How often do you guys see the person you're dating?

  • fLiP21

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    Jul 05, 2013 12:06 AM GMT
    The reason I'm asking is that I see some of my friends who have a significant other or are dating someone, together all the time, and I feel a little out of line. The guy I'm seeing is much older than I am, well into his career, while I am only in college. The thing is I only see him about once every week and a half to two weeks because he's busy with work. Sometimes I feel like he's just playing me because I get impatient not seeing him more often, only to realize again that he does work full time most of the week. Have any of you guys experienced this? Is it normal to be seeing someone you're dating at least once a week? There's more than a 20 yr. age gap.

    Thanks for your input!
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    Jul 05, 2013 12:56 AM GMT
    For your level of hotness, no, that's not normal.
    But it depends on many things.
    For instance, do you make out in a car once a week or
    does he invite you to his home every Friday night?
  • fLiP21

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    Jul 06, 2013 7:56 PM GMT
    well when he has time I usually spend the night over, usually after seeing a movie or just hanging out together. It's always been on a weekend and never on a weekday.
  • nomad4life

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    Jul 06, 2013 8:25 PM GMT
    The guy I'm seeing now and I only see each other on the weekends, and I find myself staying over at his house every night then.

    And my ex before that was also older, a teacher (different school) so we saw each other only on the weekends as well. It's not unnatural, granted situations do vary.
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    Jul 06, 2013 9:09 PM GMT
    Way too much time, in fact, I just sent LingLang back to his home country so I could get a much needed break and he could work on his Asian cooking skills.
    Plus I'm banging the maid.
  • great_scott

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    Jul 06, 2013 9:21 PM GMT
    Usually 2 weekends a month. It's because of distance though.

    He could be playing you, but I wouldn't assume that from this alone. 20+ years is a big age gap, and you guys probably will have very different ways of doing things. IME older guys are generally less needy than younger guys, so it could just be that.
  • fLiP21

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    Jul 08, 2013 11:59 PM GMT
    great_scott saidUsually 2 weekends a month. It's because of distance though.

    He could be playing you, but I wouldn't assume that from this alone. 20+ years is a big age gap, and you guys probably will have very different ways of doing things. IME older guys are generally less needy than younger guys, so it could just be that.



    How did you guys manage seeing each other only 2 weekends a month? Did you guys text or talk regularly every day? I start to feel insecure and impatient when I don't see him more often. Maybe that's just because of personal issues or my inexperience possibly? The guy I'm seeing is a genuine guy, and even told me recently he's not seeing anyone else but me, so I would feel like crap if I stopped seeing him just because I was impatient.
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Jul 09, 2013 12:07 AM GMT
    fLiP21 saidThe reason I'm asking is that I see some of my friends who have a significant other or are dating someone, together all the time, and I feel a little out of line. The guy I'm seeing is much older than I am, well into his career, while I am only in college. The thing is I only see him about once every week and a half to two weeks because he's busy with work. Sometimes I feel like he's just playing me because I get impatient not seeing him more often, only to realize again that he does work full time most of the week. Have any of you guys experienced this? Is it normal to be seeing someone you're dating at least once a week? There's more than a 20 yr. age gap.

    Thanks for your input!


    It's normal buddy. =]
    Be grateful he hasn't pulled the "It's not our time, we're too busy to be together" card on you.
    From what I'm reading, it's looking great, don't get impatient. =]
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    Jul 09, 2013 12:09 AM GMT
    Well it depends on how long you've been dating, the longer you've been dating the more often you should be seeing each other. However, there are busy weeks in every business but in such case I guess there shouldn't be a problem on spending a sunday afternoon in bed.
    G'luck!
  • WApilot

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    Jul 11, 2013 3:27 PM GMT
    My boyfriend and I have a 13 year age difference. I'm about to head off to college again to finish school and he has a full-time career. We see each other every weekend. Usually stay over his house. Sometimes we'll see each other during the week. But, we talk on the phone everyday. We text each other every morning with a "good morning" message and at night before we go to bed, we'll talk to each other. We don't talk for hours, just a quick five minute conversation.

    In perspective, if your boyfriend is busy due to work, then that's just something you're gonna have to deal with. Talk to him about it. Tell him you want to get closer in the relationship and that you would love to see him more. If your relationship is good, then this shouldn't be an issue to him and he should welcome the idea. Also, ask yourself this question, when you feel like you're being played. When you do see each other, how's your interaction with one another? Is it just sex? do you two talk... not just when you're together, but when you're not together? because of the age difference does he talk down to you or treat you as if you're a child?

    If these answers are suitable with you, then he's a keeper. Just talk to him about what you want, which is more time with him.
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    Jul 11, 2013 3:34 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]Alpha13 said[/cite]
    fLiP21 saidThe reason I'm asking is that I see some of my friends who have a significant other or are dating someone, together all the time, and I feel a little out of line. The guy I'm seeing is much older than I am, well into his career, while I am only in college. The thing is I only see him about once every week and a half to two weeks because he's busy with work. Sometimes I feel like he's just playing me because I get impatient not seeing him more often, only to realize again that he does work full time most of the week. Have any of you guys experienced this? Is it normal to be seeing someone you're dating at least once a week? There's more than a 20 yr. age gap.

    Thanks for your input!



    When I am seeing more than one guy it's at the frequency you describe because it gets tuff to schedule. We will fuck 3 or 4 times. When I am dating one guy we go out all weekend and a couple times during the week.
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    Jul 18, 2013 1:58 AM GMT
    The ago gap isn't the issue it seems. We all have busy lives but if you're dating someone and you really like them, you will certainly make time for that person. At least this is what I usually do when I feel I am neglecting the person I'm dating. It would be different if you make time and the other person shows no interest or doesn't show the same effort in accommodating...this would be a problem.
  • Apparition

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    Jul 19, 2013 3:17 AM GMT
    Weekends i stay at his house, tuesday for dinner and a movie. Phone every night weekdays, even if it is just silence while surfing the internet. And just listening to background noises.
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    Jul 19, 2013 4:24 AM GMT
    I was seeing a guy semi regularly for two weeks and he's made a complete one 180...

    :/
  • The_Guruburu

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    Jul 19, 2013 4:32 AM GMT
    Why not find someone who's also needy, too? Then you won't feel like you're being played.
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    Jul 25, 2013 7:00 PM GMT
    Apparition saidWeekends i stay at his house, tuesday for dinner and a movie. Phone every night weekdays, even if it is just silence while surfing the internet. And just listening to background noises.


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  • Suetonius

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    Jul 25, 2013 7:34 PM GMT
    fLiP21 said well into his career, while I am only in college.

    The thing is I only see him about once every week and a half to two weeks because he's busy with work.

    Is there a distance issue? (Are you both in the Palm Beach area or not?). Does he travel a lot on business?

    Guys who have demanding career jobs don't have a lot of free time. But even if he doesn't have a lot of free time, unless he is going out of town, couldn't you arrange to sleep at his house more often - even if it's only arriving in the evening and leaving for school in the morning? (If you are far enough along in this dating ritual that he wants to at least sleep with you often.)

    Also, imagine, if he is deeply involved in his career, without much free time, even if you lived together, he might still not have much time for interacting. You might end up with the life of the corporate wife - the one who stays at home and raises the kids (dogs?) and sees her husband every two weeks.