesn't.
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    Jul 01, 2013 12:49 AM GMT
    wrestlervic saidIn general, people are flakes.

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  • LJay

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    Jul 01, 2013 1:14 AM GMT
    My sympathies, Scruffypup. It never ceases to amaze me that some people just do not get it. there is more than a little truth in what Import is saying as a joke.People with choices simply have no idea how rude tehy can be.

    I finally stopped planning. It just got to be too much stress to plan, buy supplies and coordinate. Sometimes it is best to just go along for the ride.
  • deep388

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    Jul 01, 2013 1:17 AM GMT
    You're definitely not alone, but I have to confess that I am one of those flakey types also.