FOR THE AMERICAN PEOPLE

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    Nov 05, 2008 2:07 PM GMT
    Mom's going in for extensive heart surgery Friday. She's 75 and osteoporotic; has fluid in both the lungs and heart. She's innocently happy as she will be living with us afterward as I (Doug) have the skill-sets to assist in convalescence. (ever bathe your mother? I told her I may never get it up again. She laughed.) Bill was the one who suggested it. There have been a lot of tears of worry and sorrow as I have had to discuss worse case scenarios with her. Tears tears tears, then abruptly, the world changed last night with a NEW PRESIDENT!

    We can't express how this made us feel except for the following lyrics.

    God bless you America.

    "I've always come to the conclusion that 'but' is the way
    Of asking for permission to lay something heavy on ones head
    So I have tried to not be the one who 'll fall into that line
    But what I feel inside I think you should know

    And baby that's you - you - you
    Made life's his*to*ry
    Cause you've brought some joy inside my tears
    And you have done what no one thought could be
    You've brought some joy inside my tears

    I've always felt that tomorrow is for those who are too much afraid
    To go past yesterday and start for today
    I feel that lasting moments are coming far and few between
    So I should tell you of the happiness that you bring
    Baby, baby it's you - you - you
    Made life's his*to*ry
    Oh baby, you've brought some joy inside my tears
    Baby you have done what no one thought could be
    You brought some joy inside my tears
    You brought some joy inside my tears

    'Joy inside my tears' - by Stevie Wonder

  • Laurence

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    Nov 05, 2008 2:09 PM GMT
    Nicely put Doug - and good luck in looking after your mum. She's lucky to have such a loving family.

    Lozx
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    Nov 05, 2008 2:30 PM GMT


    Thank you Laurence!

    Thank you as well, to the United States, for giving the world an early Christmas present, filled with joy and hope.
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    Nov 05, 2008 3:04 PM GMT
    Good luck with the surgery. My father just recently had heart surgery as well. I know how hard it can be on them and you. He is doing much better now after another stay with me and my partner.

    Keep us up to date on the progress.
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    Nov 05, 2008 3:30 PM GMT


    Saludo creyente!

    That's impressive! We'll be trying to do as you've done!


    luego, us

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    Nov 05, 2008 4:02 PM GMT
    meninlove
    I will pray for you, your mom and her surgery. I have bathed and taken care of my mom. She is gone now but I have no regrets. We were very close and I would do it all again in a heartbeat. I truly wish your mom well and a long life with her two very good hearted sons.
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    Nov 05, 2008 4:27 PM GMT


    Gosh thanks GeorgeE!

    Can't tell you how nice to know others like yourself have gone though this and appreciate a gay couple's point of view; while we're pretty confident about the whole thing, we're a bit unsure about how this might affect our interconnectedness on a day to day basis.

    Pleased to meet you, by the way!

    -Doug of meninlove
    (Bill says 'HI!' from work)
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    Nov 05, 2008 4:29 PM GMT
    You guys are my heroes.
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    Nov 05, 2008 4:45 PM GMT


    Thanks for the verbal 'kiss'
    . ( kissing pro indeed!)
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    Nov 05, 2008 5:01 PM GMT
    It appears that this has turned out to be a good day for a lot of people in the world, dancing in Kenya, hoola in Japan, hopeful thoughts coming from Liberia and many other countries.

    I am happy to hear that it made a happy moment for your mom and you in this difficult time for her and you. But, I am sure that with your sweetness, you will be the best caregiver and you can put her to sleep at night with a bedtime story, sort of a nice time for payback I bet.icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 05, 2008 5:08 PM GMT
    Bill & Doug,
    My prayers are with you both as you endure the hours of concern for your mother. May she come through this with years of laughter and love left within her and may you have the strength and courage to get through this.
    I admire your love, your courage and your compassion. Be at peace.

    Always,
    Luke
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    Nov 05, 2008 5:12 PM GMT
    Keeping you both in my prayers and my thoughts.
    -Adam
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    Nov 05, 2008 5:14 PM GMT
    Just another loving, traditional, gay family.

    Much love to you all.
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    Nov 05, 2008 5:21 PM GMT

    *reads all the above and cries*
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    Nov 05, 2008 5:53 PM GMT


    OK, fine now. You guys!

    Just went to the store and brought back today's Province paper.

    On the cover - full page colour photo of President Obama
    smiling in his inclusive way (how does he do that?) and below in gigantic font,

    "HISTORIC!"

