Boyfriend Revelation

  • Joeyphx444

    Posts: 2382

    Jul 09, 2013 6:26 AM GMT
    There are a lot of "I want a bf" or "why don't I have a bf" threads in here. I was just thinking to myself about commitment. I am 23 years old and cannot even fathom having a child or even wanting them. The commitment is not there at all. But does that mean I don't want a boyfriend. Not that they are like children (sometimes icon_razz.gif) it just the sense of "settling down." Something that I am way to young for. Do you have to necessarily be settled down to be with a man?

    The reason I (a lot of guys my age) want a boyfriend is clear-we want the connection to someone we have never experienced before. Something different from love from a friend or a sibling. Something more than just a sexual relationship. We want that mental connection as well. But maybe the REAL we reason we don't have that is because subconsciously we don't want it. We don't want to be tied down and we want to be free. Once we are in the relationship, it's completely different. We were in love with the fact of being in love. Our minds didn't and were not ready for it. No matter how mature we may be on the surface, we are not on the inside. Not yet
  • eagledreamer

    Posts: 198

    Jul 09, 2013 9:25 PM GMT
    I agree with a lot of the things that you said, but I think that it really varies from guy to guy. Some guys (and girls) I know are pretty open about the fact that they don't want to be tied down right now...but I also know a lot of people that just aren't that satisfied by just hook-ups or friendships.

    Personally, I don't think I'd be that happy without a relationship. I've done the hook-up thing and I don't really get any satisfaction from it, but I do gain a lot of satisfaction from a relationship. That isn't to say I judge anyone who doesn't want one now, nor do I think my desire for a relationship is just quenching some deep-seated fears or loneliness. I just think everyone fulfills their emotional/sexual needs differently, and everyone operates in their own way.
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    Jul 09, 2013 9:27 PM GMT
    Joeyphx444 saidThere are a lot of "I want a bf" or "why don't I have a bf" threads in here. I was just thinking to myself about commitment. I am 23 years old and cannot even fathom having a child or even wanting them. The commitment is not there at all. But does that mean I don't want a boyfriend. Not that they are like children (sometimes icon_razz.gif) it just the sense of "settling down." Something that I am way to young for. Do you have to necessarily be settled down to be with a man?

    The reason I (a lot of guys my age) want a boyfriend is clear-we want the connection to someone we have never experienced before. Something different from love from a friend or a sibling. Something more than just a sexual relationship. We want that mental connection as well. But maybe the REAL we reason we don't have that is because subconsciously we don't want it. We don't want to be tied down and we want to be free. Once we are in the relationship, it's completely different. We were in love with the fact of being in love. Our minds didn't and were not ready for it. No matter how mature we may be on the surface, we are not on the inside. Not yet

    THIS. SO MUCH THIS. icon_exclaim.gif