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    Jul 06, 2013 9:43 AM GMT
    I found this on yahoo answers and I think it is the most realistic and positive statement that is going to get me through this life.

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    Is being gay a lonely life?
    Do most gay people never find love? Is it harder for them to find love then straights?
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    Yup kid, It's a lonely road. I hate to admit, but you have to have thick skin. you're heart must be used to rejection and disappointment. It's harder to find love not in a way that gay's are scarce but the overwhelming majority are into, you know, worldly things like sex and vanity. for sure somewhere along the road you will find happiness and contentment and if you're lucky within gay community.
    but my advise, if you're really into it, immerse yourself in the gay community, you might find a golden nugget. and when you do, it's gonna be well worth it. of course you can do other things while you're waiting for the right man, 1. go to the gym 2. take care of your face. 3. have a decent job 4. have hobbies and when you accomplish these things you'll be supprised you will find not just one but many guys who want to be with you. Good luck.
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    http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20130417083436AA2G3Kw

    I am going to listen to this guy.
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    Jul 06, 2013 6:24 PM GMT
    I don't find being gay a lonely road. I have plenty of friends, and I don't live in a gay neighborhood. I just have friends like people do, and I live just about the same way the straight world does, except for one cool thing - I get to sleep with guys!

    Your life is what you make it. If you choose to believe that your life will be lonely, guess what? It will be.

    I agree with the last part about getting out there and just living your life. Take care of yourself, get educated, get a good job, and some personal interests outside of just being gay, and you'll find that other guys are attracted to your initiative and independence. If you let them, things tend to fall into place. Just stay out of your own way by keeping your chin up and going for what you want. Don't doubt that you can get what you want out of life - see it, believe it, and act on it.
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    Jul 06, 2013 7:40 PM GMT
    I think this answer applies to not just gays, but people of all sexual preferences. When I see people complain about gay communities, I see a lot of things that they complain about in groups of lesbians, heterosexuals, etc. as well. It's not just my gay friends who complain about how difficult it is to find the right guys, to find the right group of people who aren't judgemental and superficial. My straight friends complain about the same thing: how tough it is to find a girl who is genuine and empathetic; how impossible it is to find a guy who wouldn't mind having a girlfriend that doesn't look like a model; how tough it is to find friends who wouldn't backstab each other, etc.

    I do appreciate the last few sentences the guy wrote for his answer. If we all just focused on people accepting us right away without making much effort on ourselves and to them, we would all go insane after being disappointed and rejected at every turn. The truth is, we all have a list of expectations and standards when it comes to interacting and socializing with people. The best we can do is to work our hardest to become someone we can be proud of without validation from others. Once that is accomplished, then people will notice the rare sense of accomplishment and confidence that you have of yourself and become drawn to it.
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    Jul 07, 2013 2:56 AM GMT
    JeffSGV saidI don't find being gay a lonely road. I have plenty of friends, and I don't live in a gay neighborhood. I just have friends like people do, and I live just about the same way the straight world does, except for one cool thing - I get to sleep with guys!

    Your life is what you make it. If you choose to believe that your life will be lonely, guess what? It will be.

    I agree with the last part about getting out there and just living your life. Take care of yourself, get educated, get a good job, and some personal interests outside of just being gay, and you'll find that other guys are attracted to your initiative and independence. If you let them, things tend to fall into place. Just stay out of your own way by keeping your chin up and going for what you want. Don't doubt that you can get what you want out of life - see it, believe it, and act on it.
    what he said. wow, i have to say i do not meet many guys like you here in dc. most of the gay guys here are all about the gay scene here. they will not do anything unless its a gay establishment. most hate women and only like straight guys if they think they can get him into bed. ha ha ha i am joking mildly but its pretty much true here
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  • stratavos

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    Jul 07, 2013 3:27 AM GMT
    That was the best answer ever. There is pretty much no topping that.
  • GYoungGuy

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    Jul 07, 2013 3:35 AM GMT
    I'm going to copy and paste the things that I should do while I'm looking for that guy! Haha Thanks! =)
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 07, 2013 3:41 AM GMT
    I hate this sort of 'hang in there baby' promotion of finding a partner ... stop trying so damn hard and just have fun in life. If someone comes along that is cool, but if they don't ... you will fucking survive ... you are a whole person ... and if you concentrate on enjoying what you do, you will have a good life. Why do people romanticize being with someone as the ultimate goal of life? And why do people think that every single person that finds someone in life, lives happily ever after? They don't, that's why the divorce rate is so high. And those that stick together usually are not around each other that much. So get over the Cinderella, Prince Charming happy ending and just concentrate on doing something you enjoy in life.

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    Jul 07, 2013 5:52 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidIf someone comes along that is cool, but if they don't ... you will fucking survive ... you are a whole person


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    Jul 07, 2013 6:30 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidLife is what you make of it. Get off that bed and go out into the world and take it by the balls! You choose if you're going to be happy or successful.
    Not your parents or something you read on that blog.
    In this life, one size does not fit all.


    Yes, yes and yes. I should have put everything in bold, but the last part is specially important.

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    Jul 07, 2013 7:08 PM GMT
    It will be more lonely if finding the right man will become the primary object of your life.
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    Jul 07, 2013 8:09 PM GMT
    Are you saying glitter doesn't make you happy?icon_evil.gif
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    Jul 08, 2013 12:51 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidAre you saying glitter doesn't make you happy?icon_evil.gif


    (slurs in a childlike lisp) I want juicey juice!

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    Jul 08, 2013 1:56 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidI hate this sort of 'hang in there baby' promotion of finding a partner ... stop trying so damn hard and just have fun in life. If someone comes along that is cool, but if they don't ... you will fucking survive...

    I don't like the "hang in there baby" philosophy either but I like the "you will survive" philosophy even less. That doesn't tell me anything I don't know.
    I'm not having much fun any more and, although I'm not falling apart, it shouldn't be viewed as odd that l crave a little romance In my life.
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    Jul 08, 2013 2:06 AM GMT
    I think the guy who replied to that thread is awesome. Personally, I couldn't relate any more to what he said. After attending my first circuit party ever this week, when a few months ago I had never even been to a gay club, I discovered how fun, hot, spiteful, evil, and everything else that the gay community can be.

    Regarding the guys that are into the scene and how much some guys here hate them, why do you blame them? Straight men 99% of the time go to straight bars to be with straight people and pick up girls, gays are the exact opposite. I don't see straight men dying to be friends with gay guys, so why should guys put an extra effort? I'm not saying that gays should resent straight people, and I know a minority of gays do, but also don't judge others because they have found their niche, in which they are comfortable being who they are and talking about gay things, like Grindr icon_smile.gif