How does one grow or evolve as a person?

  • Being

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    Jul 18, 2013 5:00 AM GMT
    What does one have to become mature?
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    Jul 18, 2013 5:16 AM GMT
    Life experience. The more you have it, the more perspective you obtain.

    So go out. Meet new people. Experience new things.
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    Jul 18, 2013 5:26 AM GMT
    Good experiences. Bad Experiences. Friends. Enemies. Mentors. Parents. Families.

    You grow every day if you try, but you have to want to grow in order to grow.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 18, 2013 5:36 AM GMT
    It really is a culmination of all the good things and bad things that have happened to you throughout life and all the things you have observed ... this is one reason why it is is so sad when someone commits suicide ... they never allowed themselves to see it all
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    Jul 18, 2013 5:38 AM GMT
    Sometimes it takes lots of mistakes, lots of success, death or illnesses of familly, loss of job, better employment somewhere else, good and bad relationships. Life is not always a bowl of cherries for most people.
  • killercliche

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    Jul 18, 2013 6:25 AM GMT
    self-awareness.
  • Webster666

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    Jul 18, 2013 6:40 AM GMT
    xrichx saidLife experience. The more you have it, the more perspective you obtain.

    So go out. Meet new people. Experience new things.


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    Jul 18, 2013 7:15 AM GMT
    Its true you need to experience things first hand. Death of friends and family. illness, job loss, a broken heart. These things all seem bad at the time but eventually build your character. And as time goes on as these things happen again and again you learn to cope better and have a better understanding of how you will cope in such a situation.
    I look at my nephew who is 18 and recently broke up with his first boyfriend, he is devastated but that won't last.

    The joy of youth is a great and beautiful thing but, as I and my contemporary's have gotten older you understand that often these youngsters have never had any real knocks in life, and generally their opinions are meaningless. Its just how it is.
  • MikeW

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    Jul 18, 2013 7:26 AM GMT
    killercliche saidself-awareness.

    Yeah, this, and as other's have said, just living life. There's no short-cut that I know of.

    I see you're 21 so technically you're an adult but the fact is, unless you've had a lot of life experience, you probably still have a lot to learn. I mean, we all do. I'm 65 and I don't feel like I have it all figured out. Mature? Yeah, in many ways, for sure. I've experience a LOT and not all of it good. But there is still a lot I don't understand, especially about people and why they are the way they are.

    Most important thing is to know yourself and respect yourself. Know your limits, how to set good boundaries and how to maintain them. It's a learning process and they don't teach it in school.
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    Jul 18, 2013 10:58 AM GMT
    Since you are talking about evolving here. You can't do much. Your life will take a natural progression.
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    Jul 18, 2013 11:17 AM GMT
    Webster666 said
    xrichx saidLife experience. The more you have it, the more perspective you obtain.

    So go out. Meet new people. Experience new things.


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    Jul 18, 2013 11:18 AM GMT
    You can read many books, go to seminars but there is no substitute for LIFE EXPERIENCE.

    Travel a lot, move to a new city, move out of home, experience difficult situations, learn a new language, take up a hobby you have never tried, meet people who you normally would not associate with, move out of your comfort zone. Working also helped for me personally.

    I have found the most difficult situations often will make you most strongest.
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    Jul 18, 2013 2:48 PM GMT
    The same thing that changes ingrained opinions. Not internet forums but personal experience and trauma.