    Bill, Mom and I will be re-reading this issue for some time.
    Everyone at the store kept saying, staff and customers alike,
    how proud they are of "Our American cousins!" - one of my favourite expressions!
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    Nov 05, 2008 5:56 PM GMT
    CONGRATULLATIONS TO ALL OF YOU AMERICANS!! AGAIN AND AGAIN

    HUGE HUG FROM ARGENTINA!

    THANKS FOR THIS PRESENT!
  • Thirdbeach

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    Nov 05, 2008 6:00 PM GMT
    Hope your Mother's surgery goes well.

    A positive attitude about life will help her and you two get through things.

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    Nov 05, 2008 8:20 PM GMT
    yes Doug
    I hope your Mom's surgery goes well. Is it in Vancouver @ the Heart Centre, St. Paul's Hospital? Hope so.

    Excellent heart surgeons there. Anson Cheung-he's great, Hilton Ling (I think he's the best heart surgeon St. Paul's has. Sam Lichtenstein-awesome individual and Dr. Jim Abel really good as well. The Nursing staff are excellent.
    Despite the risks involved I am glad your Mom is having the surgery.

    Warren
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    Nov 05, 2008 10:25 PM GMT
    I can definitely tell all of you "outlanders" that one of the great joys of the outcome of this election (for me anyway) is seeing the absolute joy it is bringing to the rest of the world. To have someone leading the U.S. who is articulate, intelligent, and has some kind of a WORLD view ("Country First"? What was up with that? How about, "Humanity first"?) as opposed to someone whose reaction the the rest of the planet is informed only by belligerence and suspicion can only make ALL our lives better. That crowd out in Grant Park last night certainly looked like the America I live in. I live in Manhattan and can tell you that the entire city today was walking around with a goofy grin. Schoolkids on their way to the 2 high schools near our home were utterly exuberant this morning. Strangers couldn't help sharing their joy with one another on line at the market. We aren't kidding ourselves - we've got a deep, deep hole to dig ourselves out of (and W still has a couple months to cement his "legacy"). But for the first time in WAY too long, it feels like we might actually be back on something resembling the right track. And with the losses we suffered nationwide surrounding the Gay Marriage issue - well, the more folks get to know guys like the Men In Love and what an astounding and loving people we are capable of being (and, at our best, are), the sooner we're going to arrive at the day when the message of diversity and inclusiveness that was so dramatically vindicated last night is going to include us as well. The world is often a truly ugly place and it's up to all of us, through our actions, to light a candle in the darkness. Hope this election can be a whole new beginning for us all.
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    Nov 05, 2008 10:41 PM GMT
    well said Steven.
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    Nov 05, 2008 10:52 PM GMT
    I think Steven would be a good candidate for that next election icon_wink.gif

    Last time you guys elected Bush I was shocked, and I remember thinking that Americans should not be allowed to vote for the American President. The rest of the world should do it.

    But this time you guys done good icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 05, 2008 11:19 PM GMT
    I agree, Stephen. I watched the results last night up on 103rd and Riverside, and on the way home the station there - and the trains - were filled with young people in a state of joy, and others of us feeling pretty good, too. Stopped in at Duane Reade and can report that it was the first time I got the impression that the late night clerks didn't hate their jobs!

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    Nov 06, 2008 1:17 AM GMT

    Hey guys, we're back from consultation 1 with Internal Medicine. Tomorrow is risk assessment (day before surgery)

    Hi fogos! Thanks for the inside track on St Paul's - formidable team of specialists there! They've scheduled her at RCH in the new cardiac facility. Both our and Bill's family were worried about what would happen after-wards (yeah they all know each other- now. heh) but Bill has so smoothly and surely stepped up to the plate and using me as the bat, hit a home run with everyone involved. He thought of me before my brain could articulate the thought.

    ..And Thirdbeach, we vow things will be upbeat, after all Mom's staying with Polly-Anna and Mary Poppins cousins,
    'Petey- Attitudinal' (me) and 'Melvin Pushover', (Bill) . Happy with attitude. grrr. heh!



    Great points, steven p - you could submit an article, writing like that! But we don't know about mentioning usicon_redface.gif. Our scruffy faces are a little camera shy!

    Nov 4 2008, President Barak Hussein Obama

    - pretty well The Day The Earth Stood Still (movie - look it up - great message)

    -us

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    Nov 06, 2008 1:56 AM GMT
    Bill and Doug,
    My thoughts are with you and I hope for you an uneventful surgery. Having so much love in one home is amazingly powerful. I'm sure she will do well and you both will be thankful for your family.
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    Nov 06, 2008 3:11 AM GMT
    Doug-all the best with Mom at the Royal Columbian. I am certain they will do their absolute best.
    yeah the election result was just what the world needed to see. let's get to work eh.