How do you live your life?

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    Nov 07, 2008 10:24 AM GMT
    Not being much of a self-help junkie myself, I have, however, over the years run into a couple of sets of "rules" that are articulated in a way that resonate with me. I find that they mirror what I have learned from my own experience in trying to get by in the world. Anyway, I thought I would post these here and see if anyone else might like to post their own.
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    Nov 07, 2008 10:37 AM GMT
    I seldom get angry, but when I'm angry, I'm ANGRY. I try not to judge, but morons make that extremely hard to do sometimes.

    I try to be happy all the time but fail miserably, but I find hilarity in my failures. icon_biggrin.gif

    In other words, I laugh at myself, when there's nothing else to laugh about. icon_razz.gif

    I'm pathetic, I know... icon_cry.gif

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    Nov 07, 2008 10:55 AM GMT
    20 Life-Guiding Principles - These all come from 70's self help guru Robert Ringer - who is far more annoying in the oughts - but I still find them highly relevant. Note, these have been revised by me from the original so they are a bit more succinct and contemporary.

    1. Never compromise your integrity.
 

    (I observe this rule in everything except when I am horny or want something)

    2. Don’t make promises you can’t keep. Learn to say no politely.
 

    (This one is very hard for me, I don't like to say no, I want people to like me)

    3. Do it immediately — Never procrastinate.
 

    (Yeah, OK - just as soon as I log off the Intertubes)

    4. Overwhelmed? — don’t try to do everything — just do something.


    (This has always worked for me) 

    5. Do what you do best, leave everything else to others.


    (I call this Terry's sleeping rule) 

    6. Practice discretion. Don’t waste time talking about your plans to others.

    (I am from Texas - way hard to follow)
    
 
    7. Avoid quick fixes. Focus on long-term, permanent solutions.
 

    (I call this the Michael Jackson rule)

    8. Don’t leave important details to others, finalize things yourself. 
 

    (This has fucked up plenty of great opportunities for me, my true Achille's heel)

    9. Avoid premature victory celebrations.

    (I call this the George W. Bush rule - Mission Accomplished!!!) (By the way - who has done more damage to America - Osama Bin Laden or 3 Bush Presidencies?)
     
    10. Focus on the crux of the situation; don’t waste time on peripheral issues. 
 

    I call this the Warren Buffett rule - do this and everyone will think you are a genius - and you will be. However, it is very, very hard to do.

    11. Practice understatement. Say what you must say — then stop talking.

    (I call this Terry's P. Diddy rule - oh very difficult for me - but I see why it is a good idea)
    
 
    12. Don’t wait for something to happen. Make it happen!


    (not sure I agree with this one at all - but I keep it on the list anyway - in my doubting this rule I will dub it the Orson Welles rule "we will sell no wine before its time" - sure 90% of you abdomanally gifted bambini don't even know who Awesome Wells was

    13. Learn to love truth instead of trying to make true that which you love.


    (Frankly this is probably the most important rule, difficult to follow, and it begs a whole lot of existential questions that don't necessarily have good answers - as a bona-fide dreamer this is hard for me to accept or follow - but I do see it is sage advice)

    14. Never base a decision on conventional wisdom. Question everything.


    (this one doesn't even require effort from me anymore - am so far from conventional that I can't even find it anymore on a map - I will call this one the Charles Manson rule) 

    15. Pace yourself, don’t rush, and conserve energy for when you will need it. 

    (I call this the Lance Armstrong Rule)

    16. The most efficient way to get ahead is to leapfrog over the competition.

    (I call this the Steve Jobs rule - steal an idea, carve it up to its most minimal and perfect expression - a la some stud on the 300 workout - and then present it ripped and shredded as if it popped out of your own private UFO)

    17. Make it a habit to concentrate on opportunities rather than problems.


    (This I do, and it is 95% of the success I have enjoyed in my life) 

    18. You give others power over you. Without permission, they are powerless.
 

    (I do this too, and it is absolutely true - as yet unnamed)

    19. Live every moment as though the whole world were watching.


    (I call this one Terry's Max Mosley rule - extremely important - the essence of being "out") 

    20. Free will is the greatest asset you have at your disposal. 

    (This is my Alan Greenspan rule - still a fan even if I admired Milton Friedman more)
  • Laurence

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    Nov 07, 2008 11:08 AM GMT
    Gosh ursamajor, you sound a barrel of laughs.

