What would your ideal first date be?

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    Jul 08, 2013 6:19 AM GMT
    I'm looking for ideas for a guy I really like and I'd like to make a good impression! He's out of my league so I need to make this count!!!
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    Jul 08, 2013 6:29 AM GMT
    Let's see, mine would be. . .

    -Go on a late afternoon/evening hike
    -Get sushi or some kinda Asian food for dinner (Gotta LOVE Asian food)
    -Go home and watch SNL while cuddling on the couch
    -Cuddle for the rest of the night
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    Jul 08, 2013 6:35 AM GMT
    Thanks! Most Appreciated!
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 08, 2013 6:44 AM GMT
    He's out of your league? Is your picture fake?icon_confused.gif

    Anyway, first date. Is there anything you know you want to do together? Otherwise dinner and conversation... Wine helps break the ice.
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    Jul 08, 2013 6:55 AM GMT
    I know he supports the rivals of my team! ha! not the best start there! He's really out of my league in personality! I couldn't ask for anything more! Thanks a lot for the input!
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    Jul 08, 2013 12:21 PM GMT
    How about a partner workout and then take it from there?
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Jul 08, 2013 12:56 PM GMT
    Movies and dinner never fails.
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    Jul 08, 2013 2:19 PM GMT
    A nice quite dinner at small restaurant with a walk through the park or beach, then back to your place for a movie and some cuddling.
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    Jul 08, 2013 2:27 PM GMT
    All of the above ideas sound great, just be yourself I'm sure you have a great personality to match, good luck!
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    Jul 08, 2013 3:17 PM GMT
    Don't assume he's out of your league. I'm sure you're a great guy and you deserve one in return.

    I find activity dates to be great for the first date. Do something you both like to do (rock-climbing, hiking, surfing, etc.) Something a little challenging can give you something to talk about and be an ice-breaker; then eat together after. Dinner dates alone can sometimes lead to awkward silences and running out of things to say...
  • RainOnFire

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    Jul 08, 2013 3:40 PM GMT
    Don't go to the movies! (you wouldn't be interacting)
    Don't go to a very romantic restaurant! (it's too much pressure)

    Go to a public space like a museum, art gallery, sports game, public performance where you are surrounded by activity and people that will give you lots of material for a conversation. Then find an area with a variety of restaurants and walk around... so that you can choose together where to eat (trust me, this gives you LOTS of input on the guy and viceversa).

    One of my favorite dates so far went like this: Free museum night --> gelato --> restaurant searching --> deciding on a fun diner where the waiters sing --> people watching in a plaza --> finding a small bar where we could finally TALK.

    Good luck!
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    Jul 08, 2013 4:31 PM GMT
    Yeah, I'm not much for movies on a first date, but ample time for those on subsequent dates. ;)

    For a first date, I like finding a small, intimate restaurant (nothing too fancy) where you can order a handful of small plate items (tapas) or sushi...something where you can share a few items which are not too filling. Split a bottle of wine if you both drink.

    Follow that with a nice walk, through a park, or through some nice downtown neighborhoods with cool architecture...or somewhere scenic.

    Find a place where you can watch the sunset from a good vantage point.

    My aim on a first date is to simply provide an environment for good, quality conversation where we can learn a bit about each other without too many distractions. Keep your phones off. Be engaged and pay attention.

    By then you'll have an idea of what your next steps should be. If you both are feeling it, end it with asking him out for a second date. I think a good second date is at home, make dinner, control music and mood. And maybe a movie.



  • Markguy

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    Jul 08, 2013 9:07 PM GMT
    Like others have said, interactive experiences are great 1st dates: musuem - you can always talk about the art; a hike - there's scenery to talk about, past hikes to talk about, ask him about his hiking shoes, etc.; amusement parks; anything you both like to do that will naturally give you things to talk about. Movie and dinner is a boring 1st date to me.
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    Jul 08, 2013 10:36 PM GMT
    Blow jobs and weed. Perfect first date.
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    Jul 09, 2013 12:19 AM GMT
    Thanks to everyone who had an input!! I'm thinking about going to a game and after dinner at mine? Is that too much?
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    Jul 09, 2013 12:23 AM GMT
    Blakesg123 saidThanks to everyone who had an input!! I'm thinking about going to a game and after dinner at mine? Is that too much?


