picking up guys at the mall?

  • christastic

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    Jul 17, 2013 1:46 AM GMT
    Say I happened to lock eyes with a cute guy this afternoon as we were walking past each other, and my gaydar totally went off... it wouldn't be the first time it happened, but every time we both continue walking and never see each other again =( How do I seize the day without looking totally creepy?
  • mitshoo

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    Jul 17, 2013 4:32 AM GMT
    I think the first thing you have to do, before anything else, is accept that you might get rejected. If you can do that, go into it and say "It might turn out badly" and let that possibility be OK, then you can be calm when you approach him. If you are calm, then he can be calm. If you were anxious, then he would be anxious. So the first thing is calmness and confidence.

    The second thing might be to pick out something to talk about. I don't know what. Does he wear band shirts? Talk about music? Is there anything else you know about him just by sight? It's pretty darn hard to talk to a total stranger, not going to lie.
  • christastic

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    Jul 17, 2013 5:03 AM GMT
    Oh I know how to be rejected, happens all the time at clubs. Just that I worry that someone who might otherwise be into me be put off by the fact that I'm coming onto him at a place like the mall.
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    Jul 17, 2013 5:41 AM GMT
    Start with the right attire before you go. Wear this...

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    Be prepared with a Google Voice number or some other abstracted way of contacting you without actually giving out your real phone number, address, or other way of actually finding you. Have this written/printed out on some slips of paper / cards.

    Grindr, Jack'd, or any other GPS enabled social media app might help.
  • MikeW

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    Jul 17, 2013 5:44 AM GMT
    Just relax, smile and say, "hey, what's up, sexy boy?"
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    Jul 17, 2013 5:58 AM GMT
    ... Shop here often?

    ... Do you know of a good sale on cock rings at the this mall?

    ... Those sneakers are GREAT... what size are they?

    ... Did I see you at Dress Barn the other day...?
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    Jul 17, 2013 6:03 AM GMT
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  • mitshoo

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    Jul 17, 2013 6:24 AM GMT
    christastic saidOh I know how to be rejected, happens all the time at clubs. Just that I worry that someone who might otherwise be into me be put off by the fact that I'm coming onto him at a place like the mall.


    I wouldn't mind it if you came onto me at the mall ;) But seriously, think of it this way: would you be bothered if he came up and started talking to YOU at the mall? Obviously not, or you would not have started this thread. Perhaps he feels the same way. I don't see why malls are somehow bad places, or at least, any worse than any other public place to meet someone (aside from bars and such where that's an unstated reason to go). Some of the best people that we meet we meet in odd places. So, I wouldn't worry about location. If I was interested in someone, I wouldn't much care where they finally started talking to me. I'd just be glad they did since I was too afraid to. Does that help? I hope I'm not just rambling now.... moral of the story: if he is giving you glances back, just take that as a sign that he's waiting for you to make a move =)

    Also, having an "I'm gay" shirt like GAMRican said really isn't a bad idea.
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    Jul 17, 2013 7:29 AM GMT
    Maybe start by smiling and saying 'hi'?
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    Jul 17, 2013 7:54 AM GMT
    GAMRican said
    Be prepared with a Google Voice number or some other abstracted way of contacting you without actually giving out your real phone number, address, or other way of actually finding you. Have this written/printed out on some slips of paper / cards.

    Grindr, Jack'd, or any other GPS enabled social media app might help.


    So....always be prepared to "accidentally" run into a cute boy, then just happen to have slips of paper with your contact info ready to hand out?

    Yeah, not creepy and desperate at all.icon_razz.gif

    How about, just say a simple "hi" as you walk past, and see if he responds?
  • iHavok

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    Jul 17, 2013 2:09 PM GMT
    I know a lot of ppl in the bay area (SF specifically) that have business cards with their contact info on them. I guess it's a trendy gay thing to do? I dunno. seems odd to me... Least it's cheap!
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    Jul 17, 2013 5:47 PM GMT
    All you can do is take a chance and speak, he may not be receptive or you just might get lucky. Never know unless you try.
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    Jul 17, 2013 5:53 PM GMT
    YCYL.... Doesn't everyone know we don't want to be bothered when we shop? Why does everyone need to be such creepers? Going up to a guy who's in the middle of shopping, or even making eye contact, is just sooo wrong! The mall is sacred and must not be used for advancing your perverted sexual desires.

