Just came out.

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    Jul 14, 2013 8:25 AM GMT
    Soooo I just came at at 28 yrs old. My whole life has been filled with religion and being masculine but I was not happy with myself. I always had an attraction to masculine guys so I played a lot of sports in high and while I'm in the military. But the thing is I fem and I know that I am a bottom. This has been a roller coaster ride with all the depression, but I would like to know how others guys here feel after coming out. Thanks.
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    Jul 14, 2013 8:27 AM GMT

    Well welcome to another ' family of religion ' ...

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    Jul 14, 2013 8:45 AM GMT
    Great Man.. Im not there yet to answer though sorry icon_confused.gif
  • PR_GMR

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    Jul 14, 2013 8:58 AM GMT
    Congratulations in taking such a brave step! Accept yourself.. and I hope you soon find the love that you deserve.
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    Jul 14, 2013 3:01 PM GMT
    pf0081 saidI got drink then came out to my sister who already kind knew and let her tell everyone lol. Real brave icon_smile.gif


    Wow, now that's a story,lolicon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 14, 2013 3:20 PM GMT
    Congratulations, man. Be yourself, be good to yourself and to others, despite how life may batter you. Your SELF is the important thing; looking yourself in the face in the mirror, your knowledge of who and what and how and why you are, and your acceptance of yourself for that and of others for how they are. Welcome to this side of the aisle, as some of my friends say. And we're all here to help you along the way if you need it.
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    Jul 14, 2013 3:21 PM GMT
    Congrats man! Here are other experiences....

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums?searchtext=Just+came+out
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    Jul 14, 2013 3:25 PM GMT
    Congrats. It doesn't matter if you're masculine or feminine or a top or a bottom, etc. But it does matter that you are being your authentic self, living a real/truthful life, and are happy. Focus on being a good person, and forgot about the masculine/feminine stuff. Be an awesome feminine bottom who is strong, courageous, caring, responsible, etc. That's where your attention should be.

    I came out when I was 16 to myself and a few friends and was out to everyone when I was about 21. It is so much better being out than pretending to be something I'm not. Be your authentic self and inspire others.
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    Jul 14, 2013 3:27 PM GMT
    Congrats! It's been about a month now for me, and I'm doing great. Here's my story if you're interested:

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3260792/

    Peace.

    Mike
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    Jul 14, 2013 3:27 PM GMT
    Good for you, it's a big step to do that.

    I'm still not out my family yet, because I was raised very traditional and it would be hard for them to accept. However, I did come out to myself and I felt a lot better, like a weight was lifted. When I realized that being into guys was just how I was wired, I let my feelings flow and feel normal. That was the key, to let it flow and stopping running, because that fear was wearing me down. When I turned 27 this past April, I felt like I needed to accept myself or end up being miserable and wasting what is left of my 20s, since I had already wasted most of them running. Is still have to step out to my family at some point, but at I cleared the biggest obstacle, which was myself.
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    Jul 14, 2013 3:28 PM GMT
    Rockbiter said It is so much better being out than pretending to be something I'm not. Be your authentic self and inspire others.


    What he said!
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    Jul 14, 2013 4:14 PM GMT
    Congratulations, you've taken a big step in accepting who you are and moving on with your life. I didn't come out until I was 50 so you're way ahead of me. Be who you are, embrace those who support and love you, let go, as hard as it might be, those who scorn or reject you. You're not a different person then you were yesterday, so if they loved you yesterday, they'll love you today. If not, be gone with them.

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    Jul 14, 2013 5:05 PM GMT
    Congrats.Now get out that feather boa and work it girl!icon_smile.gif Ryan and Ruben.
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    Jul 14, 2013 5:07 PM GMT
    Congrats!!

    Don't listen to those self proclaimed masculine guys. Just be yourself.
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    Jul 14, 2013 10:48 PM GMT
    I felt better... for the most part, like I had a huge weight off of my shoulders. There was a brief period of time where I kind of regretted it, but I'm not really one to let silence reign between me and my mother, so I talked her through it.

