ex boyfriends... answer me this

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    Jul 13, 2013 7:48 AM GMT
    Why does my "ex" still fucking contact me after months (years) of no contact, giving him the blunt message "DO NOT CONTACT ME"???

    So today he fucking contacts me on facebook and asks, "uh, can I have your mailing address, I want to send you a letter..." (even though he has a bf and is practically married)

    My thought is, if he is gonna send a goddamn invitation to his fucking wedding ceremony, I'm gonna burn that shit and post that shit on facebook for his fucking face to see... icon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif


    Sorry... drunk posting at this moment in time.. blame it on the vodka.
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    Jul 13, 2013 1:01 PM GMT
    Lol your funny... Why you mad?
    Don't you have other important (key word) things to be worried about....
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    Jul 13, 2013 3:20 PM GMT
    LMAO..ROTFL..

    .. Just ignore him as much as you can.
  • Suetonius

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    Jul 13, 2013 5:46 PM GMT
    Not on FB, but isn't there a way of blocking people from contacting you on that site. "Defriending" them ?
  • in_this_corne...

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    Jul 13, 2013 5:50 PM GMT
    You're still this worked up after years of no contact? Why not simply decline his request for your address and ignore any effort of his to contact you in the future?
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    Jul 13, 2013 5:55 PM GMT
    youngRJ1 saidWhy does my "ex" still fucking contact me after months (years) of no contact, giving him the blunt message "DO NOT CONTACT ME"???

    So today he fucking contacts me on facebook and asks, "uh, can I have your mailing address, I want to send you a letter..." (even though he has a bf and is practically married)

    My thought is, if he is gonna send a goddamn invitation to his fucking wedding ceremony, I'm gonna burn that shit and post that shit on facebook for his fucking face to see... icon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif


    Sorry... drunk posting at this moment in time.. blame it on the vodka.

    Without knowing more context about your past relationship:

    If you actually respond to him on FB, tell him he can say whatever he wants to say on FB. Otherwise don't respond and let him wallow. With either response, it shows that you're calling the shots - don't let him remain in control. You'd be engaged in dysfunctionally codependent behaviour otherwise.
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    Jul 13, 2013 8:04 PM GMT
    Why do some people manage to pick up the pieces and move on, while others wallow in self-pity + get sloshed + and post f-bomb-slinging messages online like a 14 y/o?
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    Jul 13, 2013 8:07 PM GMT
    okonomiyaki saidWhy do some people manage to pick up the pieces and move on, while others wallow in self-pity + get sloshed + and post f-bomb-slinging messages online like a 14 y/o?


    ...................................................... this doesn't concern you.
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    Jul 13, 2013 8:10 PM GMT
    Suetonius saidNot on FB, but isn't there a way of blocking people from contacting you on that site. "Defriending" them ?


    That's what I did. I defriended him, but then he was like "Oh, I noticed that you defriended me I just wanted to blah blah blah.... (added me as a friend and of course rejected)

    I don't get it. And trust me boys, it's a weird almost fucked up situation..


    yah just doing my best to COMPLETELY ignore him on all communication lines. But he doesn't get the point. I have bluntly told him... "I do not want to talk to you... please stop....." I think he has a mental problem... who knows.
  • madsexy

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    Jul 13, 2013 8:11 PM GMT
    youngRJ1 saidWhy does my "ex" still fucking contact me after months (years) of no contact, giving him the blunt message "DO NOT CONTACT ME"???

    So today he fucking contacts me on facebook and asks, "uh, can I have your mailing address, I want to send you a letter..." (even though he has a bf and is practically married)

    My thought is, if he is gonna send a goddamn invitation to his fucking wedding ceremony, I'm gonna burn that shit and post that shit on facebook for his fucking face to see... icon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif


    Sorry... drunk posting at this moment in time.. blame it on the vodka.

    Not saying that this is you, but most of the time when this happens, it's the result of ambiguous communication from the other person. I know you said "DO NOT CONTACT ME", but . . . have you always said that, consistently, and you haven't blocked him on Facebook, apparently. The best thing you can do at this juncture is to reply to his request: "No" and make that it. Short, sweet and consistent. Good luck, man. Exes can really suck.
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    Jul 13, 2013 8:28 PM GMT
    youngRJ1 said
    Suetonius saidNot on FB, but isn't there a way of blocking people from contacting you on that site. "Defriending" them ?


