Older guys in relationships with younger guys?

  • green_guy

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    Jul 12, 2013 10:24 PM GMT
    While watching Mad Men I thought about how incredibly attractive the 42 y/o actor John Hamm (Don Draper) was. Then this made me think about someone Dons age (35-40) being in a relationship with someone my age (20-25). Do you think an age gap that wide could actually produce a healthy relationship, or would things just get too awkward?
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    Jul 13, 2013 5:11 AM GMT
    Nothing awkward about it. I've dated guys with a broad range of ages, as young as 20 years my junior, and as much as 10 years my senior. As for serious relationships, my last BF was 15 years younger than me and it never was an issue. It's all about how you connect with the other person and the things you have in common.

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    Jul 13, 2013 5:13 AM GMT
    anything is possible, as long as there is mutual attraction
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    Jul 13, 2013 5:22 AM GMT
    It depends on the guy! I dated guys youngest at 19 and oldest around 43! I mean, as long as there's mutual attraction, never say never to anything! I am somewhat attracted to younger guys recently though around 27-28 yo! Who knows, age is just a number sometimes.
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    Jul 13, 2013 5:22 AM GMT
    If there's a connection, why not?
  • peterstrong

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    Jul 13, 2013 5:51 AM GMT
    if you are not the kind of guy who argues for your own limitations - no matter what your age - anything is possible. I love younger guys and i love guys of any age.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 13, 2013 6:20 AM GMT
    It would work for a while, but when I was just about 10 years out of HS, I ran into one of my old classmates. We were never close friends, but we knew each other from site. Any ways, the guy he became partners with was a good 20 years older than him (maybe more). I watched them grow older together and it really always looked wrong looking at it from the outside. But I guess for him, it was what he wanted. I think the guy was fairly well to do from what I could tell. After about 15 years I never saw them again, but I can say it looked really weird because the older guy was now about 65+ and my old class mate was about 45. And I think he sort of let himself go a bit so that his old partner wouldn't feel so bad about looking so much older. But he was still really good look (always was, and his old partner never matched his looks). I wouldn't do it, but to each their own.
  • selim

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    Jul 13, 2013 6:55 AM GMT
    green_guy saidDo you think an age gap that wide could actually produce a healthy relationship, or would things just get too awkward?



    an age gap that wide could actually produce a healthy relationship amd sometimes things would just get awkward.

    Older guys have their own social circle, which is different from younger guys', sometimes they need to talk to friends at their age when they are down since they don't necessarily receive "feedback" or "resonance" by sharing things with younger guys, who are not old enough to understand the way the older guys feel or think. Younger men may find it difficult to get into older men's friend circle.

    However, the age isn't necessarily equal to maturity, there are younger guys of incredible discreetion and there are older guys with a youthful heart. icon_neutral.gif
  • WApilot

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    Jul 13, 2013 7:01 AM GMT
    I'm 25, my boyfriend is 38. We get along just fine, have a ton in common. We have our differences, but we embrace those differences within each other. On a maturity level were about the same. Also, we aren't in a relationship with each other simply because of some weird fetish some guys have with being with an older or younger guy. Age really doesn't matter so long as there's a mutual connection between each other.

    Now 18-40 that's a big difference, but I'm not judging. icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 13, 2013 7:05 AM GMT
    I agree with the comments above - it depends on the guys. Age difference is an issue for some, a non-issue for others.
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    Jul 13, 2013 8:31 AM GMT
    I've said it before and I'll say it again. Stop calling us "Older." The correct term is "Chronologically Endowed." icon_exclaim.gif
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    Jul 13, 2013 8:43 AM GMT
    Nope! Only works in RARE sits.
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    Jul 13, 2013 8:57 AM GMT
    peterstrong saidif you are not the kind of guy who argues for your own limitations


    I really like that point of view icon_exclaim.gif
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    Jul 13, 2013 9:35 AM GMT
    I was in a relationship with a guy 10 years older.
    Age was never the issue. Though I do get the point when you or your boyfriend starts looking older. As such for me age difference of 10 years is not a big deal.
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    Jul 13, 2013 10:21 AM GMT
    Depends on the guy i guess, for me i couldn't really do it not for a long term relationship
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 13, 2013 10:54 AM GMT
    I think it depends on the two participants. Anything can work under the right circumstances. I would just say that age can be a problem.... but it can be overcome.
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    Jul 13, 2013 11:05 AM GMT

    Now 18-40 that's a big difference, but I'm not judging. icon_lol.gif[/quote]

    On a differnt note/topic.. My sister met her husband when she was 18 and he 40. My Parents didnt approve at first. My Dad if he was still alive, still didnt like it today. Well.. 25 yrs of being married later, and after raising 1 son, there still together.. He still works full time at his job. I get along great with him. Im surprized it lasted this long.
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    Jul 13, 2013 11:23 AM GMT
    green_guy saidWhile watching Mad Men I thought about how incredibly attractive the 42 y/o actor John Hamm (Don Draper) was. Then this made me think about someone Dons age (35-40) being in a relationship with someone my age (20-25). Do you think an age gap that wide could actually produce a healthy relationship, or would things just get too awkward?


    Depends on the people involved but most 42 year olds don't look like Jon Hamm.
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    Jul 13, 2013 11:38 AM GMT
    For me, it would be awkward! I'm one of those guys that prefer to date within my age range. The furthest age gap I've dated was 4 years. My bf is a year younger than I.
  • BillandChuck

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    Jul 13, 2013 11:44 AM GMT
    We have some friends like this with vast age differences, who've been great together for many years in one case, for several decades in two other cases, and all three of those couples are still going strong. Of course we have constant examples of other men our age who perpetually make fools of themselves chasing ridiculously younger men in a vain attempt to try and be/look/seem like their own youth and appeal hasn't passed. Love and respect is always pleasant to behold. Vulgar self-hatred and denial is always the opposite.
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    Jul 13, 2013 11:49 AM GMT
    Dating this fantastic guy for almost 3 years now (we have become long distance now but have lived together for 1 and a half year). He is 19 years older to me but a fabulous person. I love him and the age gap has not affected our relationship.
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    Jul 13, 2013 12:00 PM GMT
    MovingRightAlong saidI've said it before and I'll say it again. Stop calling us "Older." The correct term is "Chronologically Endowed." icon_exclaim.gif

    +1
    Or "more mature"
  • BillandChuck

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    Jul 13, 2013 12:05 PM GMT
    mileshelvetica said
    MovingRightAlong saidI've said it before and I'll say it again. Stop calling us "Older." The correct term is "Chronologically Endowed." icon_exclaim.gif

    Or "more mature"

    In the immortal words of Jerry Herman: I am what I am! Chronically endowed; more mature; older. Call it what you want. To be totally gay, we'll sum it up by paraphrasing Stephen Sondheim: WE'RE STILL HERE!
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    Jul 13, 2013 12:11 PM GMT
    It's challenging for anyone older to date someone in the "ME" generation since "ME's" think from a perspective of themselves first.
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    Jul 13, 2013 2:47 PM GMT
    BillandChuck saidIn the immortal words of Jerry Herman: I am what I am! Chronically endowed; more mature; older. Call it what you want. To be totally gay, we'll sum it up by paraphrasing Stephen Sondheim: WE'RE STILL HERE!
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