Would you have even bothered telling this person off?

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    Jul 05, 2013 9:20 PM GMT
    So I had this guy hit me up on Jack'd the fuck up earlier this week. I had deleted the damn app and put it back up, my mistake. So all week long he's messaging me and texting me, responding back right away. Saying suggestive things to signal he's into me. He's telling me he wants to meet later in the week out after the fireworks with 'friends'. He's texting me like he's going to be so into me, right?

    Well I get there, he's there sitting down with 1 guy. Then he's telling me it's his 'friend-date'. And I'm just like OKaaay. You didn't tell me this when you were all enthused about meeting up with me. And then he's acting totally nonchalant and disinterested. Just laying slouched over in the chair barely saying a word. After a couple minutes or so, I just got up and left.

    The only reason I didn't really tell the guy off and make him look like shit in front of his 'friend-date' is because #1 the guy was only 20. Normally, I never even bother meeting someone under 23 to begin with, much less 21. So I'm like, this is just a kid playing games. But, he came up to me later that night and I said, "why would you even have me come out here if you're with a date". He's like, "he's not my date". I'm like, you just said he was earlier!

    I really wanted to put this lil git in his place. I mean I get it that he's a kid and all...but if he's bold enough to mix with adults, then he's old enough to get treated like one.
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    Jul 06, 2013 1:26 AM GMT
    He was actually visiting from out of state, but that didn't make it any better. I wasn't going to even give him the satisfaction of a scene because I wasn't going to have him believe I was that interested to begin with. It's like why would you have me come here, and you're here already 1 on 1 with another guy, not "friends' like he said. He went from calling it friends, to a date, to not his date in 3 hours.

    But there's only so many more times I can keep just letting people off the hook. I just haven't mastered how to do it without calling attention to security and thus ruining my night. Of course, I always end up meeting someone better later on anyway, which is exactly what happened. So it would have been a waste of energy for someone I just met, and wasn't even worth it.
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    Jul 06, 2013 2:02 AM GMT
    Do not bother with people like this. They are not worth it. Be the better man, and walk away.
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    Jul 06, 2013 2:16 AM GMT
    I must be exhausting being you - angry all the time.
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    Jul 06, 2013 2:22 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidI must be exhausting being you - angry all the time.

    I'm not mad or angry...that's how you perceive it. Now, don't come in here trying to start a fight. I'm not here for that.
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    Jul 06, 2013 2:45 AM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 said
    UndercoverMan saidI must be exhausting being you - angry all the time.

    I'm not mad or angry...that's how you perceive it. Now, don't come in here trying to start a fight. I'm not here for that.


    Awwwww, but I'm bored. My BF is out of town and it's too early to hit the bars and now you won't play with me. I might was well just go to bed early.

    P.S. I think you handled the situation quite well - like an adult should - you got up and left and when he questioned you as to why you politely told him why No angry scene. No argument. No drama.

    You did teach him a lesson: how an adult behaves.
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    Jul 06, 2013 3:43 AM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 said
    I really wanted to put this lil git in his place.


    What's a "git?"
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    Jul 06, 2013 3:49 AM GMT
    Git (noun)
    1. A completely ignorant, childish person with no manners.
    2. A person who feels justified in their callow behaviour.
    3. A pubescent kid who thinks it's totally cool to act like a moron on the internet, only because no one can actually reach through the screen and punch their lights out.
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    Jul 06, 2013 3:58 AM GMT
    no... They are not worth my efforts to do so.
  • TroyAthlete

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    Jul 06, 2013 4:00 AM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 said
    I really wanted to put this lil git in his place. I mean I get it that he's a kid and all...but if he's bold enough to mix with adults, then he's old enough to get treated like one.


    Do you ever have a date or potential date go well? No judgment, just curious.
  • mybud

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    Jul 06, 2013 4:33 AM GMT
    He took his friend on the date so if ya ended up lookin like Godzilla he had an out...Your mistake?...staying after that friend date crap explanation when you walked up to the table.
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    Jul 06, 2013 9:22 AM GMT
    TroyAthlete said
    Do you ever have a date or potential date go well? No judgment, just curious.

    Yeah, but I don't talk about em all the time. Jinx and all that kind of stuff ya know. Plus, alot of times I'll talk about how wonderful things went, only for 2 weeks later be posting about the bullshit on here. Like the guy I went on 2 dates with, he let me drive his Lex, introduced me to his friends, took me to dinner, yadda yadda...but it didn't work out. All men are Jekyll/Hyde until proven otherwise.

    mybud saidHe took his friend on the date so if ya ended up lookin like Godzilla he had an out...Your mistake?...staying after that friend date crap explanation when you walked up to the table.

    Well you're right, when he texted me that (I was in the club already), I should have been like, "no thanks, that's some bullshit." I don't think it had anything to do with my looks though. I was the same person on the picture. Plus, couple hours later he came back up to me again, trying to see how I'm doing. Umm, not you...but this other guy actually has a brain. And he wants to go home with me.

    Anyway, it's no big deal. I was just seeing how others would have handled such an asinine scenario.