Sleeping around phase


  • Jul 12, 2013 2:28 PM GMT
    Just a topic for disscussion: Some gay guys have a period where they tend to be slutty and sleep around a lot.Do some guys ever come out of that phase? Thoughts?icon_twisted.gif
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    Jul 12, 2013 2:32 PM GMT
    colin200011226 saidJust a forum for disscussion: Some gay guys have a period where they tend to be slutty and sleep around a lot.Do some guys ever come out of that phase? Thoughts?icon_twisted.gif


    I slept with around 300 guys in less that 3 years, about 2 men a week, however thats so high because I include orgies and threesomes, which were my favourite and single guy encounters were less common than hooking up with couples.

    I finally stopped around 6 months ago when I just stopped desiring the thrill of sluthood, I mostly regret it but it was A LOT of fun.

    I don't think I wanna get my fix from shagging around anymore, working out at the gym satisfies my frustration better.
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    Jul 12, 2013 2:39 PM GMT
    IrishDarren said

    I slept with around 300 guys in less that 3 years, about 2 men a week, however thats so high because I include orgies and threesomes, which were my favourite and single guy encounters were less common than hooking up with couples.

    I finally stopped around 6 months ago when I just stopped desiring the thrill of sluthood, I mostly regret it but it was A LOT of fun.

    I don't think I wanna get my fix from shagging around anymore, working out at the gym satisfies my frustration better.



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  • Eli_jah

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    Jul 12, 2013 2:43 PM GMT
    colin200011226 saidJust a topic for disscussion: Some gay guys have a period where they tend to be slutty and sleep around a lot.Do some guys ever come out of that phase? Thoughts?icon_twisted.gif


    Yes, most guys grow out of that phase after about 2-3 years. Mine lasted for a solid year and a half.
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    Jul 12, 2013 2:43 PM GMT
    colin200011226 saidJust a topic for disscussion: Some gay guys have a period where they tend to be slutty and sleep around a lot.Do some guys ever come out of that phase? Thoughts?icon_twisted.gif


    Most wise gay men come out of this phase. I'm just coming out of that phase. You get to a point in which random hookups just leave you empty and you realize there's gotta be more to gay life than this.
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    Jul 12, 2013 2:46 PM GMT
    I experienced mine during my current relationship. I was always so anti-promiscuity before I met my now husband, but then we opened up our relationship to threesomes.

    I've slept with probably 15 times as many men since being with my hubby as before.

    We've not had a threesome for quite a while now though. I guess I'm out of that phase.
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    Jul 12, 2013 2:47 PM GMT
    IrishDarren said
    colin200011226 saidJust a forum for disscussion: Some gay guys have a period where they tend to be slutty and sleep around a lot.Do some guys ever come out of that phase? Thoughts?icon_twisted.gif


    I slept with around 300 guys in less that 3 years, about 2 men a week, however thats so high because I include orgies and threesomes, which were my favourite and single guy encounters were less common than hooking up with couples.

    I finally stopped around 6 months ago when I just stopped desiring the thrill of sluthood, I mostly regret it but it was A LOT of fun.

    I don't think I wanna get my fix from shagging around anymore, working out at the gym satisfies my frustration better.


    300 in 3 years? Where did you get the energy? I had some kind of sexual contact with at least 25 men over my "slut phase" and felt like complete shit for a while. Did you find that this affected your self esteem?
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    Jul 12, 2013 2:59 PM GMT
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    IrishDarren said

    I slept with around 300 guys in less that 3 years, about 2 men a week, however thats so high because I include orgies and threesomes, which were my favourite and single guy encounters were less common than hooking up with couples.

    I finally stopped around 6 months ago when I just stopped desiring the thrill of sluthood, I mostly regret it but it was A LOT of fun.

    I don't think I wanna get my fix from shagging around anymore, working out at the gym satisfies my frustration better.



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    Lmao, there is a lot of truth in that gif.

    unfortunately I never went through a sleeping around phase. I already knew what I wanted from a guy when I was younger, so never did I need to feel to conform, compared to guys who didn't know what they wanted, or were just experimenting with their sexuality.
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    Jul 12, 2013 4:00 PM GMT
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    IrishDarren said
    colin200011226 saidJust a forum for disscussion: Some gay guys have a period where they tend to be slutty and sleep around a lot.Do some guys ever come out of that phase? Thoughts?icon_twisted.gif


    I slept with around 300 guys in less that 3 years, about 2 men a week, however thats so high because I include orgies and threesomes, which were my favourite and single guy encounters were less common than hooking up with couples.

    I finally stopped around 6 months ago when I just stopped desiring the thrill of sluthood, I mostly regret it but it was A LOT of fun.

