My take: You are creating yourself in the moment - not in the future, nor in the past. Life is about creating the experiences you desire. A desire is different from a want. A want is attached to a belief about how you "should" be, what you "should" have etc. A desire is what you give yourself according to what is important to you, based solely on what you concentrate
on, not on what you deem to be desirable or undesirable.
You cannot "find" yourself because you cannot loose yourself - You already ARE yourself
- unless you think your self is like a soul you carry around in a basket like Little Red Riding Hood and that it must be protected from the big bad wolf. As an expression it is one of the dumber ones to internalise.