    Even if there's certain things I shouldn't really say around certain people, I don't have to outright lie to them. If my mom gets the hint, she just won't ask the question.
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    Jul 15, 2013 12:44 AM GMT
    Thanks you guys are awesome. With being fem I have experienced other fem guys who are complete drama queen and are aiming for so much attention. I can't understand why some fem guys have to be so loud spoken. I feel better being as I am and plan on keeping my gym routine and being a better person. I'm outta the military in Sept. and I will be moving to Atlanta, Georgia. Anyone have experience with this place?
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    Jul 15, 2013 12:59 AM GMT
    Thicqness saidThanks you guys are awesome. With being fem I have experienced other fem guys who are complete drama queen and are aiming for so much attention. I can't understand why some fem guys have to be so loud spoken. I feel better being as I am and plan on keeping my gym routine and being a better person. I'm outta the military in Sept. and I will be moving to Atlanta, Georgia. Anyone have experience with this place?


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    Jul 15, 2013 1:03 AM GMT
    Thicqness saidI'm outta the military in Sept. and I will be moving to Atlanta, Georgia. Anyone have experience with this place?

    It has it's charms. You'll find pockets of gay life in the city. It's predominately centered around Midtown and more specifically the Piedmont area of Midtown.

    But of course gay life is not the centerpiece of ATL. There is many things to do that should suit your fancy. It's like any other big, developed, city. Just know that you'll need a car as it is not pedestrian friendly by any means. Think LA lite.
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    Jul 15, 2013 1:09 AM GMT
    Thicqness saidThanks you guys are awesome. With being fem I have experienced other fem guys who are complete drama queen and are aiming for so much attention. I can't understand why some fem guys have to be so loud spoken. I feel better being as I am and plan on keeping my gym routine and being a better person. I'm outta the military in Sept. and I will be moving to Atlanta, Georgia. Anyone have experience with this place?


    Some are just queens and some are drama queens. There is plenty of room for both in the Gay Kingdom. Be the type of gay you want to be without disparaging the type of gay others want to be. You don't have to understand it; you just have to be tolerant. If you want the freedom to be who you are you have to be willing to grant that same freedom to others.

    P.S. Welcome aboard.
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    Jul 15, 2013 1:12 AM GMT
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    Thicqness saidThanks you guys are awesome. With being fem I have experienced other fem guys who are complete drama queen and are aiming for so much attention. I can't understand why some fem guys have to be so loud spoken. I feel better being as I am and plan on keeping my gym routine and being a better person. I'm outta the military in Sept. and I will be moving to Atlanta, Georgia. Anyone have experience with this place?


    Some are just queens and some are drama queens. There is plenty of room for both in the Gay Kingdom. Be the type of gay you want to be without disparaging the type of gay others want to be. You don't have to understand it; you just have to be tolerant. If you want the freedom to be who you are you have to be willing to grant that same freedom to others.

    P.S. Welcome aboard.



    Thank you! Well said...
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    Jul 15, 2013 4:30 AM GMT
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    Thicqness saidThanks you guys are awesome. With being fem I have experienced other fem guys who are complete drama queen and are aiming for so much attention. I can't understand why some fem guys have to be so loud spoken. I feel better being as I am and plan on keeping my gym routine and being a better person. I'm outta the military in Sept. and I will be moving to Atlanta, Georgia. Anyone have experience with this place?


    Some are just queens and some are drama queens. There is plenty of room for both in the Gay Kingdom. Be the type of gay you want to be without disparaging the type of gay others want to be. You don't have to understand it; you just have to be tolerant. If you want the freedom to be who you are you have to be willing to grant that same freedom to others.

    P.S. Welcome aboard.


    Yea, you are right. Freedom and tolerance should be equal for all.