An insult vs a joke.

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    Nov 09, 2008 12:49 PM GMT
    A friend of mine did a show locally and I went to see her and catch up on old times. The theater was sold out and and her comedy is insult comedy. She's harsh and hysterical. An amazing professional. While in a venue like that, and considering the crowd, who knows what to expect, they loved it. In this context, it's obvious that no matter how harsh, the intended result is humor by making fun of the stereotype concept. It would seem that outside of this venue, that there are rules for the humorous insult.
    1. You can make fun of a group that you belong to.
    2. You can make fun of a group that you don't belong to, so long as you are dating or have some similar connection to someone that is in that group.
    3. You can make fun of a group that you don't belong to, so long as you talking directly to someone in that group whose trust you have.
    There are times on the forums that I've read some truly funny insults/snarky comments. Sometimes though, even though I got that it was meant to be funny, whether directed at me or someone else, sometimes people take extreme offense. Short of the clearly humorless mean-spirited insult, how is the line drawn to you?

    Thoughts and comments?
  • GQjock

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    Nov 09, 2008 1:19 PM GMT
    I don't take much credence about insults thrown at me on the net

    You understand from whence it comes icon_rolleyes.gif

    But ... personal attacks are rude
    Saying something about someone within a "group"
    doesn't usually mean anything
    Like calling someone on here a fag ... uh, Hello !

    I don't agree about the dating thing tho
    If I'm dating a hispanic man ... I don't think that allows me or lets me say nothing when a slur is made against hispanic men

    It's basically rules of decorum when it comes to making jokes about people
    If you think the people you're joking with are going to laugh go 'head
    but if there's ANY doubt best to keep it to yourself icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 09, 2008 1:47 PM GMT
    I should have worded the 'dating' aspect differently. I meant in the context of being in a long term relationship, not dating when you're still 'new' to each other.
  • OptimusMatt

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    Nov 09, 2008 5:07 PM GMT
    Whatever - it's ALWAYS ok to make fun of Newfies. And americans. icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 09, 2008 5:10 PM GMT
    BioMatty saidWhatever - it's ALWAYS ok to make fun of Newfies. And americans. icon_razz.gif


    For the Americans here. Newfies are like people from Alabama except more Irish and more drunk.

    Did I get that right?
  • coolarmydude

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    Nov 09, 2008 5:32 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie said, "For the Americans here. Newfies are like people from Alabama except more Irish and more drunk.

    Did I get that right?"


    A Newfie is someone from New Foundland, Canada.

    You must be drunk and Irish icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 09, 2008 5:54 PM GMT
    You forgot a number 4.

    4. You can make fun of a group you don't belong to so long as you are talking to someone you know well / trust who may not necessarily be in that group.

    As far as the line, if I don't know someone I automatically assume they're joking unless proven otherwise. Tone has a lot to do with it as well. Context is also important. Content rarely plays a role in where the line is drawn. Of course, in forums it may be hard to judge tone and context appropriately so I can see why this may lead to misunderstandings.