    Here's my rules of life.

    1. Have fun
    2. Be kind and helpful
    3. Don't worry what other people think - it's your life.
    4. Worrying doesn't solve anything.
    5. Don't read self-help books, get out and live.
    6. Don't listen to me, or anyone else, we're full of sh*t

    Lozx
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    Nov 07, 2008 11:42 AM GMT
    Hah, thanks Larry, your right, I am a barrel-o-laughs, ho ho ho.
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    Nov 07, 2008 12:10 PM GMT
    My rules:

    1. Always paste your boogers in places where they won't be found until you've left the room, or better, the country.

    2. Don't leave toenail clippings on the tabletop when guests come over. For some reason, they find this unhygienic.

    3. Suck up only to the people who can do you some real tangible good. Sucking up to the others is a waste of energy and time. Learn to tell the difference.

    4. Don't expend any energy on people who annoy you, unless they have a truly amazing set of abs, then have sex with them before removing them from your life.

    5. Learn to cultivate an air of intense interest when people talk to you. This will give you the reputation of being a good listener, which will make them want you to fuck them.

    6. Don't actually listen to what they say. Most of it is nonsense, and will make you NOT want to fuck them.

    7.. When confronted with a puzzling situation, just kick back and ask:
    "What would Shecky Greene do?"
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    Nov 07, 2008 12:31 PM GMT
    If your farts are going to be loud, make sure the guys around you at the gym are wearing headphones.
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    Nov 07, 2008 12:34 PM GMT
    one thing i say to myself when things are tough/tedius/an-unnecessary-evil/boring/difficult is... 'let's make a game out of it' icon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif
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    Nov 07, 2008 1:06 PM GMT
    I living my life like it's golden...no wait...whoops Jill Scott said that.

    I'll get back to you on that one
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    Nov 07, 2008 2:31 PM GMT


    Everyone’s life has moments of self truth, often sad or shaming, but as many shining with truth and love, if any choose to seek them in themselves. Seek them. -DR Feltis

    Speak to others from a point of reassurance and attempt to elate them whenever possible. - DR Feltis

    If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
    Do good anyway. - Kent M Keith

    People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
    Help people anyway. - Kent M Keith


    People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
    Love them anyway. - Kent M Keith

    ...there's more but I'm a little distracted today....

    -Doug of meninlove
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    Nov 07, 2008 2:37 PM GMT
    Terry, Jeff...I make it a point to viciously hate the world and everything about it before 7am, double-hate it if it's raining and dark out still, and triple-hate-goddamn-rain-down-armageddon on it if it's before 7am, dark and rainy, and I'm out of coffee and hair product, as happens to be the case this morning. You gentlemen, have accomplished the near-impossible today: you've made me smile despite being tired, grumpy, and having bad hair. Salut!

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    Nov 07, 2008 2:56 PM GMT
    SUCCESS by Ralph Waldo Emerson (supposedly):

    "To laugh often and much;
    to win the respect of intelligent people
    and the affection of children;
    to earn the appreciation of honest critics
    and endure the betrayal of false friends;
    to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others;
    to leave the world a bit better,
    whether by a healthy child,
    a garden patch
    or a redeemed social condition;
    to know even one life has breathed easier
    because you have lived.
    This is to have succeeded."

    Slowly, surely, and subtly this passage has become the beginning and end point for most of my interactions and endeavors.
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    Nov 07, 2008 3:04 PM GMT
    ursamajor saidZdrew -

    Don't talk to me about bad hair - biatch - cuz I am all up in that - sorry, really, I saw Vince Vaughn do this in a bad bad movie and it is rattling around my otherwise empty head.


    It I were in London right now I would affix you with my Medusean stare, and you would shriek and turn to stone. Biatch. icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 07, 2008 3:04 PM GMT
    If thy cup runneth over, get a bigger cup.
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    Nov 07, 2008 3:05 PM GMT
    Or, McGay, simply drink faster.
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    Nov 07, 2008 3:09 PM GMT
    I've found the routine application of Occam's razor to be rather helpful.
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    Nov 07, 2008 3:09 PM GMT


    THANKS TERRY!

