How many time in the past year have you been rejected by men without reason?

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    Jul 17, 2013 6:46 PM GMT
    In the past year I've been rejected by about 12 men without reason. We'll meet and start to get to know each other and then they all just dissapear and I never hear from them again

    or...

    they make up some excuse that they dont want a relationship or whatever and then two weeks later are in a relationship with someone else.

    Does this happen a lot when seeking relationships online

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    Jul 17, 2013 7:09 PM GMT
    I am fine with being rejected by someone. i really don't give a shit
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    Jul 17, 2013 10:13 PM GMT
    There is always a reason why someone is rejected, but they are not always told what the reason is...
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    Jul 17, 2013 10:36 PM GMT
    Ohno saidThere is always a reason why someone is rejected, but they are not always told what the reason is...

    +1
    true this
    We can't get inside people's minds and try to figure out why they weren't attracted to us, and quite frankly, we shouldn't even care. Good riddance. They live in their own little world and I live in mine. Eventually, someone will come along who is on the same wave length.

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    Jul 18, 2013 10:03 PM GMT
    yeah I guess your right... it just seems like most people these days are spoiled and have too high of xpectations
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    Jul 18, 2013 10:14 PM GMT
    I'm rejected often and I don't think it takes "high standards" for this. If a guy only wants a bear, I could be the prettiest fittest swimmer in the world, I would still be rejected because I'm from an entirely different category.
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    Jul 18, 2013 10:15 PM GMT
    Ohno saidThere is always a reason why someone is rejected, but they are not always told what the reason is...


    yeah they-----WE----have a reason, just afraid to hurt you saying it, therefore the dodge. Me, at this age, I no longer do this. But has been on-going since people have been less-than-courageous. icon_idea.gificon_twisted.gif
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    Jul 18, 2013 10:28 PM GMT
    CollegeDude27 saidIn the past year I've been rejected by about 12 men without reason.



    Oh, I'm sure there were some pretty good reasons...icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 18, 2013 10:31 PM GMT
    Happened last week seriously It bound to happen at least once in a person life.
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    Jul 18, 2013 10:32 PM GMT
    How many time in the past year have you been rejected by men without reason?

    LOL, OK, that wording may me do a double take and laugh. I think more correct would have been: "...rejected by men without (GIVING) A reason". Otherwise it could mean being rejected by men lacking in mental reason, ie nutty.

    Which of course would be a good thing. Not to mention that rejecting us would be de facto proof of their possessing little reason, right? icon_wink.gif

    Seriously, guys post here about relationships ending like this all the time, so I guess it's fairly common, not related to the OP himself. And I suspect it's more frequent when the relationship begins online, especially if the principle means of communicating is online. At least that's the anecdotal evidence I read here.
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    Jul 18, 2013 10:36 PM GMT
    I've only been rejected once and well it HURT!

    Hurt even more because I Really wanted to Reject him first but not before I got his thoughts on me but that was my mistake.. because while I was waiting for that question he rejected me and I was thinking All Like WTF! Now when I tell him He REALLY wasn't my type he is gonna think im lying to get back at him so childishly. UGH!!!!

    This was like just last month so the feelings are still there.. you know the Feeling of HATE!

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    Jul 18, 2013 10:48 PM GMT
    turbobilly said
    CollegeDude27 saidIn the past year I've been rejected by about 12 men without reason.



    Oh, I'm sure there were some pretty good reasons...icon_smile.gif


    Ha
    hey, at least it wasn't all by the same man in the same week--how frustrating is that?
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    Jul 18, 2013 10:57 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx said
    turbobilly said
    CollegeDude27 saidIn the past year I've been rejected by about 12 men without reason.



    Oh, I'm sure there were some pretty good reasons...icon_smile.gif


    Ha
    hey, at least it wasn't all by the same man in the same week--how frustrating is that?


    Is like Groundhog Day all over. Again. And again...icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 18, 2013 11:01 PM GMT
    Seeing someone is like, eating potato chips from a bag. When you don't want anymore you stop putting your hand inside the bag and that's it. Good luck finding someone who will tell the chips "Bag of potato chips, I will not be eating anymore". Doesn't mean the dude hates the chips of thinks less of them, he just, doesn't want any more.
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    Jul 18, 2013 11:09 PM GMT
    Matiz saidSeeing someone is like, eating potato chips from a bag. When you don't want anymore you stop putting your hand inside the bag and that's it. Good luck finding someone who will tell the chips "Bag of potato chips, I will not be eating anymore". Doesn't mean the dude hates the chips of thinks less of them, he just, doesn't want any more.

    Well I certainly hope that any dude who puts his hand inside of ME (or any other part of him) talks to me more than he does to a bag of potato chips. And any guy who checks for my expiration date is right out.
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    Jul 18, 2013 11:20 PM GMT
    I've been rejected plenty of times. I was dumped by the same guy 3 times over the course of a year. I'm an idiot.

    Lately, I've been doing most of the rejecting, though. I'm very nice and honest about it. The reasons for the last few rejections were the following:
    - Talked about ex the whole first date (there was no 2nd)
    - Didn't look like his pics and had no attraction
    - Asked me in the middle of the date "How am I doing?" followed by demands to know if I liked him or not by the end of the night
    - Arranged a date at a restaurant where all his friends worked. He would disappear and they would chat about me, and he would come back..

    I'm not picky, seriously.
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    Jul 20, 2013 12:11 AM GMT
    I've never been rejected because I don't even ask anyone. I am shy when it comes to situations like that icon_neutral.gif
  • MadeinMich

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    Jul 20, 2013 12:20 AM GMT
    brokebackpoundin saidman, to tell you the truth, i've grown used to rejection in general in regards to life where i expect it so i simply don't try anymore or "i gave up". icon_lol.gif with that said, i don't keep count nor do i care. i know i have to try in order to get something or someone because nothing or nobody is going to fall into my lap BUT i gotta admit, i've been tired for years so even when someone gives me the time of day or shows interest in me, i'm simply just out of energy to even go with the flow of things. hell, i'm not even worried about finding a date. i'm simply worrying about making it because i feel as if i'm being denied with everything in life. i damn sure had to bust my ass to get employers to even hire my ass and the only spots that gave me love are the ones that are shitty as fuck that pays bullshit where anybody could get in. so being rejected by a guy is not a concern or even a priority at this moment. getting a date isn't going to make my life better and i can't make it better if i don't have the resources for it to get better to begin with. at this point, if i maintain my sanity @ this point, let alone am able to be successful in something such as being independent, i'll be happy. i would rather die a virgin than to be or feel like a fucking failure that has a boyfriend.


    +1,000,000,000.

    I'm convinced. We MUST be related.