Life is not about finding yourself... it's about creating yourself...T/F ?

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    Jul 19, 2013 6:04 AM GMT
    "Life is not about finding yourself, it's about creating yourself "
    How true, is this?

    Does anyone support this statement with factual evidence?


    *Sigh* makes you wonder a bit . . .
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    Jul 19, 2013 6:06 AM GMT
    Salacious_guy said"Life is not about finding yourself, it's about creating yourself "
    How true, is this?

    Does anyone support this statement with factual evidence?


    *Sigh* makes you wonder a bit . . .


    Life is about finding yourself AND creating yourself!
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    Jul 19, 2013 4:44 PM GMT
    Perhaps you are taking it too literally. The point of the expression is that we succeed more in life when we concentrate on making ourselves the best we can be, rather than wallowing in self-absorption.

    Finding yourself is important. More important is what you do with what you find.
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    Jul 19, 2013 4:52 PM GMT
    shortbutsweet saidPerhaps you are taking it too literally. The point of the expression is that we succeed more in life when we concentrate on making ourselves the best we can be, rather than wallowing in self-absorption.

    Finding yourself is important. More important is what you do with what you find.
    hallelujah, preach brother preach!!!!!
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    Jul 19, 2013 4:54 PM GMT
    I completely agree. I've always felt that way but never really was able to put it into words. When I came out I had to completely leave behind everything I knew and almost all of my family. So basically I had to realize who I am and create my own self, my own family, friends, and I kinda revamped my career. It's a great way to live.
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    Jul 19, 2013 8:55 PM GMT
    I like discussions like this but they can easily go astray because we don't all understand words the same way. We speak as if we all agree that there is a "self" and that we know what it is. But do we all agree that there is a self and do we all agree about what it is? Is a "self" the same thing as a personality? Is it the same thing as an "ego"? Is it identical with my thoughts, my intellect? Or is it my feelings and emotions? Or is it some combination of mind, emotions, body and perhaps some other quality of energy, such as "consciousness" or "awareness"?
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    Jul 19, 2013 9:02 PM GMT
    I am very artisty and deep, I created my own totem that I hung up on my wall.

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    EDIT: how can I put photos on my labtop onto here? I only know how to put on photos from online.
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    Jul 19, 2013 9:14 PM GMT
    I like Carl Rogers' definition of the self as a concept.

    A concept is necessarily a construct, although certain elements of this construct may fall more or less entirely outside of our ability to affect directly.

    Our environment, upbringing and genetics may predispose us to certain attitudes or behaviours.

    I highly recommed On Becoming a Person.

    Also, this video by Hank Green.

  • Webster666

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    Jul 19, 2013 9:17 PM GMT
    I don't need to "find" myself.
    I'm already here.
    I don't need to "create" myself.
    This is me, fully formed.
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    Jul 19, 2013 9:25 PM GMT
    Life is about finding who you are first and figure out what you want, good at and eventually go after it.

    Life is about creating yourself, true, as in your own friends, family, career, jobs....people that you date...etc.

    I think it's about making your life to the fullest and not waste any moments.
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    Jul 19, 2013 10:16 PM GMT
    Often when seeking an either/or type of answer, you wind up understanding only half the question.

    "We are not put into the world to sit still and know. We are put in it to act."~~Woodrow Wilson
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    Jul 19, 2013 10:26 PM GMT
    Both! A big part is about finding out, accepting, and embracing what makes you unique. At the same time, you make your own destiny through life choices. Its all about how you choose to handle the circumstances that come your way.

    If life is a road trip, the first is getting in car ready and the latter actually going somewhere. You can't do one without the other and it works exponentially better if done in order.
    (Not really evidence but maybe the analogy helps.)
  • mybud

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    Jul 19, 2013 11:04 PM GMT
    You can't create if you don't have a grasp of your core...Find yourself...Develop core beliefs that you'll never betray...When you look in that mirror at night... While brushing your teeth ...You'll love and respect the guy reflecting back at ya.
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    Jul 19, 2013 11:48 PM GMT
    I sort of agree with the statement tough not entirely. I think we are also a little at the mercy of what others create of us. For instance, when someone grows up in a bigoted household and that is all they know because they have never moved outside of that world and have never been shown or told differently, then they are a product of their environment and not so-much their own creation. The same goes for many unfortunates such gangsters and religious zealots.
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    Jul 20, 2013 12:40 AM GMT
    Salacious_guy said"Life is not about finding yourself, it's about creating yourself "
    How true, is this?

