Birthday Blues

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    Jul 10, 2013 8:42 PM GMT
    My birthday is coming up and it's depressing the shit out of me. I feel older, fatter, less loved, and more frustrated. Any suggestions?
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    Jul 10, 2013 8:51 PM GMT
    With age comes wisdom..
    Use your wisdom to combat the issues listed above!

    Happy B day When it comes.
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    Jul 10, 2013 10:40 PM GMT
    Be thankful for what you have instead of dwelling on what you lack.

    When life starts taking away from you, and it will, you'll look back to now and regret.

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    Jul 10, 2013 10:56 PM GMT
    Yeah, well, these things happen. Keep busy.

    As you get older it does get easier to accept what you can't change.
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    Jul 10, 2013 11:00 PM GMT
    I'm trying not to think about mine ... this year I will officially be Senior Citizen

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    Jul 10, 2013 11:01 PM GMT
    You can't get depressed until you hit 40.
    Those are the rules.
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    Jul 12, 2013 11:28 PM GMT
    Other than a drink, any more helpful advice?
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    Jul 13, 2013 1:49 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidI'm trying not to think about mine ... this year I will officially be Senior Citizen.

    Pshaw, it's not until you're 60. Some even say 65.

    I'm not sure which I enjoy more, being a geezer or being retired.
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    Jul 13, 2013 1:50 AM GMT
    Stay positive?

    Everything is based on perspective. If you don't like something about yourself, change it. And know that for the time being that is all you can do.
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    Jul 13, 2013 1:52 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidI'm trying not to think about mine ... this year I will officially be Senior Citizen



    Stop listening to AARP.
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    Jul 13, 2013 1:52 AM GMT
  • Irishguy22

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    Jul 13, 2013 1:56 AM GMT
    I suggest you find something to get excited about, maybe a movie, a play, a new episode of a tv show and treat yourself to it. Its your birthday so do something you like doing and make the day about that. Get some friends or just have the day to yourself. Either way plan something for that day to get excited about. Have fun and worry about the other stuff some other time.
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    Jul 13, 2013 2:02 AM GMT
    Irishguy22 saidI suggest you find something to get excited about, maybe a movie, a play, a new episode of a tv show and treat yourself to it. Its your birthday so do something you like doing and make the day about that. Get some friends or just have the day to yourself. Either way plan something for that day to get excited about. Have fun and worry about the other stuff some other time.


    I just saw Tartuffe, but it's the only play in Chicago that gets decent reviews.

    Still, I could take a trip to NYC and see some REAL theater.
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    Jul 13, 2013 2:08 AM GMT
    swimguychicago said
    Irishguy22 saidI suggest you find something to get excited about, maybe a movie, a play, a new episode of a tv show and treat yourself to it. Its your birthday so do something you like doing and make the day about that. Get some friends or just have the day to yourself. Either way plan something for that day to get excited about. Have fun and worry about the other stuff some other time.


    I just saw Tartuffe, but it's the only play in Chicago that gets decent reviews.

    Still, I could take a trip to NYC and see some REAL theater.


    Sounds like a great idea. Just make sure you get psyched for it. You are going to the theater and you are going to enjoy the f*** out of that play! Before you go out you can play some epic music as well or something! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 13, 2013 2:10 AM GMT
    You're only 38 and you're getting fat? Get off your ass and MOVE. Getting fit will get rid of that depression.
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    Jul 13, 2013 2:10 AM GMT
    swimguychicago saidMy birthday is coming up and it's depressing the shit out of me. I feel older, fatter, less loved, and more frustrated. Any suggestions?

    Give some of your time to places where you'll have the opportunity to be around younger people. Maybe that looks like volunteering at your local gym and helping people out, be it with their technique, creating their training programs, whatever. When we lack something, one of the best ways to get it is to first find ways to give it to other people. Feel less loved? Find a way to give love to other people. Feel frustrated? Help other people deal with their frustrations. One of the best ways to get past these sorts of hurdles is to pour into other people's lives and watch as ours start to change for the better over time.
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    Jul 15, 2013 8:22 PM GMT
    Scruffypup saidYou're only 38 and you're getting fat? Get off your ass and MOVE. Getting fit will get rid of that depression.


    LOL! Tough love on RJ. Still, yhou have a point.
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    Jul 15, 2013 8:29 PM GMT
    swimguychicago saidMy birthday is coming up and it's depressing the shit out of me. I feel older, fatter, less loved, and more frustrated. Any suggestions?


    Damn man, I'm 38 too and my birthday is approaching...only I feel younger, slimmer, more loved and less frustrated. The older I get, the better I am. I cannot conceive anything else...I suppose because I have no choice! Embrace it and be the best you can be. I always roll my eyes at my friends in their 20's as they approach 30 and think it's the end of the world. I'm like 'for you, maybe.' I imagine it will be the same as everyone approaches 40...and so on. Your pity party will have 1 guest. Your fun party will have more.

    But buck up, be more active, spend quality time with friends and LIVE LIFE. Seriously.
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    Jul 15, 2013 8:33 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidI'm trying not to think about mine ... this year I will officially be Senior Citizen

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    So you will get all the freebies? You won't even have to wait in normal queue, how lucky! icon_razz.gif
  • heyom

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    Jul 15, 2013 8:56 PM GMT
    Do not resent growing old... Many are denied the privilege.

    -Irish proverb
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    Jul 15, 2013 9:23 PM GMT
    swimguychicago saidMy birthday is coming up and it's depressing the shit out of me. I feel older, fatter, less loved, and more frustrated. Any suggestions?


    We get older. It sucks. It's not going to change, so you need to find a way of accepting it. You do have control over feeling fatter. That is something you can change. Exercise more and eat better/less. This also might help resolve the other issues of feeling frustrated and less loved. But, I'm not sure why you feel your age might impact how you are loved. You might want to go in and get some therapy to talk about these issues. I have a sense they've always been there to some extent, but being amplified because of a birthday, which is entirely normal.
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    Jul 15, 2013 9:26 PM GMT
    Just be thankful for all the birthdays you have lived.
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    Jul 15, 2013 9:41 PM GMT
    swimguychicago saidOther than a drink, any more helpful advice?


    Just be yourself, look and feel your best, stay in shape, moisturize, try to pack something fun into every single week (or day, if you can). If you do all that, you'll still look as good as possible - - even into your 50's.

    You've already got another thing going for you, and that is your appreciation for blond guys. Just keepin working that option!
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    Jul 15, 2013 9:44 PM GMT
    "Getting older is better than the alternative"

    Really dude, 39? I'm in better shape now than when I was 39. If I could do it, so can you. So get up, get moving, and hit the gym. You'll feel better- endorphins and all that.

    Then go out and do something fun for your birthday. Travel to some place you've never been. Get a massage. Invite a friend out to dinner. Go to the zoo. Something. Anything.

    It's whatever you make of it.

    Peace.

    Mike