Dealing with rejection after being lead on.

  • Rich_Chambo

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    Jul 14, 2013 7:45 PM GMT
    Sorry I need to post to release some stress

    I've been dating a guy for 8/9 weeks now. Everything was going well and about the 4th/5th week I told him how I felt towards him and I wanted a relationship with him. He told me he was enjoying being with me and wanted to take things slow and I agreed.
    Yesterday, he decided to send me a message saying he only wants me as a friend as he doesn't see me in a romantic way. This comes after he becomes friends with a guy on Facebook the same day and I looked on the other guys profile and he is gay and not long after a photo appeared of them both out the night before enjoying themselves and the guy ive been seeing commented on the picture saying its a cute pic.
    I feel like I have been used as he know how I felt and he now tells me he didn't see me that way so why did he let me think there was a chance? I've gave him plenty of opportunities to tell me but he never did so I presumed I was in with a chance, I feel like he's only saying this because he met someone the other night. I may have got all that wrong about the other guy but if seems a bit suspicious.
    I feel very hurt even though I've only been seeing him for a few weeks. Why can't people be honest instead of leading people on and using them till they find something better or is it just me?
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    Jul 14, 2013 7:55 PM GMT
    I think you are over thinking it... Dating is Dating.. Maybe he just did meet someone he is more compatible with.. no shame in that

    If you feel you did or told him stuff you wish you hadn't, then maybe you did those thing too soon. Maybe wait 10 weeks before you get Too deep with a guy next time, even then limit your stuff til he says he wants to be monogamous

    Should find someone else, like the other guy said.... you will live
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    Jul 14, 2013 8:16 PM GMT
    How do you know that he wasn't being honest with you? The only "evidence" you have is what you saw on Facebook. You need to talk to this guy, explain to him about how hurt you are and hopefully he'll have the decency to give you an explanation.
  • Rich_Chambo

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    Jul 14, 2013 9:23 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidHow do you know that he wasn't being honest with you? The only "evidence" you have is what you saw on Facebook. You need to talk to this guy, explain to him about how hurt you are and hopefully he'll have the decency to give you an explanation.


    I have spoken to him and asked for an explanation and he told me he's not sure why cause he really enjoyed the times he's been with me and that he cant really explain. That made me even more confused. I never questioned anything about the picture I saw cause it could be totally innocent. But he knows I've seen it.
    I just feel like its me who's got the problem. Maybe I came on too soon?
  • Webster666

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    Jul 14, 2013 10:45 PM GMT
    TheRece25 saidI think you are over thinking it... Dating is Dating.. Maybe he just did meet someone he is more compatible with.. no shame in that

    If you feel you did or told him stuff you wish you hadn't, then maybe you did those thing too soon. Maybe wait 10 weeks before you get Too deep with a guy next time, even then limit your stuff til he says he wants to be monogamous

    Should find someone else, like the other guy said.... you will live



    Like this guy said...

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    Jul 15, 2013 12:31 AM GMT


    "Yesterday, he decided to send me a message saying he only wants me as a friend as he doesn't see me in a romantic way."

    Imagine how it would have been had he told you yes you're it, and THEN this happened. Sometimes realizing how much worse it could have gone can help you disengage with a 'dodged the bullet' understanding.

    *hugs you*

    -Doug