Why do people HATE the "other guy/girl"?

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    Jul 14, 2013 2:50 AM GMT
    They say they are gonna kill the person their partner is cheating with or beat them badly... but WHY?

    Shouldn't you be most mad with the one who actually cheated on you? There is also a chance the other person did not know they were helping a cheater...

    I dunno maybe I've watched too much Jerry and Cheaters icon_biggrin.gif

    Also if your dealing with someone who didn't like you enough to have the common decency to tell you they want to see other people.. why give either one of them ANY time at all?

    Personally I would act like cheater meant nothing to me at all EVER ( no matter how I really felt )so I wouldn't make myself look desperate and also so I wouldn't make the person they cheated with feel like they have won some sort of "prize".. no you just got my leftovers I was no longer interested in icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 14, 2013 3:11 AM GMT
    See..
    This is why I encourage all my gays to stay creative !

    There is absolutely nothing more endearing than watching a cheating boyfriend eat a pin cushion..disguised as a muffin!
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    Jul 14, 2013 3:18 AM GMT
    Yeah, I never understood why the anger is almost always directed at the other one. It should be both of them. People are fuckin weird.

    If people are willing to stay with a cheater, then I guess misery loves company.
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    Jul 14, 2013 3:27 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidSee..
    This is why I encourage all my gays to stay creative !

    There is absolutely nothing more endearing than watching a cheating boyfriend eat a pin cushion..disguised as a muffin!


    Ummmmmmmmmm ...... icon_confused.gif
    ..............................huh?
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    Jul 14, 2013 3:35 AM GMT
    On a serious note ..I have heard members of a couples rationalize the most ridiculous scenarios on behalf of a cheating partner..

    "She lead him on"
    "He knew we were a couple"
    "She knows he has kids"
    "He knew we were about to hit five years together"
    ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^
    What the What?

    I love when one woman is beating the crap out of another and the hubby stands with his hands in his pockets!

    Now a 'Gay Man Scorned'.. Head for the bunkers!
  • Webster666

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    Jul 14, 2013 4:15 AM GMT
    I know.
    I've seen this countless times, where the person who's been wronged puts all the blame on the other woman/man, as if their own lying assed partner were 100% innocent.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 14, 2013 4:23 AM GMT
    I've had more than one guy cheat on me. I never dreamed or even thought of wanting to hurt them or the one they cheated with. We don't own other humans, everyone has a right to live their life the way they want. Sure it bruised my heart, but if someone doesn't like or love me enough to be true to me, then I cannot force them to.

    Edit ... ya I didn't answer why people do it.. the only thing I have ever been able to come up with is that they are nuts
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    Jul 14, 2013 8:37 AM GMT
    Personally, my view is that it takes 2 to cheat and both are equally as responsible in making the choice to cheat.

    TBH there really is just not any room for cheaters, there's no excuse under the sun that would justify cheating.

    If you want an open relationship then go find one, don't try prying yourself into a monogamous one.
    Ain't nobody got time for dat shyt!
  • Saffron69

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    Jul 14, 2013 8:50 AM GMT
    I suppose when ur fueled with all that pain you think "I wouldn't be in this situation if it wasn't for him/her... If he/she was not part of the equation I would still be happy" That's just my hypothesis on the situation. Having be cheated on It was a simple matter of blocking any means of communications from him to me after he continued to insult my intelligence after I forgave him no less. Word of advice to anyone who needs it... when someone forgives you for something you did that's not a license to be a shithead
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    Jul 14, 2013 9:27 AM GMT
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    Jul 14, 2013 12:20 PM GMT
    A guy I was messing around with years ago ended up being in a three year relationship. I had NO idea, and he'd told me he was single.

    One night at the bar I was checking out this cute guy, when his friend comes over and goes "hey, my friend wants to talk to you". WOOT!

    I get over there, and he starts asking about the guy I'd been messing around with. Then he goes "Oh. I'm only asking because I'm his boyfriend. Of three years."

    I called the other guy right there and bitched him out on the phone. The guy who'd been cheated on was still pretty pissed, but thankfully put the anger toward his partner once he realized I had no idea what was going on.