I'm about to share with you one of the most empowering, life changing things you could ever learn. Are you ready for it? Get ready because it's like taking the trippy pill in the Matrix. Once you understand what I'm about to say, you won't be able to look at life or your emotions the same way again. Ok ok, enough chit chat, here it is!
Every single emotion you've ever felt is caused by an association within the subconscious mind that expresses itself as a feeling based off past positive or negative experiences to that association. This occurs when a "trigger"(similar event or stimulus) resembling the association occurs and causes the same emotional response to the original association. And as those associations grow stronger within your mind they become habits of living to the point that a "trigger" is no longer needed for someone to feel that way.
So if that sounds complicated let me put it to you this way.
Why will a dog fill one person with love and positive fuzzy feelings, while to another it can cause them to experiences feelings of panic, paranoia, and imminent death?
Why is it that when you give a relative a hug, it feels different than the euphoria that arises when you are embracing someone you are in love with, and yet for some receiving an embrace by someone they liked could make them feel unworthy...
Why do two siblings grow up to like different foods even though they both ate the same things as a kid?
The answer is because every individual has different associations to a stimulus!
This is a big deal because it shows how every single person alive interprets the world subjectively(based on your individual perceptions), viewing things not as they truly are, but rather how their mind wants them to be. Yet if you ask them why they feel or prefer things a certain way they will give all sorts of different answers that to them sound completely logical(which are usually not based in reality at all), yet vary widely based on the person you are asking. Which brings me to emotions.
Chronic feelings and emotions, overtime simply become habits which become endless cycles until a wrench is thrown in the works. These cycles or habits of emotions can be either a positive thing(in the case of feeling good and positive) or a negative thing(such as feelings of depression). There is a reason people who are generally happy stay generally happy, and people who are usually sad, usually remain sad. And that's because the depression you are feeling is nothing more than a habit. And as you continue to feed it by focusing on it and doing what it tells you, the more it will eat away at your soul. And the more your brain chemistry will reflect the emotional state your in.
It is not chemically related at all! Your brain is totally capable of producing all the chemicals it needs to express any emotion in the universe. That's why pharmaceuticals work. They don't actually give you more serotonin, dopamine, etc.., but rather change how your brain reuptakes or releases those chemicals. That is why you could take some Ecstasy right now(don't do it!) and feel on top of the world.
So how do you break the cycles of negative feelings? There are two ways. The first is to do the opposite of how you're feeling. So if you feel depressed and don't feel like leaving the house, go leave the house. If you can't focus, buckle down and focus on what you need to get done. If you feel lonely, go out and meet new people even if it's uncomfortable. Remember depression is a cycle, and until you break the habit of being depressed, it will only get worse as the more you feed into the feelings of not wanting to do anything, hopelessness, etc, the worse you're going to feel as the depression becomes more tightly ingrained as a habit, until you're simply depressed all the time, just lik a smoker who starts off with a cigerette with every meal can end up smoking two packs a day! So start by doing things that in the case of depression you don't feel like doing. Slowly but surely you will begin to feel better. Whatever brings you joy and makes you feel alive(even if it was in the past), go do it! However this takes awhile and there is a quicker way which brings me to my next point.
The other way to fix this is by visiting a good hypnotherapist. Psychiatrists and psychologists are only capable of working with the conscious mind(unless they are hypnotherapists as well), which is useless because everything that makes the conscious mind what it is(thoughts, beliefs, actions, habits, etc...) stem from the associations held within the subconscious mind. Until the subconscious associations are changed(either through doing things you don't want to and slowly discovering more joy, or going directly into the subconscious and reshaping the associations), don't expect much improvement.
A good hypnotherapist has many methods to bring joy back into your life. Regression, reshaping perceptions of an event, neutralizing any negative emotions and beliefs and instilling positive ones are all very easy to do while someone is in a state of hypnosis. In addition it is much quicker, effective, permanent and less costly than any other alternative. You could be permanently rid of these negative feelings in only 3-5 sessions!
I wrote this because I know a lot of people are feeling the same way you do, and I know that hypnotherapy is the answer. If you are interested I can work with you. I have an office in Hillcrest. If you genuinely can't afford it, I will work with you for free. Hypnotherapy is my lifes passion because I've experienced it's effectiveness in my life as well as hundreds of other people who I've worked with. I hope you found this informative and always remember, you are master of your destiny and it's your right to feel joyous and happy every single moment of your life. All you have to do is choose to do so. I wish you the best.