    That's what I did. I defriended him, but then he was like "Oh, I noticed that you defriended me I just wanted to blah blah blah.... (added me as a friend and of course rejected)

    I don't get it. And trust me boys, it's a weird almost fucked up situation..


    yah just doing my best to COMPLETELY ignore him on all communication lines. But he doesn't get the point. I have bluntly told him... "I do not want to talk to you... please stop....." I think he has a mental problem... who knows.


    You can block people on FB. My exbf contacts me all the time. He just sent me an email a few days ago asking where I am and am I ok. Part me is like "WTF WE BROKE UP TWO YEARS AGO" and I ponder his motives, but it doesn't upset me. Are you still not over him?
  • Webster666

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    Jul 13, 2013 10:07 PM GMT
    It sounds as if you've done NOTHING to prevent him from contacting you, like NOT giving him any of your contact information, and BLOCKING him where ever possible, on the internet.
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    Jul 13, 2013 10:19 PM GMT
    Young_Rj
    My ex admitted to me in a round about half ass way.. that he would constantly try to contact me to hinder me from moving on..He was making it hard for me to forget him.

    A mutual friend told him that his efforts in contacting me only resulted in me being upset!..
    My Ex thought it was funny!..
  • BillandChuck

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    Jul 13, 2013 10:24 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidYoung_Rj
    My ex admitted to me in a round about half ass way.. that he would constantly try to contact me to hinder me from moving on..He was making it hard for me to forget him.

    A mutual friend told him that his efforts in contacting me only resulted in me being upset!..
    My Ex thought it was funny!..

    In NJ we have definite methods of dealing with a--holes like that.
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    Jul 13, 2013 10:30 PM GMT
    ^ ^ ^ ^ ^
    Actually.. HIT MEN here in Florida are cheaper..
    You could take out a hit for an iPhone II..
  • BillandChuck

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    Jul 13, 2013 10:49 PM GMT
    Anocxu said^ ^ ^ ^ ^
    Actually.. HIT MEN here in Florida are cheaper..
    You could take out a hit for an iPhone II..

    Why do you think we gave up our residence there for ones in HI and NJ? Things aren't getting any cheaper, and having the unfortunate combination of limited skills and virtually fixed retirement, iPhone IIs weren't paying the bills! icon_razz.gif
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    Jul 13, 2013 11:01 PM GMT
    BillandChuck said
    Anocxu said^ ^ ^ ^ ^
    Actually.. HIT MEN here in Florida are cheaper..
    You could take out a hit for an iPhone II..

    Why do you think we gave up our residence there for ones in HI and NJ? Things aren't getting any cheaper, and having the unfortunate combination of limited skills and virtually fixed retirement, iPhone IIs weren't paying the bills! icon_razz.gif


    ROTFL..LOL..
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    Jul 13, 2013 11:10 PM GMT
    I don't have an ex only a current lol.
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    Jul 13, 2013 11:15 PM GMT
    He is just your ex, its not like he killed your family. Im still friends with my ex and we have a great relationship.
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    Jul 28, 2013 2:07 AM GMT
    Charlitos....

    I told him that I can't be friends with him. It won't ever work, just because the relationship we did have, it was too strong and he knows this.

    Even though with his past ex's he has long forgotten and moved on, he still tries so hard to keep in touch with me... ugh.
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    Jul 28, 2013 2:10 AM GMT
    he just wants to hear your voice or know that you are doing well. he doesn't want to sneak into ur bed. so calm down and relax
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    Jul 28, 2013 3:13 AM GMT
    hahaha my ex was too hot !!! i try to fix things but i just bloked him and i can see him and be ok with lol

    The best solution is the time!!! time heals all!
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    Jul 28, 2013 3:34 AM GMT
    lol girl
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 28, 2013 3:38 AM GMT
    Sounds like it did not end well. Just tell him you are not ready to make nice, nice and wish him all the best.
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    Jul 28, 2013 3:48 AM GMT
    Are you not over him? Lol, why are you getting so worked up? Hahaha, you should hook up with his best gay friends, post it on FB and let him see it! Hahaha, this will rub in his face to see how hot you are still!@!
    If not, then just simply ignored and delete his emails. I am civil with my ex but I don't let him tag me on FB.