how to end/slow down fuck buddy relationship in civil way

  • Piers40

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    Jul 04, 2013 12:52 PM GMT
    so you've been messing around with someone for a few weeks. The guy is lovely, kind, considerate, and sweet, and obviously very into you - at least sexually. Also likes to meet often. The sex was great to begin with, but your interest waned after a few meetings, now its starting to feel a bit of a chore.

    You've been careful that he doesn't pick up on your lack of passion. How do you manage expectations? The guy is potentially a great friend, but you dont want to rule out further hooking up, but at the same time, the regular occurrence of it with him doesn't excite you much anymore?

    (oh and you also work in the same place :S)
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    Jul 04, 2013 2:05 PM GMT
    Your description of this guy seems wholesome..
    Your description of you is nonexistent..

    OP not enough info..
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    Jul 04, 2013 2:10 PM GMT
    Nut up and tell him that you need slow down.
  • Rhi_Bran

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    Jul 04, 2013 2:20 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidOh, my... so you dipped your pen in the company ink.
    That's rarely a good idea. Looks like you're going to need a lot of tack for this one.


    The word you're looking for is "tact". I don't think you'd want to use a bunch of tacks on the guy icon_lol.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 04, 2013 2:58 PM GMT
    You tell him it would be fun to do a three way with another guy. If he goes for it, then you leave him for the new guy, if he doesn't, then you tell him you want to start seeing other guys.
    Win-Win icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
  • xzerox

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    Jul 04, 2013 3:03 PM GMT
    Just tell him you no longer want a fuckbuddy. Dont tell him you want to see others, just do it.
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    Jul 04, 2013 3:10 PM GMT
    Rule number 1: Don't fish off of the company pier.
    Rule number 2: Hook ups (one nighters) are best when done only once. More than once and you're seeing first hand what the result is. You just have to get out of it with some finesse. Let him know you see others, and you're not ready to settle down with any one person right now.
  • Piers40

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    Jul 04, 2013 4:20 PM GMT
    He's seeing other guys, which is totally cool. But I just sometimes sense he wants more. There's no way I can formally end it, cos its not a relationship, but at the same time he's a friend. I guess the logical way to do it, is to not make arrangements with him for a while. And if it happens again, it happens.

    About me: I'm confident but pretty inexperienced with fuck buddies. I live in a town where were really dont have many gay guys, we dont work together all the time, different department. We can both be grown up about it and no weirdness, we made that a deal breaker at the beginning.
  • allatonce

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    Jul 04, 2013 8:29 PM GMT
    Send a company memo addressed "to any of the guys I may currently be sleeping with at this establishment". That way, it won't seem so personal but he will still get the message.
  • monstapex

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    Jul 05, 2013 1:05 AM GMT
    play this song for him then leave

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    Jul 05, 2013 1:11 AM GMT
    Old saying and hate to say it but :-

    Business and pleasure don't mix well
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 05, 2013 1:19 AM GMT
    Too late. You're gonna have to do the responsible thing and marry him now.
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    Jul 05, 2013 1:26 AM GMT
    SEEEEELUTTT!!
  • The_Guruburu

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    Jul 05, 2013 1:29 AM GMT
    allatonce saidSend a company memo addressed "to any of the guys I may currently be sleeping with at this establishment". That way, it won't seem so personal but he will still get the message.

    Best piece of advice yet.
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 05, 2013 1:34 AM GMT
    The_Guruburu said
    allatonce saidSend a company memo addressed "to any of the guys I may currently be sleeping with at this establishment". That way, it won't seem so personal but he will still get the message.

    Best piece of advice yet.

    Shouldn't it be "anyone," instead if "any of the guys"? Sexism in the workplace cannot be tolerated.
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 05, 2013 1:35 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    HottJoe saidToo late. You're gonna have to do the responsible thing and marry him now.

    Can you imagine if this was a girl at his job and she came to him and said.. I'm pregnant and you the baby-daddy!
    Time to put a ring on it!

    Then quit...

    If it happened on the clock, then the company should pay for the paternity test. It's only fair.
  • The_Guruburu

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    Jul 05, 2013 1:37 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    The_Guruburu said
    allatonce saidSend a company memo addressed "to any of the guys I may currently be sleeping with at this establishment". That way, it won't seem so personal but he will still get the message.

    Best piece of advice yet.

    Shouldn't it be "anyone," instead if "any of the guys"? Sexism in the workplace cannot be tolerated.

    That's a serious oversight on my part. Thanks for catching it.
  • bigtits

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    Jul 05, 2013 3:39 AM GMT
    monstapex saidplay this song for him then leave



    wow that .song is beuatiful>great artist but i 've never heard of her.
  • Apparition

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    Jul 05, 2013 6:11 AM GMT
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    send him increasingly bizarre sex toy links, asking him if he is willing ...
  • Apparition

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    Jul 05, 2013 6:11 AM GMT
    binder_sack.jpg

    send him increasingly bizarre sex toy links, asking him if he is willing ...