What do we mean when we call someone "gay"?

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    Nov 07, 2008 6:46 AM GMT
    It seems that everyone has a different opinion about this, even among the gay community. The line someone has to cross to be considered gay depends on who you talk to. I've heard answers ranging from "if you ever thought of another man in sexual terms" to "you can have sex with another guy but as long as you don't take it up the ass, you're not gay".

    I ask this in light of the marriage bans that passed on tuesday. I sincerely think that many of the people who voted yes on those bans are misinformed and/or ignorant not homophobic. I think it's up to us to educate them about what it really means to be gay, but sometimes I get the feeling even we don't have a specific answer for that.

    What do you guys think?
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    Nov 07, 2008 7:24 AM GMT
    oh boy... here we go again...


    no matter what anyone says,

    "i've heard it all before"

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    Nov 07, 2008 1:04 PM GMT
    hahahahahaha...ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh shoooot....you took it back!!!!!!!

    what ever happened to Sunshine Anderson?
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    Nov 07, 2008 2:49 PM GMT
    wud love to get in on this but i'll just say its too bad term gay has been hijacked by an extreme element w/i the same sex active/attracted community turning off most so called st8's [and bi/ gays too] who think of a cross dressing effeminate male who just wants to b f*ck'd [nothin wrong with those] when term 'GAY' is used...... yes, they are a SMALL PART but no need to have media strengthenin the stereotype.

    josh
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    Nov 07, 2008 3:01 PM GMT
    orthojock saidhahahahahaha...ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh shoooot....you took it back!!!!!!!

    what ever happened to Sunshine Anderson?


    Seriously! I love that song! Lol. She actually came out with a cd last year that was pretty good. Check it out!
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    Nov 12, 2008 2:33 AM GMT
    dowal saidIt seems that everyone has a different opinion about this, even among the gay community. The line someone has to cross to be considered gay depends on who you talk to. I've heard answers ranging from "if you ever thought of another man in sexual terms" to "you can have sex with another guy but as long as you don't take it up the ass, you're not gay".

    I ask this in light of the marriage bans that passed on tuesday. I sincerely think that many of the people who voted yes on those bans are misinformed and/or ignorant not homophobic. I think it's up to us to educate them about what it really means to be gay, but sometimes I get the feeling even we don't have a specific answer for that.

    What do you guys think?


    Often phobias are based on ignorance. Whether the word is "gay", "homosexual", "queer", "pervert", "faggot" or even "poofter" some people will oppose same gender relationships based on a combination of factors, with religious teachings being one of the principal ones.

    I have had conversations with Christian fundamentalists who personally like me, and are concerned for my heath, but will never accept in a million years the concept of a man marrying a man. Time will be the main solution to this problem, with legislation thrown in.
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    Nov 12, 2008 2:59 AM GMT


    What do WE mean? Well, to us, gay means men or women that have direct and intuitive access to both the male and female aspects of cognitive emotional behaviour. This means that when we think using all of the aspects of ourselves, we become a gestalt, that is, greater than the sum of feelings, intelligence and perceptions that comprise our 'selves'. Along with this comes the attraction to the physically and emotionally similar..which we tend to be enamored with, maybe to excess. Especially the sexual aspect! heheheh

    Not a standard popular answer, is it? Oh well...