San Diego Experience

  • Joeyphx444

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    Jul 17, 2013 10:43 AM GMT
    I went to San Diego this past weekend. It was pretty cool, I got to see some cool sites and met cool people and made a friend icon_biggrin.gif My reason for going was NOT pride but it just happened that way and I did not plan to go to any events and I didn't. I was able to some cool things and it was more or less an intro to the city. I still would like to see more, I didn't even go to the zoo icon_sad.gif I went alone. Why? Cuz my friends are girls who have bfs they live with and it's hard to plan with them, especially since I planned this with about 2 weeks or less in advanced. One of my friends who use to frequent SD has a kid now so makes it extremely hard to see her normally, let alone to travel.

    I don't regret going alone but next time I'd like to be with someone. While I did some sight seeing on my own, I did hang with some people and met new ones as well. It was overall an OK time. I don't regret not going to pride celebrations. I figured it wasn't for me. All the partying, the drunk people, the sex, the drugs, just not me. Yet at the same time I felt like maybe I WAS missing out on something. I did try to go out a few times but ended up not having fun and left early and was bored with the whole scene. It was hard to find people who just wanted to hang and not just fuck around. I wasn't looking for anything more than a friend and I did make one which was cool but I still feel something was missing. Maybe it's cuz I was alone in an unfamiliar place but I consider myself adventurous so I am not sure what I was feeling. The guy I befriended was cool and we had some pretty in depth conversations about things. He was going through his own things as was I. I didn't expect this trip to be so reflecting and intense but it was.

    So I am here in AZ again, just in a weird mood all day and night. I don't know what's going on. I know I am only 23 but I feel like I am at some sort of a crossroads in life. I don't know if what I am feeling is depression, tiredness or just something else?
  • mascmuscle35

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    Jul 17, 2013 4:19 PM GMT
    Traveling is good for the soul. It allows introspective analysis of your life. It's OK to be alone. You should try traveling abroad, I think you will really like it.

    Don't be hard on your self. You are on your path, and be blessed by the journey.
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    Jul 17, 2013 5:33 PM GMT
    San Diego is a wonderful city. There's so much to do there, and it's such an attractive area. Next time you should definitely try and go to the zoo, and if you're into museums, there are a number of them in a section called Balboa Park. Downtown San Diego is also fun to just walk around in, and there are good restaurants everywhere. Hillcrest, the gay section of SD, has some very good ones, and some nice book stores as well. Pacific Beach is also worth visiting, as is Coronado, Encinitas, La Jolla, and if you don't mind driving a little ways outside of San Diego, Laguna Beach.

    I understand what you're feeling. Sometimes it's just nice to be with someone,especially when you're in a new area. I've been feeling something similar, as I don't have the most dependable friends, so for the most part I do things on my own. It gets frustrating, and I wish that I knew people I could do things with. But, I know I'll eventually meet new people.
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    Jul 17, 2013 5:33 PM GMT
    What, you didn't go to Sea World and see Shamu?!!

    For all the time I lived in San Diego I somehow never made it to Sea World. Oh well. There was some guy at this leather bar a friend and I went to; his nickname was Shamu because his dick was really big. The thought drove my friend crazy since he was a true size queen.

    To me San Diego is just another city; nothing special except it has nice weather and beaches. The only thing I really miss is the Roberto's chain of greasy spoon fast food Mexican places. Best refried beans and burritos I've ever had.
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    Jul 17, 2013 5:38 PM GMT
    Cabrillo Nat'l Monument on Point Loma is beautiful. I sat for hours staring at the waves hitting the rocks.
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    Jul 17, 2013 6:52 PM GMT
    Hi there!

    I want to tell you that I have been going through the same thing, except I've been in Italy (alone) for about 2 months. The first 2 weeks were really hard being alone. I didn't want to do anything, yet I knew I would regret not seeing the sites. So I walked around and it made me even more depressed, I was even thinking about how much I missed my ex O_o *gasp* But ever since I got off my butt and started doing things it's taken me on this awesome adventure that has had it's beautiful moments disguised as horrible moments. For example, I had to walk across Rome in the pouring rain about 2 weekends ago but I decided to smile and sing in the rain (I know.. sooooo gay but it really made me happy though). It's an experience I will never forget. I've also learned how to be comfortable talking to strangers (In very broken Italian). And most of all I've learned how to be my own best friend. This is the biggest breakthrough of my life. I never thought I would appreciate and learn to love myself but it took a little time for me to realize that I was tired of being my own worst enemy.
    I am going to tell you that I was probably one of the most self loathing people on this planet (I attempted suicide in high school) but I made it out fighting. Just remember whenever you do something alone and you start to feel depressed just walk around and realize how amazing your life is and how much potential you have to do and experience amazing things. Your an awesome amazing human being and no other person should make you realize that but yourself!

    (sorry if this was a bit preachy : but I felt like I had a very relatable situation)

    I wish you the best, friend. Now go out and enjoy your own company!

    - Daniel
  • Joeyphx444

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    Jul 17, 2013 8:02 PM GMT
    Philibuster saidCabrillo Nat'l Monument on Point Loma is beautiful. I sat for hours staring at the waves hitting the rocks.


    I did go there and went to see the tidepools as well, was nice icon_biggrin.gif

    That's something that I don't mind really doing alone. It's just the down time and hanging around downtown or something that kinda got to me.
  • TroyAthlete

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    Jul 17, 2013 10:41 PM GMT
    San Diego is such an awesome city, and the people there are wonderful. Kind, down-to-earth gays too. Love.
  • Joeyphx444

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    Jul 18, 2013 12:34 AM GMT
    TroyAthlete saidSan Diego is such an awesome city, and the people there are wonderful. Kind, down-to-earth gays too. Love.


    Yah but maybe not during pride

    I feel like I got a bad impression ans THAT IS NOT what the city really is I believe
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    Jul 18, 2013 1:27 AM GMT
    http://www.reddit.com/r/gaybros/

    There's meetups all the time all over the place. Met a lot of people through it when I moved to LA.
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    Jul 18, 2013 1:31 AM GMT
    You could have posted a meetup topic here on RJ I'm sure some of native to SD would have hung out
  • Joeyphx444

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    Jul 18, 2013 9:32 AM GMT
    Jay1922 saidYou could have posted a meetup topic here on RJ I'm sure some of native to SD would have hung out


    Well I didn't make a "meet up" thread but I did say I was visiting SD and one person replied. Also, the guys I talk to on here from SD were too busy since it was pride to hang out and meet me icon_rolleyes.gif Not to mention half the guys in SD at the time were probably drunk all weekend