Now that DOMA has been struck down do you see marriage as a part of your future?

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    Jul 03, 2013 1:49 AM GMT
    Why or why not?
    Love to hear everyone's opinions.
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Jul 03, 2013 1:50 AM GMT
    Not yet.

    I was excited for other couples that are truly happy to finally get married.
    I was very happy for each and every one of them. =]
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    Jul 03, 2013 1:50 AM GMT
    I always saw marriage as part of my future, whether or not it was recognized by the government.
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    Jul 03, 2013 1:51 AM GMT
    Yep.
  • Timbales

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    Jul 03, 2013 2:04 AM GMT
    already am, now my marriage is recognized federally
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    Jul 03, 2013 2:04 AM GMT
    It never wasn't a part of the future. I would of moved out of the country if I had to. But I'm glad now that I can get federal benefits no matter what state I live in.
  • The_Guruburu

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    Jul 03, 2013 2:06 AM GMT
    Nah, I'm not a fan of the institution, its past, or its present.
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    Jul 03, 2013 2:08 AM GMT
    It's a very good possibility. My partner and I have been together for almost 11 years and never discussed it seriously because we never really imagined it would be possible. There were only two places it could have happened for us- California or Michigan, the states where we have homes. Now California has marriage equality once again and something even more unbelievable to me, Michigan is considered one of the 11 states where there is a good chance of having marriage equality within the next three years.
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    Jul 03, 2013 2:10 AM GMT
    Not right now but anything is possible
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    Jul 03, 2013 2:16 AM GMT
    Now that DOMA has been struck down do you see marriage as a part of your future?

    midwesternman saidWhy or why not?
    Love to hear everyone's opinions.

    Yes, I hope we can get married soon in a State that accepts non-residents. Our Republican Florida likely won't for a long time, maybe not within our remaining lifetimes.

    But now that the Federal government recognizes marriage it's become more than just a symbolic gesture. And while some Federal benefits are strangely tied to a State's marriage policy (I thought the US trumped the States in matters of law and entitlement, and especially regarding Federal benefits), we'd have at least some advantages now, and maybe more later as these issues get sorted out in the months ahead.

    So yeah, we're looking forward to getting married in the future. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 03, 2013 2:28 AM GMT
    Does this new toy come with instructions?

    Some lovely words and a cut penis cake does not a marriage make.

    At the level of the psyche, we're going to have to learn how to do this. To not be bogged down by hetero/religious rules yet to find our own way.

    They've had lots of practice with a world of supporting structures yet they fuck up like half the time. We're not used to wiping a baby's ass, putting him thru school, having him wreck our family car his first night out. Paying for him to party four years after high school. This marriage comes with what?

    Does this mean that if my husband gains a 100 pounds I can't just leave him? What's so gay about that?

    What we're used to is talk about living together forever all the while knowing in the back of our heads that we've got an out. We're gay and we don't have to put up with this shit.

    There's a lot people drunk with excitement right now. But there's gonna be some sobering and some hesitation and some conversation and it's gonna take a while for us to wade into these waters and get it right. I hope we get it right. Right enough.

    Mazel Tov, every one. This is absolutely incredible.
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    Jul 03, 2013 2:41 AM GMT
    Gay marriage will not be coming to my neck of the woods anytime soon.

    That said, I do hope to one have some sort of quasi-marriage-commitment-partnership-thing some day. icon_biggrin.gif


    Step one - gotta find myself a man...

    Step two - charm the pants off him (literally)...

    Step three - convince him to move in with me...


    After that, I might start contemplating marriage icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 03, 2013 2:36 PM GMT
    midwesternman saidNow that DOMA has been struck down do you see marriage as a part of your future?

    I'm seeing multiple offers.
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    Jul 03, 2013 2:41 PM GMT
    Well, not particularly relevant to me... Canada's watershed moment happened a decade ago.

    That having been said, K and I have talked about this. We're both separated from our ex's, and thought we'd never go in for a "round 2". But we've changed our minds, and that is an open eventual possibility. icon_biggrin.gif
  • xzerox

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    Jul 03, 2013 2:51 PM GMT
    i would like to say yes, however based on my past experiences with men im not really counting on being married. I feel likes its based on luck. Eh.
  • MadeinMich

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    Jul 03, 2013 3:00 PM GMT
    ihatemyself saidin the future, maybe. marriage and love is not even close to the priorities on my list. if it happens, it happens but if it doesn't, i damn sure am not losing sleep over that. i'd be happy just making it to 40 alive in one piece with a stable career job, a car, living on my own and independent. i'll be totally happy with that. love, marriage, sex is a luxury. survival, money, and maintaining my sanity and taking care of my family, homies and my peoples is the main concern right now. all that other shit is nothing.


    +1000 This totally

    Priorities first. And I'll agree with xzerox I, think finding a husband is based on luck. Even though I'm a handsome guy my prospects aren't looking so good right now. I hang out with a lot of men over 40 (just the best chemistry) and NONE of them can keep a relationship. TBH meninlove is the ONLY relationship I know of over 20 years with no cheating. Most of the relationships I've seem barely last 15 years without someone requesting an open relationship. Essentially, I have to see the value of a gay relationship to myself before I can even consider marriage. Perhaps I should get out more.
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    Jul 03, 2013 3:03 PM GMT
    xzerox saidi would like to say yes, however based on my past experiences with men im not really counting on being married. I feel likes its based on luck. Eh.


    You're really young. People in their 20's are often not ready to settle down into a serious relationship.
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    Jul 03, 2013 3:15 PM GMT
    fux no. skank 4 lyf.
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    Jul 03, 2013 3:17 PM GMT
    Oh yes. Probably pretty soon.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 03, 2013 3:23 PM GMT
    Certainly more so than ever before. Why not? lol

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  • Hothouse

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    Jul 03, 2013 3:24 PM GMT
    Yes.
    My partner and I have been together for 15 years (16 this fall.)
    It only makes sense to get married, however, not in Ohio yet.
    It would have to be in a state that allows non-residents to marry or wait for the law to change in Ohio, and I'm not sure we'll live that long.
    We've already discussed our options.
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    Jul 03, 2013 3:26 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidMost Definitely. It's a pity we'll have to fly out of state to do it...icon_rolleyes.gif
    We'll make a vacation/honeymoon out of it, I guess.

    Fly to SF, wedding, honeymoon and a guest to attend….all this in one flight! icon_smile.gif

    Not ready to jump back into marriage. Need to date my man for a while more before making it permanent.
  • Yiscard

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    Jul 03, 2013 3:30 PM GMT
    I've never thought a paper would ever prove my feeling for a person.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 03, 2013 3:30 PM GMT
    showme saidOh yes. Probably pretty soon.


    But will you wear white? icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 03, 2013 3:31 PM GMT
    intensity69 said
    showme saidOh yes. Probably pretty soon.


    But will you where white? icon_lol.gif


    Hey, cut me some slack, it's been a long engagement. icon_mad.gificon_mad.gificon_mad.gificon_mad.gificon_mad.gif