Leading someone on that you're not into

  • Chad1992

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    Jul 07, 2013 2:29 PM GMT
    I met this guy that I really like and asked him about going on a date. We met each other and to be honest I didn't feel that he was that into me, but I really did like him and wanted to date him.
    After a few weeks of no texts or calls, he asked about hanging out again. We did and I asked him if he was actually interested in me or not because I was getting the vibe he wasn't.
    He told me he was and that it was because he was just not used to dating and shy.
    I believed him, and allowed myself to develop feelings for him.
    Then, he just started ignoring my contact to him.

    A friend of his told me he said he wasn't into me and would never date me, but I don't understand why he lead me on. I kept giving him 'outs' but he kept insisting he liked me.

    Do you think this was because he didn't like me, or just because of some issues he has?
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    Jul 07, 2013 3:16 PM GMT
    Oh he's got issues alright. It's called being a coward.

    He's not into you in the way you'd like him to be. He's into you only when it suits his needs. You were there when he was feeling bored/lonely/etc until another piece of man cake crossed his path.

    Of course he isn't going to tell you that he isn't interested - that would be the hard thing but the right thing to do. Too many guys are cowardly and think that might leading someone on they'll just "get the picture" and they can avoid any confrontation.

    These guys are all over the place - flakes and liars. Roll with the punches and move on from him to someone who deserves your love and feelings and can reciprocate them like an adult. I know - easier said then done.
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    Jul 08, 2013 1:30 AM GMT
    He was giving you the opportunity to put out.
    Aside from that he lacks any interest.
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    Jul 08, 2013 1:50 AM GMT
    He's a bastard, do not contact him again and if he contacts you dont answer
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    Jul 08, 2013 1:52 AM GMT
    IceBuckets saidOh he's got issues alright. It's called being a coward.

    He's not into you in the way you'd like him to be. He's into you only when it suits his needs. You were there when he was feeling bored/lonely/etc until another piece of man cake crossed his path.

    Of course he isn't going to tell you that he isn't interested - that would be the hard thing but the right thing to do. Too many guys are cowardly and think that might leading someone on they'll just "get the picture" and they can avoid any confrontation.

    These guys are all over the place - flakes and liars. Roll with the punches and move on from him to someone who deserves your love and feelings and can reciprocate them like an adult. I know - easier said then done.


    This is pretty much it. Either he just wanted to keep you around for when it was convenient for him or he didn't have the balls to tell you he was not interested. Cut your losses and move on. There are better guys out there.