    Does anyone support this statement with factual evidence?


    *Sigh* makes you wonder a bit . . .


    I like and agree with this quote very much! Thank you for creating this forum! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 20, 2013 2:14 AM GMT
    I agree completely.

    I waited 18 years to suddenly find myself. Like all the answers would magically come to me.

    But over time, I came to realize that by waiting, I had never become anything. So just recently, I started creating myself. I regret not starting earlier, but I've learned how important it is to start.
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    Jul 20, 2013 3:14 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]Salacious_guy said[/cite]"Life is not about finding yourself, it's about creating yourself "
    How true, is this?

    Does anyone support this statement with factual evidence?


    *Sigh* makes you wonder a bit . . .[/qu


    How about, "Life is finding out that we are the creators of our lives.

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    Jul 20, 2013 3:49 PM GMT
    I do believe that you cannot find yourself. You are already creating yourself. Everyday we exist, we are learning, interacting, and listening to things that we incorporate in ourselves. On top of that I do agree with the early posters,we do have some predispositions that are in some cases genetic, in some cases environmental.

    I don't always believe this is true 100% of the time. Based on my background, I should have been a high school dropout who became a bible banging fundamentalist. Instead my love of history and linguistics led me to leave the religious upbringing of the cultural south behind and to obtain graduate degrees. Spiritually I consider myself an agnostic . So although your background, culture,religion, and genetics are a road map, I don't believe you are limited by it. We recreate our selves everyday through new experiences.
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    Jul 20, 2013 3:51 PM GMT
    i can be true, false or both. i think it depends on the individual.
  • vj2004t

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    Jul 20, 2013 3:57 PM GMT
    I agree i divorced, lost weight and work out found a wonderful boyfriend, happier than ever, fell in love, It has been a process tho.
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    Jul 20, 2013 4:00 PM GMT
    I think they could go hand in hand, but if I had to pick I'd say you creat yourself. Only you can decide what career path to take, who to marry, whether to have/adopt kids or not, etc.
    Decisions like that will make your future.
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    Jul 20, 2013 4:19 PM GMT

    My take: You are creating yourself in the moment - not in the future, nor in the past. Life is about creating the experiences you desire. A desire is different from a want. A want is attached to a belief about how you "should" be, what you "should" have etc. A desire is what you give yourself according to what is important to you, based solely on what you concentrate on, not on what you deem to be desirable or undesirable.

    You cannot "find" yourself because you cannot loose yourself - You already ARE yourself icon_lol.gif - unless you think your self is like a soul you carry around in a basket like Little Red Riding Hood and that it must be protected from the big bad wolf. As an expression it is one of the dumber ones to internalise.
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    Jul 20, 2013 4:21 PM GMT
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    My take: You are creating yourself in the moment - not in the future, nor in the past. Life is about creating the experiences you desire. A desire is different from a want. A want is attached to a belief about how you "should" be, what you "should" have etc. A desire is what you give yourself according to what is important to you, based solely on what you concentrate on, not on what you deem to be desirable or undesirable.

    You cannot "find" yourself because you cannot loose yourself - You already ARE yourself icon_lol.gif - unless you think your self is like a soul you carry around in a basket like Little Red Riding Hood and that it must be protected from the big bad wolf. As an expression it is one of the dumber ones to internalise.


    Well said, This is part of what I was trying to say. our stated it much more eloquently.
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    Jul 20, 2013 7:35 PM GMT
    Hippy Bullcrap.

    Life is about growing a set of balls.
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    Jul 20, 2013 8:04 PM GMT
    IKR? icon_biggrin.gif