    This topic is a 'keeper'!

    -us
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    Nov 07, 2008 3:11 PM GMT
    SUCCESS by Dick Cheney (supposedly):

    "To laugh often and much;
    to win the respect of intelligent people
    and the affection of children (or kill them);
    to earn the hatred of all honest thinking humans
    and endure the betrayal of trailer-trash Presidents and hottie neocon governatrixes;
    to appreciate the smell of napalm in the morning; to find the best in others (or if you can't - then incarcerate them forever without due process of law);
    to leave the world a lot meaner and more dangerous place,
    whether by killing the parents of a healthy child from a mindless remote-controlled drone,
    poisoning a garden patch with secret dumping from weapons labs
    or enriching the social conditions of your friends (yes even those already in prison for heinous crimes against humanity - hang in the Radavan);
    to know even one life has breathed easier (as long as it yours or a cronies hiding in a safe location)
    because you have lived at the price of a generation of your nations youth and the entire future of the planet.
    This is to have succeeded in my twisted - warped - demonic playbook of life."
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Nov 07, 2008 3:12 PM GMT
    I try to live my life from a positive place in my mind and heart every day, and it works. Strangely, even when I have setbacks I tend to keep a smile on my face and stay in a good upbeat mood. I don't wallow in negativity, and I don't let people around me do that either. Life is too short, and you just have to keep moving forward and remain optimistic. Don't worry, be h-a-p-p-yicon_lol.gif
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    Nov 07, 2008 3:14 PM GMT
    Zdrew shrieks like a little girl,

    "It I were in London right now I would affix you with my Medusean stare, and you would shriek and turn to stone. Biatch."

    Honey, you don't even need to be in London, I get hard as a rock just lookin at your fine mus-cu-lar bee-hind in the photos - diggit - Biatch.

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    Nov 07, 2008 3:15 PM GMT
    an attitude of gratitude
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    Nov 07, 2008 3:44 PM GMT
    I avoid self-help books like the plague. Over the years I have developed some philosophies to live by.

    - try to treat others with respect as much as possible;

    - never ignore the obvious about the world around you or yourself, no matter how painful it maybe;

    - take responsibility for your actions;

    - think of past events in your life to improve your present and future;

    - emotions are there for a reason, you ignore them or suppress them at your own peril;

    - life is always worth living, bad times only seem to go on forever, they eventually pass;

    - you have a brain for a reason, use it, challenge it, exercise it and never let it get lazy;

    - in a relationship with your partner remember two phrases, "I love you", "I am sorry". Hopefully you will be saying the first phrase a lot more than the second.

    - not everything in life that happens to you happens for a reason;

    - life is much bigger than you are, remember that and be humbled;

    - in the history of mankind you will be one of a kind, so make sure you give it your best shot, you owe it to life to do so.
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    Nov 07, 2008 3:56 PM GMT
    1) People make mistakes........try not to hold grudges and forgive easily..........try not to spend time "getting even" or "pursing justice" unless the fight is worth it in the long run. Forgive your neighbors, boss and most importantly, if you can, your mom and dad.

    2) The "gay scene" is whatever I make it. Don't follow or act like the crowd simply because everybody else is.

    3) Try to separate real happness from material possessions and money when you measure your life's worth.

    4) Never be so set in your ways that you think you know it all.

    5) Beauty is what beauty does.

    6) Respect the planet not only in words and cliches but action.

    7) Celebrate other people's acheivements rather than be jealous or insecure.

    icon_cool.gif Be a man....show pride you are gay....not only screaming and yelling at a parade.

    9) Listen to younger people...they have ideals and hopes that you have long forgotten.

    10) LOVE ONE ANOTHER.
  • Timbales

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    Nov 07, 2008 4:02 PM GMT
    Treat others the way I want to be treated.
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    Nov 07, 2008 5:48 PM GMT
    As my fellow Alaskan (Jewel, not Failin' Palin) once sung, what's simple is true. At the end of the day, am I happy? If yes, I've lived my day right.