Does sex get boring with the same person?

  • Philip101

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    Jul 05, 2013 8:02 AM GMT
    For those who have been in a monogomous relationship (over 1 year), can I ask you if the sex became boring?

    Grateful for your thoughts.
  • TheBizMan

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    Jul 05, 2013 8:03 AM GMT
    I could only imagine.

  • HottJoe

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    Jul 05, 2013 8:07 AM GMT
    No, not for me. It's gets better. Intimacy breaks down barriers.
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Jul 05, 2013 8:07 AM GMT
    The only boring sex I've ever had was with an Asian Virgin.
    They do not know what the fuck they're doing.

    Other than that, nah sex has never been boring while in a relationship. Might tone it down from 4-5 times a day, to once a day, then to like...a couple of days a week.
    I don't think 'cause it gets boring, I would rather go out, have a nice dinner, hike, sight see rather than have sex every night.

    And if you wait a couple of days the orgasm fucking amazing.
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    Jul 05, 2013 12:46 PM GMT
    It only can become boring when both parties are close minded to trying new things to keep it spicy.
  • drypin

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    Jul 05, 2013 1:14 PM GMT
    My husband and I have been together since 1995. We seldom fuck more than once a week anymore. It's never boring. Not in the sense of 'I'll just wait this out and put my grocery list together in my head'. However, sometimes we do break if off because one or both of us just 'isn't that into it' at the time. Mostly, though, it's fantastic. We know how to 'play' each other's bodies. And the giving of physical pleasure to the other is at least as meaningful as getting it. We also know what turns the other off and we can avoid it.

    Having said that, there have been times during our relationship when we decided to open it. This was never an 'easy' decision and always involved a lot of checking in to make sure neither party was losing confidence. The few times we did so, we were lucky (I guess, at least when I read what some others here have written in other forum topics) in that it enriched our own togetherness and kept us from taking the other for granted.

    To be fair, there were also long stretches when we became practically nonsexual. Months went by when the thought of having sex hardly entered our minds. Naturally, these periods were not 100% matchups, so one of us got reacquainted with his hand while the other got through whatever was lowering his libido (work stress, life changes, etc.)

    Throughout all of these different phases, touching, kissing, hugging, cuddling, spooning, etc. in very large doses have been present in our relationship and have partly replaced the need to get off. I can go a few weeks without climaxing. A couple of days without touching makes me jittery and an unpleasant person.
  • tjmwdm1

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    Jul 05, 2013 1:23 PM GMT
    My partner and I have been together for 3 years and I would say the sex has become anything but boring. We still have sex 5-6 times a week and it's amazing. The connection we have allows the sex to be more passionate and fun. We know exactly what the other person likes and how to please each other.
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    Jul 05, 2013 1:30 PM GMT
    If you're in love with that person I don't think so...but in any case there are lots of ways to improve your sex life!
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    Jul 05, 2013 1:57 PM GMT
    I've been with the same person for 17 years. The sex is great. Having said that things are not the same as in the first year. If you expect the experiences to stay the same, then you're missing out on other elements.

    We can try new things that I would never trust anyone else trying. The mental connection that exists with a history together.

    Sex is not always mindblowing. That was even true in my "hook-up days." Sometimes it's just there.

    Try new experiences with each other. Remember that a long term relationship is a meeting sharing and loving of the minds and not just the dicks.
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    Jul 05, 2013 2:01 PM GMT
    sex can get boring, if you let it get boring - but it doesn't have to be that way. talk to your bf about turn ons, fantasies, things you can do to spice it up. chances are, there is a reason it's become boring, which probably has nothing to do with sex, so opening up communication will help you get to the bottom of things.

    (another thing i'd say to the original poster in the thread is, if you'd rather masturbate then have sex with your bf, that's a big clue something's wrong... by choosing intimacy with yourself over intimacy with him...)
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    Jul 05, 2013 2:16 PM GMT
    scholargrowingmuscle saidI've been with the same person for 17 years. The sex is great. Having said that things are not the same as in the first year. If you expect the experiences to stay the same, then you're missing out on other elements.

    We can try new things that I would never trust anyone else trying. The mental connection that exists with a history together.



    Approaching 24 years soon. What you said here, yes.
    We're pretty romantic guys, and we still court each other and cruise each other in public, which can be pretty funny when around strangers. We follow a natural rhythm between us and sex is the culmination of all that flirting and carrying on, lol. Sometimes we have a lot of sex, sometimes none at all for a period of time.

    There's also our chocolate cake theory. If you had chocolate cake three times a day, I suspect pie would start looking pretty good. icon_wink.gif

    PS here's something that happened at about year 11. We rented a waterfront cottage on Mayne Island. Took our kayaks, and everything we needed for a romantic and sexy week. The first day was wild. The second day was great, the third day was kickin', the fourth day was Crazy Guys Have Kitchen Sex.
    Day 5 , we woke up, looked at each other, started necking and in the middle of it I asked Bill what he'd like to do and he said, "What do you want to do?"
    We grinned and both said, "KAYAKING!" So we did.

