What to do about a crazy ex fuck buddy?

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    Jul 10, 2013 6:15 AM GMT
    So I recently left a fuck buddy, only known each other for just under 2 months. Not to a new one or anything. Just didnt have time because of two jobs. Okay, so the guy was kinda needy, always wanted me to sleep over etc etc. I tried to be diplomatic. Always nice. But he always got very angry whenever I couldnt come over. I reminded him constantly that this wasnt a relationship and that I have 2 jobs....Well I ended it. I felt bad, which I did. But couldn't offer him the time he wanted. That I was just not at the right point in my life to have something serious....Well he went off the deep end. I'm not out. Not quite ready yet. Sorry. But he went and blabbed to a bunch of people that I was gay. Texted a bunch of my gay friends that I've been sleeping around, doing drugs, etc etc. My question is...what the fuck do I do now!!?? He did more I just dont want to write it cause I'll just want to curbstomp his ass more. And I've tried to talk to him but he's just...fucking crazy now. He wasn't when I first met him. He's a little drama queen and seems to love destroying my life. Been 4 days and he said he's just getting started....

    Sincerely
    So Fucked.
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    Jul 10, 2013 7:02 AM GMT
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    Jul 10, 2013 7:17 AM GMT
    A couple of suggestions:

    1. His actions in telling people that you're gay....nothing much you can do about it other than tell people the truth if they ask you. You may not be ready but your honesty is very important.
    2. Choose your fuck buds wisely! When he asked for a sleepover should have sent red flags to you. Fuck buds do not stay overnight unless they're sleeping in the next room.
    3. Stay away from him! Eventually, the situation will calm down but it'll take time.

    Good luck!
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 10, 2013 2:40 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidA couple of suggestions:

    1. His actions in telling people that you're gay....nothing much you can do about it other than tell people the truth if they ask you. You may not be ready but your honesty is very important.
    2. Choose your fuck buds wisely! When he asked for a sleepover should have sent red flags to you. Fuck buds do not stay overnight unless they're sleeping in the next room.
    3. Stay away from him! Eventually, the situation will calm down but it'll take time.

    Good luck!

    This is really good advice!icon_smile.gif

    @Matiz, roflol
  • PR_GMR

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    Jul 10, 2013 3:20 PM GMT
    Wow. Don't know what to tell you. Cut him completely out of your life? Get a restraining order?

    But you should come out. Never give anyone else that type of ammunition. It's 2013. No reason to be in the closet anymore.
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    Jul 10, 2013 3:22 PM GMT
    I've never been in that situation but good advice from Erik101. Especially resist the temptation to engage him in any sort of communication. Cut off communication with him so that you dont escalate the situation.

    Also if it's an FB you want then no need to get too deep with personal info right upfront.

    In under 2 months he knows your friends nbrs to text them? Seems like this one was known to you and friends before you became FB's.
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    Jul 10, 2013 3:25 PM GMT
    PR_GMR said
    ...you should come out. Never give anyone else that type of ammunition. It's 2013. No reason to be in the closet anymore.


    ∆ This. If you were out, this would not be a threat. Living an honest, transparent life is so much more rewarding.
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    Jul 10, 2013 3:28 PM GMT
    Personally i would confront him..
    It's just what 'I' would do..

    ..In my past experience .. Cowardly behavior has to be ..'Defused'

    If you can approach him and have a decent face to face..remain calm and rational on your part no matter what..It's a good way to finalize the mess.

    He needs to be reminded that you treated him fairly and that he is being an ass..

    ..You were that good in bed ? ..dammm!
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    Jul 10, 2013 3:40 PM GMT
    Sounds like you got yourself in a pickle. And you woke what they say...when life hands you pickles, get a bag of chips and a sandwich to go with them...or something like that.
  • LoveAndPeace

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    Jul 10, 2013 3:43 PM GMT
    Violence is always the answer
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    Jul 10, 2013 8:59 PM GMT
    Don't be aggressive back, that's exactly what he is looking for. Cut all bridges right now, don't reply to or address his shit in any way, and he'll eventually stop. Just don't feed him attention. Ask your friends and relatives to do the same. And if HE comes to you, I agree with one of the above posters, put a fucking restraining order on his ass immediately.

    It really sucks that he outed you, but it's too late now anyway, if the word is out it's simply going to spread, nothing you can do about it.

    Imo you should be honest to your friends and family if they inquire about it though, otherwise they are just going to seek the answers from him (which you do not want).
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    Jul 10, 2013 10:17 PM GMT
    LoveAndPeace saidViolence is always the answer


    Interesting coming from the guy whose profile name is LoveAndPeace. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jul 11, 2013 1:38 AM GMT
    PR_GMR saidWow. Don't know what to tell you. Cut him completely out of your life? Get a restraining order?

    But you should come out. Never give anyone else that type of ammunition. It's 2013. No reason to be in the closet anymore.


    Sadly it might come to that I think...fuck
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    Jul 11, 2013 4:38 AM GMT
    The truth always comes out eventually. Now that people have been told, they will always be looking for signs. Grow a pair and be honest or risk the truth coming out and making you look worse.You reap what you sow.
  • Apparition

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    Jul 11, 2013 6:19 AM GMT
    think of it as making you life way easier. you wont have to come out to your parents now.

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    get a nice pic of him, preferably naked, and send some nice love letters from him to some local prisoners about to be paroled. Invite some nice church groups to visit him. Sign him up for some nice junk mail from pretty much everyone.

    or if you want to be a nice guy. call visa and report his card stolen.