    I would say dinner at your place is a little too much for a first date (unless you want to fool around ... but that's usually not good for a first date). Restaurant is probably a better choice on first meeting.
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    Jul 09, 2013 1:54 AM GMT
    Well depends on how much time you can spend on the date and how much interaction you've had before the date.
    I can tell you of one date I had whereby I can't claim it's the ideal date but I personally really enjoyed it.

    We met up for brunch and ate together at some local cafe place that he liked.
    After that we went to an aquarium as he was a little surprised I'd never been before. Had lot's of fun, took a good amount of pictures both silly and proper and he ended up buying this one picture of us that they frame for you.

    After the aquarium it was probably mid-late afternoon, still daylight, so we walked around the place just talking and laughing at our stupid corny jokes.
    I was planning to end the date there really but he asked if I would mind joining him for dinner too.

    I didn't mind so we went to a supermarket and bought some stuff that we were going to cook up for dinner back at his place. Got to his place just after the sun had set, we cooked dinner together and set up the table too haha, and just kept having good conversation.

    Anyway it practically turned out to be an all day date which I don't know in the normal standards of society is a good thing or bad thing but I really enjoyed it. I can't exactly speak for him but I think he enjoyed it too.
    The only reason at the beginning I said it depends on how much interaction you've had with him before the date is because prior to this date we were conversing a lot already 2 weeks before.

    I think because of that, by the time we did go on the date we already felt comfortable with each other.
    Anyway sorry for the long boring story, I said it just to give you some ideas not because I was saying to do the exact same thing. Like the aquarium part, you can do something else instead but just as long as it's an activity that you can be talk to each other in.
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    Jul 09, 2013 2:46 AM GMT
    Writer22 saidA nice quite dinner at small restaurant with a walk through the park or beach, then back to your place for a movie and some cuddling.


    Awww... such a romantic gentleman! icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 09, 2013 3:20 AM GMT
    That does sound like an amazing date! hope my luck turns that way icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 09, 2013 3:42 AM GMT
    Legos.
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    Jul 11, 2013 6:16 AM GMT
    in_this_corner saidYeah, I'm not much for movies on a first date, but ample time for those on subsequent dates. ;)

    For a first date, I like finding a small, intimate restaurant (nothing too fancy) where you can order a handful of small plate items (tapas) or sushi...something where you can share a few items which are not too filling. Split a bottle of wine if you both drink.

    Follow that with a nice walk, through a park, or through some nice downtown neighborhoods with cool architecture...or somewhere scenic.

    Find a place where you can watch the sunset from a good vantage point.

    My aim on a first date is to simply provide an environment for good, quality conversation where we can learn a bit about each other without too many distractions. Keep your phones off. Be engaged and pay attention.

    By then you'll have an idea of what your next steps should be. If you both are feeling it, end it with asking him out for a second date. I think a good second date is at home, make dinner, control music and mood. And maybe a movie.




    This answer sums it up for me - I could have written it myself, so I think it bears repeating here! The only thing I can add is to maybe do something with action for the second date. You've had the intimate restaurant night, so for the next date, how about a daytime thing - like going cycling, or hiking, something adventuresome and a little demanding. Even going lifting - with a run afterward, then a nice hot shower! After the shower, make some dinner together - standing near each other - and see what chemistry develops!
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    Jul 11, 2013 6:42 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]Slim2010 said[/cite]Let's see, mine would be. . .

    -Go on a late afternoon/evening hike ....or naked yoga

    -Get sushi or some kinda Asian food for dinner (Gotta LOVE Asian food)

    Go for a walk after.

    Go to my place for shower sex

    -Go home and watch SNL while cuddling on the couch

    -Cuddle for the rest of the night
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    Put my morning wood to use for round two

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    Jul 11, 2013 6:53 AM GMT
    Dinner

    Or

    Going to an amusement park! icon_smile.gif