My fear with Hooking up

  • xzerox

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    Jul 03, 2013 11:10 PM GMT
    Question... how do some of you guys hookup? I mean my body wants to hookup tonight but I cant. My mind stops me from actually doing because i feel like its dangerous in todays time. Usually my friends say, just wear a condom and you'll be good but its still really scary. Anyone know how i can get over my fear?
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    Jul 03, 2013 11:12 PM GMT
    Watch a hot porn and bust one out. That's what I do. It lacks in human contact but my forearms are impeccably strong. icon_wink.gif
  • xzerox

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    Jul 03, 2013 11:16 PM GMT
    hellass saidWatch a hot porn and bust one out. That's what I do. It lacks in human contact but my forearms are impeccably strong. icon_wink.gif



    lmao... good one. But yeah ive been on the workout plan for over a year now.
  • xzerox

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    Jul 03, 2013 11:20 PM GMT
    ihatemyself saiddon't blame you at all. i have the same problem. like i'm supposed to kiss this guy, give him head and have sex with him and i don't even know this guy? i'm not all that comfortable with trusting random strangers. i wouldn't let somebody into my house or see the contents of my cell phone like that even if they knew me like that so that's something to think about. i don't trust anybody like that so.



    i see...yeah im trying to change that. I WANT TACOS!
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    Jul 03, 2013 11:28 PM GMT
    Just trust your observations. Do a video chat and ask to see him nude so you can inspect the goods. Do online searches of his email, phone number, and do image searches for his face. What standard of living does he enjoy. How intelligent does he come across. Are his photos clean looking. Is his home clean? Is he always online hooking up or do you only see him on occasionally. Does his profile sound conscientious and health conscious, or does he come off as dirty and haphazard? Is his status blank? On visit ask to use the bathroom before sex and do a thorough check of his medicine cabinet. Go to his fridge for water and do a look through. To calm your fears gather as much information as possible. The more you know, the better you will feel.
  • Fable

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    Jul 03, 2013 11:30 PM GMT
    AtlasHarper saidJust trust your observations. Do a video chat and ask to see him nude so you can inspect the goods. Do online searches of his email, phone number, and do image searches for his face. What standard of living does he enjoy. How intelligent does he come across. Are his photos clean looking. Is his home clean? Is he always online hooking up or do you only see him on occasionally. Does his profile sound conscientious and health conscious, or does he come off as dirty and haphazard? Is his status blank? On visit ask to use the bathroom before sex and do a thorough check of his medicine cabinet. Go to his fridge for water and do a look through. To calm your fears gather as much information as possible. The more you know, the better you will feel.





    Ur crazy.
  • Webster666

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    Jul 03, 2013 11:31 PM GMT
    Educate yourself on how you can contract STDs and how you can avoid contracting STDs.

  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 03, 2013 11:33 PM GMT
    I could never just hook up with some random guy. Yes I have hooked up with guys I have met at the bar, but at least there was conversation and after spending some time with the guy, I was able to determine whether or not he turned me on. Just hooking up with some guy from some site, where you just meet to have sex is not in me. I've never gotten so horny that I just need to have sex with someone, anyone ... I would just go masturbate. I guess it is just a different mindset from my own.
  • foig

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    Jul 07, 2013 6:06 PM GMT
    spiderlini said
    AMoonHawk saidI could never just hook up with some random guy. Yes I have hooked up with guys I have met at the bar, but at least there was conversation and after spending some time with the guy, I was able to determine whether or not he turned me on. Just hooking up with some guy from some site, where you just meet to have sex is not in me. I've never gotten so horny that I just need to have sex with someone, anyone ... I would just go masturbate. I guess it is just a different mindset from my own.


    man, i think that the gay community seems to live off a fantasy compared to living with reality. there's so many bad things that can go down from a hookup from a random stranger, it ain't even worth it.



    agree. u want him bad enough to risk getting diseases? better to stick with ppl u know well and understand
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Jul 07, 2013 9:17 PM GMT
    hellass saidWatch a hot porn and bust one out. That's what I do. It lacks in human contact but my forearms are impeccably strong. icon_wink.gif


    Ha haa! This is the best advice. lol
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    Jul 18, 2013 8:44 AM GMT
    I was never the hooking up type so you're not alone in this.
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    Jul 18, 2013 1:55 PM GMT
    If you're just wanting a NSA hookup and want it to be safe, hire a GOOD male prostitute. The good ones aren't cheap, but at least you'll have comfort in knowing they'll be clean and safe, and cater to your every sexual need.

    Unfortunately that advice is illegal; but legal isn't always safe, and safe isn't always legal.
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    Jul 18, 2013 3:48 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidIf you're just wanting a NSA hookup and want it to be safe, hire a GOOD male prostitute. The good ones aren't cheap, but at least you'll have comfort in knowing they'll be clean and safe, and cater to your every sexual need.

    Unfortunately that advice is illegal; but legal isn't always safe, and safe isn't always legal.


    But how does one know that they are, in fact, "safe?"
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    Jul 18, 2013 4:09 PM GMT
    Phillips_73 said
    paulflexes saidIf you're just wanting a NSA hookup and want it to be safe, hire a GOOD male prostitute. The good ones aren't cheap, but at least you'll have comfort in knowing they'll be clean and safe, and cater to your every sexual need.

    Unfortunately that advice is illegal; but legal isn't always safe, and safe isn't always legal.


    But how does one know that they are, in fact, "safe?"


    You don't!
  • LoveAndPeace

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    Jul 19, 2013 12:58 AM GMT
    AtlasHarper saidJust trust your observations. Do a video chat and ask to see him nude so you can inspect the goods. Do online searches of his email, phone number, and do image searches for his face. What standard of living does he enjoy. How intelligent does he come across. Are his photos clean looking. Is his home clean? Is he always online hooking up or do you only see him on occasionally. Does his profile sound conscientious and health conscious, or does he come off as dirty and haphazard? Is his status blank? On visit ask to use the bathroom before sex and do a thorough check of his medicine cabinet. Go to his fridge for water and do a look through. To calm your fears gather as much information as possible. The more you know, the better you will feel.
    This is coocoo bananas..
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    Jul 19, 2013 1:12 AM GMT
    Phillips_73 said
    paulflexes saidIf you're just wanting a NSA hookup and want it to be safe, hire a GOOD male prostitute. The good ones aren't cheap, but at least you'll have comfort in knowing they'll be clean and safe, and cater to your every sexual need.

    Unfortunately that advice is illegal; but legal isn't always safe, and safe isn't always legal.


    But how does one know that they are, in fact, "safe?"
    Ok...statistically safer. That, and the fact that a prostitute is in the business of pleasing others, so if you request a condom, they're not going to run off screaming bloody murder like some of the guys on hookup apps.
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    Jul 19, 2013 2:58 AM GMT
    Hookup= increase chance of HIV infection. You can get all different type of disease through mucous membrane contacts. Hooking up is bad for your mind, body, and spirit. Everyone makes mistake but it should be a mistake, not a hobby...it's bad!
  • Apparition

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    Jul 19, 2013 3:09 AM GMT
    Um straight people figure this out about age 16.

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    Jul 19, 2013 3:11 AM GMT
    Apparition saidUm straight people figure this out about age 16.

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    But not gay people.....most gay people don't really get into "real" relationship until their early 30s.
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    Aug 03, 2013 6:15 PM GMT
    I just can't bring myself to hook up...really freaks me out to even think about it.