I literally can't top, is this why I can't get a boyfriend?

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    Jul 17, 2013 10:51 PM GMT
    Okay, I am embarrassed to state this, but I have trouble maintaining a proper full on erection in bed with a guy, so I just stay content with bottoming.

    I have went to the doctors and I am on a referral to see a consultant soon to help try and pinpoint my problem.

    I have tried to maintain a relationship with another guy but I fear that my inability to top is the reason why none of my past relationships have worked so far.

    Could this be the reason?

    I don't think it's psychological, I just have weak erections, I can still climax.

    (be nice please, I am very upset with my problem as it is)
  • Apparition

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    Jul 17, 2013 11:01 PM GMT
    sounds awesome to me.
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    Jul 17, 2013 11:02 PM GMT
    i dont think so, if that were the case all bottoms would be single
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    Jul 17, 2013 11:18 PM GMT
    Apparition saidsounds awesome to me.


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    Jul 17, 2013 11:23 PM GMT
    There is nothing wrong with you. Repeat that to yourself until you understand it.
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    Jul 17, 2013 11:27 PM GMT
    theantijock saidThere is nothing wrong with you. Repeat that to yourself until you understand it.


    I can't top though, erectile dysfunction is quite common.
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    Jul 17, 2013 11:29 PM GMT
    IrishDarren said
    theantijock saidThere is nothing wrong with you. Repeat that to yourself until you understand it.


    I can't top though, erectile dysfunction is quite common.


    It's not a dysfunction. It's that ass is disgusting.
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    Jul 17, 2013 11:32 PM GMT
    brokebackpoundin saidtry having sex with a female.


    Oh, Yeah. That'll fix it.

    I'm going to go throw up now.
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    Jul 17, 2013 11:32 PM GMT
    theantijock said
    IrishDarren said
    theantijock saidThere is nothing wrong with you. Repeat that to yourself until you understand it.


    I can't top though, erectile dysfunction is quite common.


    It's not a dysfunction. It's that ass is disgusting.


    And fucking tight! Most guys I've tried to top are like trying to penetrate a brick wall!

    I am very easy to fuck, my anus has always be easy to break into hehe and I know how to guide the cock and direct it, every guy I have had try to bottom for me just lays there, being a bottom is hard work, maybe I just need to find a bottom better than me, will be hard though, pun intended. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 17, 2013 11:37 PM GMT
    I'm sorry. but ass & cunts really do gross me out and I can see the picturesque direction this is headed so I'm just gonna take my leave from here before someone starts posting pics I really don't need to see.

    Be happy with what turns you on as long as it doesn't violate anyone else. That something does not turn you on is not a dysfunction of orientation, it is nothing more than a matter of preference. Peace.

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    Jul 18, 2013 12:13 AM GMT
    try a cock ring?
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    Jul 18, 2013 12:15 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]Sporty_g said[/cite]try a cock ring?[/quote

    +1

    I'm afraid if i got it stuck on and my penos wud go blue and fall off or something.
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    Jul 18, 2013 12:35 AM GMT
    I hear you when you're saying you've encountered guys who are just too tight. That has happened to me as well, where the tightness is like choking me - to the point where I've gone soft. The remedy for me is to get the guy to open up, by lots of rimming, lube, finger work (one, then two, then three, then four) very slowly. Once the guy is not so tight you may like topping much better. The last bit of advice I'd have for you is to not even try to enter a guy until you are very hard and ready. Make him wait for it, even beg for it. Spend the extra time rimming him - and he'll be dying for you.

    When you get to the doctor appt. he may give you a tril size of Androgel and or Cialis. The last thing is to relax and just enjoy yourself, and don't jack too much on your own!
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    Jul 18, 2013 12:39 AM GMT
    Viagra. It works.
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    Jul 18, 2013 12:40 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidViagra. It works.


    "Cause your worth it!" icon_wink.gif
  • jo2hotbod

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    Jul 18, 2013 12:58 AM GMT
    IrishDarren said[quote][cite]Sporty_g said[/cite]try a cock ring?[/quote

    +1

    I'm afraid if i got it stuck on and my penos wud go blue and fall off or something.


    Then you wouldn't have to worry about anything but bottoming, works out perfect... Let it fall off
  • Eli_jah

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    Jul 18, 2013 1:05 AM GMT
    why do we force these labels onto eachother? Top? Bottom? Don't worry about that. Just do what makes you happy. You obviously don't like "topping" as you have a negative physical reaction to it so stick to what you like and know.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 18, 2013 1:11 AM GMT
    I've found that good sex is all about communication in bed. No matter whether you "top" or "bottom", the point is about a connection a physical connection and great communication. Some of the best sex I ever had with another guy was because we were on the absolute same page when it came to the art of communication. He was very upbeat, excited, complimentary and we had some great conversation between sets...hahaha.
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    Jul 18, 2013 2:03 AM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidI've found that good sex is all about communication in bed. No matter whether you "top" or "bottom", the point is about a connection a physical connection and great communication. Some of the best sex I ever had with another guy was because we were on the absolute same page when it came to the art of communication. He was very upbeat, excited, complimentary and we had some great conversation between sets...hahaha.


    Exactly this!!!
  • killercliche

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    Jul 18, 2013 2:07 AM GMT
    You could try practicing on one of those fleshjacks
  • TheBizMan

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    Jul 18, 2013 2:29 AM GMT
    Sure it could be a problem if you assume that there aren't any exclusive tops out there.
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    Jul 18, 2013 3:09 AM GMT
    When I see religious proselytizing, I'm pretty sure I'm viewing someone who is so unconvinced of their own legitimacy that they require recruiting others to justify to themselves their own thinking. If I can convince you, then maybe I can even convince myself.

    If you don't like anal sex, there's something wrong with you.

    If fucking ass doesn't get you hard, it's erectile dysfunction.

    If you don't naturally get turned on by ass, take a pill to make your dick hard.

    Practice on a rubber asshole.

    The intervention looks like a gay version of ex-gay therapy.

    What's next, how to get your dick hard for vagina?

    What does taking a pill to get hard in a situation that wouldn't otherwise make you hard do to your psyche? Does that even sound healthy?

    Here, try this testicle defibrillator
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    I'd look at it like this, if you fantasize something, if you get hard while fantasizing it and orgasm to that thought but then you are unable to perform that with another person (assuming the act not sociopathic) then maybe there's a problem. But if this is something that doesn't turn you on inside, why would anyone think it a good idea to try and turn you on the outside?
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    Jul 18, 2013 3:53 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidInteresting at your age. Have you had your testosterone checked before? Perhaps you are a candidate for Androgel.
    It would be interesting to hear how your body reacts to the 3 leading ED drugs.


    i have had my testosterone checked recently, but knowing the way humans work i bet my asshole of a doctor didn't even bother checking it(I'm suspicious of everything n everyone in this life"

    I might go to another doctors as I've been on the referral for months now, i bet they ain't bothered to actually put me on it knowing them
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    Jul 18, 2013 3:58 AM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidI've found that good sex is all about communication in bed. No matter whether you "top" or "bottom", the point is about a connection a physical connection and great communication. Some of the best sex I ever had with another guy was because we were on the absolute same page when it came to the art of communication. He was very upbeat, excited, complimentary and we had some great conversation between sets...hahaha.


    I've had similar experiences so I completely agree....

    Now only I can keep the man icon_lol.gif
  • isuflyboy

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    Jul 18, 2013 4:00 AM GMT
    I have a hard time topping as we'll. one of the only times I have topped I basically had ass juices all over my dick and it started to smell and I just couldn't do it anymore. Like I was fucking the guy and watching supertroopers to try and forget about it....