My Suggestion on Interracial and intraracial Dating.

  • xzerox

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    Jul 02, 2013 10:57 PM GMT
    Eh... i say do it! You may end up learning more about yourself through the process.

    (my story)

    I love black men -all shades- and i love others to. However, i will be honest and say that it wasn't always that way. Initially I only dated black and dark skin latino guys due to preference. I wasn't physically attracted to white men unless he had very dark features. However, I decided one day to open myself up to the possibility of meeting a white guy who was interested in me. He was the exact opposite of a white guy that i thought i would be attracted to (lighter features). The date went good, and we're both physically attracted to each other. Though he and i never made it to a relationship. Meeting him broaden my perspective of what i was attracted to. Though i refer to his color for the purposes of this thread, I no longer see him for his color when i personally reflect on dating him. Though i haven't dated or hooked up with guys for years. Im open to more possibilities. I learned alot about men and myself in the process of dating a guy who wasnt my type racially.

    Oh and if your one of those guys who don't date guys within your race.... i say DO IT!

    Btw this is the 1st and most likely the last time i'll make a race thread. Im over race. IJS
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    Jul 02, 2013 11:06 PM GMT
    Just curious..
    When you.. "Saw him for his color"

    What did you see?
    Give some details!
  • xzerox

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    Jul 02, 2013 11:26 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidJust curious..
    When you.. "Saw him for his color"

    What did you see?
    Give some details!



    I feel like people see race before they see the person. Often race is used as a way to objectify a person and take away their sense of uniqueness. The person who objectifies the other feels in the void of a person being unique with generalizations and stereotypes. They are the ones who end up saying Im dating a "black guy" as they introduce their bf to others -throughout the relationship- instead of saying Im dating mike or Im dating a "white guy" instead of saying im dating Steve.

    I meant to say that i no longer saw him as his color, but just a regular guy named X. Race become an illusion and i saw him for who he was and not as "this white guy" im dating.
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    Jul 03, 2013 12:09 AM GMT
    Oh Wow!..
    I understand your perspective..

    I was just curious about the details of your awakening.

    I am from a large family..My extended family is blended..
    My dad is an eighth Irish.. I was actually named after an Irish uncle .

    ^ ^ ^ ^ ^
    My oldest sister was a missionary so my home was a hub for people all over the world..

    I could never grasp the concept of racism ..
    I was taught people come from all over..they are different shades based on their origin..but we are all the same !

    Thanks for sharing..thought i'd share a little bit too icon_smile.gif