    I don't think I wanna get my fix from shagging around anymore, working out at the gym satisfies my frustration better.


    300 in 3 years? Where did you get the energy? I had some kind of sexual contact with at least 25 men over my "slut phase" and felt like complete shit for a while. Did you find that this affected your self esteem?


    I'm a bottom, and i can't get enough. icon_redface.gif
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    Jul 12, 2013 4:02 PM GMT
    fable said
    IrishDarren said

    I slept with around 300 guys in less that 3 years, about 2 men a week, however thats so high because I include orgies and threesomes, which were my favourite and single guy encounters were less common than hooking up with couples.

    I finally stopped around 6 months ago when I just stopped desiring the thrill of sluthood, I mostly regret it but it was A LOT of fun.

    I don't think I wanna get my fix from shagging around anymore, working out at the gym satisfies my frustration better.



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    i'd make you number 301 if i could icon_wink.gif I love hot cheeky londoners.
  • TheBizMan

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    Jul 12, 2013 4:39 PM GMT
    I'm in the "flirt with as many guys as you can, but never hook up" phase.
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 12, 2013 4:42 PM GMT
    For me, the slut phase felt like manic depression, with extreme highs and lows. It was thrilling when the encounter was a fantasy come true---and of course I would never regret those times. That's living. But then, when it's someone you're not into, and you can't say no, because you're already there and you're insecure, dominated---not even necessarily by him, but by yourself---and just going through the motions, that just kills you. Maybe some guys don't feel that way, but I tend to take things to an extreme. Mix in a little booze, or drugs, and it's a set up for coming down and feeling low.

    For me, the only casual sex is in a monogamous relationship, oddly. After years of intimacy with one person, you can have amazing sex, and you don't have to worry about what he thinks of you, or question who he really is, what if it goes wrong, is this risky, safe, or could it kill me? You can have sex, and it feels natural, like breathing above water. It can't drown you. And afterwords you can cuddle for a bit, or jump up and do something else. It's intimate and sacred and it feels like you've built something together, something exclusive that can only be created. It can't be bought. There's no score or internal survey to see if it met your needs, or fell short. It's like comfort food, but better, because you know that person that loves you, and will be there again, in your bed. Instead of feeling manic or depressed, you're at peace. You're in marriage, and in bliss.

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    Jul 12, 2013 10:28 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidFor me, the slut phase felt like manic depression, with extreme highs and lows. It was thrilling when the encounter was a fantasy come true---and of course I would never regret those times. That's living. But then, when it's someone you're not into, and you can't say no, because you're already there and you're insecure, dominated---not even necessarily by him, but by yourself---and just going through the motions, that just kills you. Maybe some guys don't feel that way, but I tend to take things to an extreme. Mix in a little booze, or drugs, and it's a set up for coming down and feeling low.

    For me, the only casual sex is in a monogamous relationship, oddly. After years of intimacy with one person, you can have amazing sex, and you don't have to worry about what he thinks of you, or question who he really is, what if it goes wrong, is this risky, safe, or could it kill me? You can have sex, and it feels natural, like breathing above water. It can't drown you. And afterwords you can cuddle for a bit, or jump up and do something else. It's intimate and sacred and it feels like you've built something together, something exclusive that can only be created. It can't be bought. There's no score or internal survey to see if it met your needs, or fell short. It's like comfort food, but better, because you know that person that loves you, and will be there again, in your bed. Instead of feeling manic or depressed, you're at peace. You're in marriage, and in bliss.

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    I've never heard it described better. I went back to being celibate because most of my experiences were like the latter.

    And that last bit is so true as well.

  • Jul 13, 2013 12:25 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidFor me, the slut phase felt like manic depression, with extreme highs and lows. It was thrilling when the encounter was a fantasy come true---and of course I would never regret those times. That's living. But then, when it's someone you're not into, and you can't say no, because you're already there and you're insecure, dominated---not even necessarily by him, but by yourself---and just going through the motions, that just kills you. Maybe some guys don't feel that way, but I tend to take things to an extreme. Mix in a little booze, or drugs, and it's a set up for coming down and feeling low.

    For me, the only casual sex is in a monogamous relationship, oddly. After years of intimacy with one person, you can have amazing sex, and you don't have to worry about what he thinks of you, or question who he really is, what if it goes wrong, is this risky, safe, or could it kill me? You can have sex, and it feels natural, like breathing above water. It can't drown you. And afterwords you can cuddle for a bit, or jump up and do something else. It's intimate and sacred and it feels like you've built something together, something exclusive that can only be created. It can't be bought. There's no score or internal survey to see if it met your needs, or fell short. It's like comfort food, but better, because you know that person that loves you, and will be there again, in your bed. Instead of feeling manic or depressed, you're at peace. You're in marriage, and in bliss.