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  • Timbales

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    Jul 05, 2013 3:23 PM GMT
    in my opinion, boring people get bored
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    Jul 05, 2013 5:40 PM GMT
    Timbales saidin my opinion, boring people get bored


    Thats been my experience.
  • TDSmoove

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    Jul 05, 2013 5:51 PM GMT
    It can if things become predicable. My last relationship was for 8 years and between work,family, and stress we fell into a rut for a while. But at the same time there were so many other things we enjoyed doing with one another that sometimes there was no time for sex. And quickies are sumthin we jus could not do. There's always a way to kep things fresh tho, jus have to put in a lil effort.
  • sloughwest

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    Jul 05, 2013 6:01 PM GMT
    There's always knitting or embroidery.....

    After 20 years in an open relationship, even that gets boring!

    The cuddles and love and thinking I want to go home and see the other half is what counts.

    If you close your eyes and try to really imagine that other person wasn't going to be home when you get there ever again, becomes what you want then you need to talk and check that times not up, if however you start to feel sad at the thought then go home and cuddle cause you're still in love and regardless of the sex you are in the right place. Sex you can get anywhere (with or without the others permission... and they will too) ... love is for life .

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    Jul 05, 2013 6:31 PM GMT
    The truth is that sex does go out the window, you do not have the same desire you once had for that person BUT it develops into so much more than just sex. You actually care for the person and you can't imagine your life without them. It becomes something more meaningful and longer lasting than sex ever could be but again the reality is that the sexual va va voom does dwindle. (unless your with an incredibly inventive guy in the bedroom who is able to reach porn star levels of range sexually).

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    Jul 05, 2013 7:02 PM GMT
    Do you get bored of masturbating?

    I have been masturbating for over 10 years now and I am just as into it as I ever was.

    I switch porn around from time to time, but I always stick to my favourites icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 05, 2013 7:15 PM GMT
    I do believe when you have that interlock between the two and it get so special..Boring is not even the question.

    Is like you ignite for a reason..a force..that vibe. not just a 24/7 thing, or a everyday thing to achieve what?

    If you are talking about something like in numbers games, you could fairly see the word Boring.

    In my opinion Nope! , unless either one is the boring one or shall I say to be question.

    To me Sex is something to be regard as Expensive (personally that's how I treat it/or see it) and it goes a long way with that same person, as it speak very much of that bond between the two.
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    Jul 06, 2013 12:34 AM GMT
    If the sex gets boring, then you're doing it wrong. Both of you.

    Sex with your partner may be like eating steak every night, but it's your own fault if you're microwaving that beautiful piece of meat.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jul 06, 2013 12:43 AM GMT
    yes it does especially if that is all you have in common.
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    Jul 06, 2013 12:50 AM GMT
    ive been in 2 relationships that were long term, one was 2 years, the other 2.5....I never got bored. It's a case by case situation for everyone I guess. Sad when people lose attraction or interest in the one they're with.
  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Jul 06, 2013 1:00 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    scholargrowingmuscle saidI've been with the same person for 17 years. The sex is great. Having said that things are not the same as in the first year. If you expect the experiences to stay the same, then you're missing out on other elements.

    We can try new things that I would never trust anyone else trying. The mental connection that exists with a history together.



    Approaching 24 years soon. What you said here, yes.
    We're pretty romantic guys, and we still court each other and cruise each other in public, which can be pretty funny when around strangers. We follow a natural rhythm between us and sex is the culmination of all that flirting and carrying on, lol. Sometimes we have a lot of sex, sometimes none at all for a period of time.

    There's also our chocolate cake theory. If you had chocolate cake three times a day, I suspect pie would start looking pretty good. icon_wink.gif

    PS here's something that happened at about year 11. We rented a waterfront cottage on Mayne Island. Took our kayaks, and everything we needed for a romantic and sexy week. The first day was wild. The second day was great, the third day was kickin', the fourth day was Crazy Guys Have Kitchen Sex.
    Day 5 , we woke up, looked at each other, started necking and in the middle of it I asked Bill what he'd like to do and he said, "What do you want to do?"
    We grinned and both said, "KAYAKING!" So we did.

    icon_lol.gif


    Love your analogy! too bad the young generation of today don't know that romance as foreplay, can enhance the mood to better sex!
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    Jul 06, 2013 1:34 AM GMT
    CuriousOne saidIt only can become boring when both parties are close minded to trying new things to keep it spicy.


    I know...you have to spice things up and keep it spontaneous.

    A lot of times you see guys out at the bar passionately making out or in the bathroom together, they just met that night. We need more couples doing that. Jerk each other off at the movie theater on a Monday night. Don't just have sex in the same old bed every night. And also, if you're having sex with a guy who stops taking care of himself in the athletic department and gets fat or out of shape on you...is that an issue? People stop working out and taking care of themselves once they get into a relationship sometimes.

    It's also why I like versatile guys. I'm more of a top myself, but you know every once in awhile...ya know?

  • BillandChuck

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    Jul 06, 2013 1:37 AM GMT
    Without descending to vulgar detail, we will simply say that it's been decades, and we're highly sexually active, only with each other, and our high level of activity is borne of attraction, not addiction (except addiction to each other).
  • ThatSwimmerGu...

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    Jul 07, 2013 7:40 PM GMT
    If it gets boring then you're doing it wrong.