Bottoms pretending to be tops?


  • Jul 10, 2013 7:05 PM GMT
    I have been dating a guy who identified as top, and because I identify as mostly bottom, I thought we would have been compatible.He kept asking if I wanted his ass.He even made me try to penetrate him-(I couldn't perform under the pressure.-I can penetrate on occasion-).Needless to say,our sex life waned(there wasn't much anyway).I had made an emotional connection with this guy, so, for me sexually matters could have been fixed.For him I didn't think this was an option.He claimed to love sex,but we weren't having any.On occasion, I overheard his friend say to him that he is the biggest bottom he knows.Could his denial of his sexual position been a factor for him to pull away? Do bottoms pretend to be tops? icon_eek.gif
  • Webster666

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    Jul 10, 2013 7:45 PM GMT
    It seems that most guys claim to be at least "versatile," even if they're total bottoms.
    I don't understand the reluctance to admit being a bottom.
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    Jul 10, 2013 7:49 PM GMT
    Nobody wants to admit to being a bottom. It makes people question it when you put "straight-acting" in your profile.
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    Jul 10, 2013 9:14 PM GMT
    Some tops pretend to be bottoms:

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    Jul 10, 2013 10:01 PM GMT
    May be the bigger issue here is insecurity. I am a pure bottom but very rarely, I like to be top. That's only if the asshole is not too tight.
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    Jul 10, 2013 10:03 PM GMT
    I love to bottom, I love to top... Problem solved.. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 10, 2013 10:05 PM GMT
    If a guy says he's a top he's probably a bottom.
    If he say's he's versatile, he's normally a total bottom.
    If he claims to be a bottom, he's most likely a bottom (and honest to boot.)

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    Jul 10, 2013 10:05 PM GMT
    Gotta love the "tops" who's only photo is of their ass.
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    Jul 10, 2013 10:15 PM GMT
    Scruffypup saidIf a guy says he's a top he's probably a bottom.
    If he say's he's versatile, he's normally a total bottom.
    If he claims to be a bottom, he's most likely a bottom (and honest to boot.)

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    So who is actually a top?
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 10, 2013 10:17 PM GMT
    ricky1987 said
    Scruffypup saidIf a guy says he's a top he's probably a bottom.
    If he say's he's versatile, he's normally a total bottom.
    If he claims to be a bottom, he's most likely a bottom (and honest to boot.)

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    So who is actually a top?

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    Jul 10, 2013 10:19 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    ricky1987 said
    Scruffypup saidIf a guy says he's a top he's probably a bottom.
    If he say's he's versatile, he's normally a total bottom.
    If he claims to be a bottom, he's most likely a bottom (and honest to boot.)

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    So who is actually a top?

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    oh please! I can't even imagine that.
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 10, 2013 10:20 PM GMT
    ricky1987 said
    HottJoe said
    ricky1987 said
    Scruffypup saidIf a guy says he's a top he's probably a bottom.
    If he say's he's versatile, he's normally a total bottom.
    If he claims to be a bottom, he's most likely a bottom (and honest to boot.)

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    So who is actually a top?

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    oh please! I can't even imagine that.

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    But seriously, there are plenty of tops!
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    Jul 10, 2013 10:21 PM GMT
    Top and bottom are relative to the particular matchup.

    Even a so-called "top" can enjoy the pleasure of anal stimulation if you are slow enough about it.

    I've had relationships where I was top and others where I was bottom.
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    Jul 10, 2013 10:21 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    ricky1987 said
    HottJoe said
    ricky1987 said
    Scruffypup saidIf a guy says he's a top he's probably a bottom.
    If he say's he's versatile, he's normally a total bottom.
    If he claims to be a bottom, he's most likely a bottom (and honest to boot.)

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    So who is actually a top?

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    oh please! I can't even imagine that.

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    But seriously, there are plenty of tops!


    of course I know. I haven't gotten boned for nothing.
  • deep388

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    Jul 10, 2013 11:58 PM GMT
    I fully admit to love bottoming as well as Topping (hence truly versatile). But I think it really depends on the chemistry, whether you want to top a particular guy, or bottom for a particular guy. There are guys who I'd totally bottom for but they want me to Top, similarly there are guys who I'd love to Top but they're actually gunning to want to Top me. It's sometimes a difficult thing to figure out.
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    Jul 11, 2013 1:39 AM GMT
    Webster666 saidIt seems that most guys claim to be at least "versatile," even if they're total bottoms.
    I don't understand the reluctance to admit being a bottom.


    I also notice a distinct effort to admit being a "top". Like if having any bottom desires makes you a bigger homo. It's like I've always said, "it takes a real man to take it up the arse." icon_wink.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 11, 2013 1:42 AM GMT
    He's attracted to you and wanted to date and be involved so he lied.
  • rnch

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    Jul 11, 2013 1:43 AM GMT
    As deep388 posted, it depends on the chemistry, it depends on the two guys.

    When I met my ex 5 years ago, we both claimed to be "tops". Neither one of us had bttmed before.

    Obviously one of us had to give in.

    He tried to bttm for me, I tried to bttm for him. We took each other's bttming cherry!

    As it turned out, in the confines of our unique relationship, he was the better top and I was the better bttm.



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  • HottJoe

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    Jul 11, 2013 1:58 AM GMT
    Webster666 saidIt seems that most guys claim to be at least "versatile," even if they're total bottoms.
    I don't understand the reluctance to admit being a bottom.

    Really?? I'm more surprised by the reluctance to be versatile! I hear so many guys saying they are bottoms, including virgins, for pete's sake!
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    Jul 11, 2013 3:16 AM GMT
    Oh, and when telling someone you're a top, you must always use all caps: "I'm a TOP." If you scream it, it sounds more convincing I guess. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jul 11, 2013 5:26 AM GMT
    Would anyone care to guess where I fall into this?