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    Jul 15, 2013 11:31 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidFor me, the slut phase felt like manic depression, with extreme highs and lows. It was thrilling when the encounter was a fantasy come true---and of course I would never regret those times. That's living. But then, when it's someone you're not into, and you can't say no, because you're already there and you're insecure, dominated---not even necessarily by him, but by yourself---and just going through the motions, that just kills you. Maybe some guys don't feel that way, but I tend to take things to an extreme. Mix in a little booze, or drugs, and it's a set up for coming down and feeling low.

    For me, the only casual sex is in a monogamous relationship, oddly. After years of intimacy with one person, you can have amazing sex, and you don't have to worry about what he thinks of you, or question who he really is, what if it goes wrong, is this risky, safe, or could it kill me? You can have sex, and it feels natural, like breathing above water. It can't drown you. And afterwords you can cuddle for a bit, or jump up and do something else. It's intimate and sacred and it feels like you've built something together, something exclusive that can only be created. It can't be bought. There's no score or internal survey to see if it met your needs, or fell short. It's like comfort food, but better, because you know that person that loves you, and will be there again, in your bed. Instead of feeling manic or depressed, you're at peace. You're in marriage, and in bliss.

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    THIS. I couldn't have said it better.
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    Jul 15, 2013 11:48 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidFor me, the slut phase felt like manic depression, with extreme highs and lows. It was thrilling when the encounter was a fantasy come true---and of course I would never regret those times. That's living. But then, when it's someone you're not into, and you can't say no, because you're already there and you're insecure, dominated---not even necessarily by him, but by yourself---and just going through the motions, that just kills you. Maybe some guys don't feel that way, but I tend to take things to an extreme. Mix in a little booze, or drugs, and it's a set up for coming down and feeling low.

    For me, the only casual sex is in a monogamous relationship, oddly. After years of intimacy with one person, you can have amazing sex, and you don't have to worry about what he thinks of you, or question who he really is, what if it goes wrong, is this risky, safe, or could it kill me? You can have sex, and it feels natural, like breathing above water. It can't drown you. And afterwords you can cuddle for a bit, or jump up and do something else. It's intimate and sacred and it feels like you've built something together, something exclusive that can only be created. It can't be bought. There's no score or internal survey to see if it met your needs, or fell short. It's like comfort food, but better, because you know that person that loves you, and will be there again, in your bed. Instead of feeling manic or depressed, you're at peace. You're in marriage, and in bliss.

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    Jul 15, 2013 1:25 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidFor me, the slut phase felt like manic depression, with extreme highs and lows. It was thrilling when the encounter was a fantasy come true---and of course I would never regret those times. That's living. But then, when it's someone you're not into, and you can't say no, because you're already there and you're insecure, dominated---not even necessarily by him, but by yourself---and just going through the motions, that just kills you. Maybe some guys don't feel that way, but I tend to take things to an extreme. Mix in a little booze, or drugs, and it's a set up for coming down and feeling low.

    For me, the only casual sex is in a monogamous relationship, oddly. After years of intimacy with one person, you can have amazing sex, and you don't have to worry about what he thinks of you, or question who he really is, what if it goes wrong, is this risky, safe, or could it kill me? You can have sex, and it feels natural, like breathing above water. It can't drown you. And afterwords you can cuddle for a bit, or jump up and do something else. It's intimate and sacred and it feels like you've built something together, something exclusive that can only be created. It can't be bought. There's no score or internal survey to see if it met your needs, or fell short. It's like comfort food, but better, because you know that person that loves you, and will be there again, in your bed. Instead of feeling manic or depressed, you're at peace. You're in marriage, and in bliss.

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    That made me feel so fuzzy
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    Jul 15, 2013 3:25 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidFor me, the slut phase felt like manic depression, with extreme highs and lows.


    I think the phase of 'exploring' is an important phase for many guys to come to understand not only what works for them sexually but also what relationships really mean.

    I think most guys that have slept around a lot end up realizing that the excitement at the time is only the catapult for a very serious and depressing let down later. It's like crashing from a major sugar high, it's not fun as HotJoe noted.

    What's good about it, if you can put it that way, is that in the end you understand that what makes a relationship is what's deep inside a person heart, their sole, it's so much more than just about the hour of sex.

    The slutty phase does have it's benefits, if only to educate guys that satisfaction is so much more than physical.
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    Jul 15, 2013 3:35 PM GMT
    I went through 2 years of hook-ups. That was over 4 years ago. I could not and would not so that again. It's for some but not for me. I'm still recovering from that time.