    Remember YCYL!!

    Yes, this is sarcasm!
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    Jul 17, 2013 6:04 PM GMT
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  • mybud

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    Jul 18, 2013 6:20 AM GMT
    MikeW saidJust relax, smile and say, "hey, what's up, sexy boy?"
    Ya that always works like a charm...Wear yo undies outside yo jeans too...
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    Jul 18, 2013 6:47 AM GMT
    How about just talking to him? I don't really understand why you think you look creepy when you are just going to walk up to him and talk to him. icon_confused.gif
  • Guycicle

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    Jul 18, 2013 7:08 AM GMT
    "Hey what's up? Can I buy you an Orange Julius?"
  • MikeW

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    Jul 18, 2013 7:32 AM GMT
    mybud said
    MikeW saidJust relax, smile and say, "hey, what's up, sexy boy?"
    Ya that always works like a charm...Wear yo undies outside yo jeans too...

    LOL There's nothing wrong with being friendly, even a little flirtatious. Either you get a positive response or you don't... and if you're 'gaydar' is going off and there's obvious eye contact chances are the other guy is just needing something to cut the ice. So, yeah, drop the 'sexy boy' part and just say 'hi' or whatever. See where it goes if anywhere.
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    Jul 18, 2013 1:30 PM GMT
    Mighty_Q said
    GAMRican said
    Be prepared with a Google Voice number or some other abstracted way of contacting you without actually giving out your real phone number, address, or other way of actually finding you. Have this written/printed out on some slips of paper / cards.

    Grindr, Jack'd, or any other GPS enabled social media app might help.


    So....always be prepared to "accidentally" run into a cute boy, then just happen to have slips of paper with your contact info ready to hand out?

    Yeah, not creepy and desperate at all.icon_razz.gif

    How about, just say a simple "hi" as you walk past, and see if he responds?


    I have special "business cards" which I keep handy (one between my phone and phone case; two with my Clipper Card holder/lanyard). It has come in handy. Opportunity favors the prepared.
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    Jul 18, 2013 1:34 PM GMT
    In the mall when you spot a hot man and you think he might be gay ..... all you have to do is give him " the look " and he will know, then say something to him. If he engages then he's interested
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    Jul 18, 2013 1:38 PM GMT
    Are they having a two for one special?
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    Jul 18, 2013 3:57 PM GMT
    I don't know I don't do that at all, but there are times guys smile and say Hi to me, I give them a smile or a nod, and my mind goes "Yes you are just dreaming, its just a dream.." and by the time I realize...icon_rolleyes.gif I feel like a dumbo!

    But there was once this guy he smooch at me desperately on the way walking out of the gym. I went icon_eek.gif , inside I went "Eww" icon_lol.gif

    you see sometimes my eyes captures every detail of everything and then store it, and then process it later, when I rewind and play it back...Jeez that guy really gave a hint and I missed it! icon_confused.gif..probably its my nature of studying something before I attempt cause I don't simply wink. Body language does take a high note with my very capable eyes. Not that I'm being boastful here just wanted to share there are geeks who are very good in bed.

    #Ohsnap!
  • Destinharbor

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    Jul 18, 2013 4:07 PM GMT
    Just say "Hey, How's it going." If he is straight or not interested, he'll blow you off. If he is interested, he'll respond. Pretty easy.
  • madsexy

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    Jul 18, 2013 4:09 PM GMT
    manboynyc said... Shop here often?

    ... Do you know of a good sale on cock rings at the this mall?

    ... Those sneakers are GREAT... what size are they?

    ... Did I see you at Dress Barn the other day...?

    OMFG LMQFAO! icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
    But to be serious,
    Destinharbor saidJust say "Hey, How's it going." If he is straight or not interested, he'll blow you off. If he is interested, he'll respond. Pretty easy.

    THIS!
  • madsexy

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    Jul 18, 2013 4:11 PM GMT
    Shawnathan saidif you buy me an ice cream or froyo, then my heart is yours.

    Made note!