Anyone else feel like they'll always be ugly?

  • Musicman91

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    Jul 22, 2013 6:44 PM GMT
    I go to the gym everyday, I watch what I eat. I try my best to stay fit and healthy and I just feel like everyday I look in the mirror I get uglier. I see all these guys at the gym and I just feel like I will never look half as good. I feel like no matter how hard I try I'll always be hideous.

    Anyone else feel this way?
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    Jul 22, 2013 6:46 PM GMT
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    Jul 22, 2013 6:51 PM GMT
    I think the issue here is that you compare yourself to other people. Never do that, you deserve better. Instead, compare yourself to your own past, see how far you've come along.
    As for the fruitless gymming, talk to the trainers about it. Maybe you're not putting in enough. Gym isnt a magical place that makes hot guys. You need to, literally, work your ass off. Perhaps the problem is your diet, see a dietician who'll recommend something specific to your metabolism.
    And for the ugliness, that exists only in the eye of the beholder. Read what you said about yourself. If you're not going to love yourself unconditionally, not many others will.
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    Jul 22, 2013 6:54 PM GMT
    Musicman91 saidI go to the gym everyday, I watch what I eat. I try my best to stay fit and healthy and I just feel like everyday I look in the mirror I get uglier. I see all these guys at the gym and I just feel like I will never look half as good. I feel like no matter how hard I try I'll always be hideous.

    Anyone else feel this way?


    Yep. Ditto for Bill. Do we care, and did we care when we met? Nope.

    Why?

    ...because we both found each other VERY attractive. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 22, 2013 7:02 PM GMT
    Most people have had a period in their lives where they feel inadequate in the looks department. It's a normal thing, but you do need to get past it.

    The fact is you are very handsome (unless those are pictures of someone else). You are by no means "model" material, but the majority of people really aren't (not me of course, I'm totally model material icon_rolleyes.gificon_lol.gif )

    Work on what you can to be the best you can on the outside, and don't forget to work on your insides too (no not your intestines). Honing your intelligence, character, and confidence is a big part of being sexy.
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    Jul 22, 2013 7:11 PM GMT
    You just have to not give a fuck what others may seem to think is attractive or ugly.


    Their opinion is irrelevant


    I've been called ugly by some and attractive by many others. It doesn't matter to me

    I consider myself to be attractive.


    I don't have the standard "model look" no. I have my own lane and embrace the features that i have someone will appreciate it. I guarantee it

    the keyword "I"
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    Jul 22, 2013 7:11 PM GMT
    Your not ugly btw. So keep your head up


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    Jul 22, 2013 7:14 PM GMT
    Edward89 saidYour not ugly btw. So keep your head up


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    Exactly!!!
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    Jul 22, 2013 7:32 PM GMT
    I feel the same way a lot of the times. I'll get done with an intense workout session, then look in the mirror at myself and think "Oh... I wouldn't date that."

    But then I question who I'm doing things for. Am I living for myself or for others?

    The fact is: some people will always find me ugly, and some people will always find me attractive. I should just try to live life loving myself, because in the end that's who you're REALLY stuck with :-)
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    Jul 22, 2013 8:31 PM GMT
    Musicman91 saidI go to the gym everyday, I watch what I eat. I try my best to stay fit and healthy and I just feel like everyday I look in the mirror I get uglier. I see all these guys at the gym and I just feel like I will never look half as good. I feel like no matter how hard I try I'll always be hideous.

    Anyone else feel this way?

    As far as your face goes (that's all that I can see), you look great. You should have no worries there.
  • Musicman91

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    Jul 23, 2013 3:09 AM GMT
    It's more how I see myself honestly. I go hard at the gym but I don't see a point because in my head I still feel I look ugly. People sometimes tell me I look ok but I don't believe them. To me I am just ugly. Then I see someone I am attracted to but don't pursue them because I know they wouldn't go for me because I am ugly, stupid and pretty shy at first.

    Maybe I just need help haha.
  • Rhi_Bran

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    Jul 23, 2013 3:13 AM GMT
    Musicman91 saidIt's more how I see myself honestly. I go hard at the gym but I don't see a point because in my head I still feel I look ugly. People sometimes tell me I look ok but I don't believe them. To me I am just ugly. Then I see someone I am attracted to but don't pursue them because I know they wouldn't go for me because I am ugly, stupid and pretty shy at first.

    Maybe I just need help haha.


    I'd say you do. I'm not being nasty - it makes me sad that anyone would think of themselves this way. Go out there and get some help. Your problem lies not with your body, but with your perception of it and yourself.
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    Jul 23, 2013 3:15 AM GMT
    I feel that way all the time. But I remind myself that looks are not that important. To focus on appearance all the time is shallow. I really don't think we were put on Earth to obsess over our looks. I find it helpful to get out and do something for another person when I get caught up with selfish thoughts like this.
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    Jul 23, 2013 3:19 AM GMT
    OP - you are being too hard on yourself - you are adorable! If I were younger and you were closer, I'd date you in a second. icon_smile.gif

    Rhi Bran is right - you may want to speak with a therapist/counselor. A lot of times body image issues are related to distorted perceptions, and it is something that can be overcome.

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    Jul 23, 2013 3:20 AM GMT
    I only Really feel this way when I think of how I want to be famous.... Actors looking stunning... icon_confused.gif
  • onefortified

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    Jul 23, 2013 3:24 AM GMT
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    Jul 23, 2013 3:30 AM GMT
    I'm saving up in order to fix this problem for myself icon_smile.gif
    I mean I get that it's a lot of money so I'm not holding my breath and hoping for something soon, but eventually down the line I'll start to plan it out more.

    --EDIT--
    $5000.00 to $15,000.00 price range for a nose job?!?!?!
    If it's that much for a nose I almost don't want to know how much it costs for anything else.
    This is going to take much longer than anticipated.
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    Jul 23, 2013 3:30 AM GMT
    Do HIIT (high intensity interval training) - it's a great change of pace when working out and if you do it right, you'll experience a bodily transformation.
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    Jul 23, 2013 3:35 AM GMT
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    Jul 23, 2013 3:37 AM GMT
    Just curious .. Post a pic of what you'd like to look like..
    Or what you consider to be attractive.
  • MikeW

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    Jul 23, 2013 4:03 AM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh saidI feel the same way a lot of the times. I'll get done with an intense workout session, then look in the mirror at myself and think "Oh... I wouldn't date that."

    But then I question who I'm doing things for. Am I living for myself or for others?

    The fact is: some people will always find me ugly, and some people will always find me attractive. I should just try to live life loving myself, because in the end that's who you're REALLY stuck with :-)

    Word.
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    Jul 23, 2013 4:06 AM GMT
    1 day someone will find you 'beautiful'..icon_wink.gif
  • secondstartot...

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    Jul 23, 2013 4:07 AM GMT
    yes I do every day !

    "if you look in the mirror and dont like what you see
    you can find out first hand what its like to be me " MCR

    it sucks ....
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    Jul 23, 2013 4:13 AM GMT
    You need to work on yourself from the inside out not the outside in. If all of your happiness is based on how you look, what's going to happen when you get old and start to look worse? Honestly achieving physical perfection really isn't worth it. If sex is the number one thing you want in life, go for it. Guys will be all over you, guys will want to go out with you, and you'll get much more attention. Your self-esteem might even improve because of the attention you're getting but that's just a false sense of self worth. There's more to life than sex and looking good. There are people who will like you for you and I'm sure you'd rather find a person like that than a guy who just likes you for your body. When you go to the gym, health should be your top priority. Trying to look as good as the guy next to you should be the last thing on your mind.
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    Jul 23, 2013 4:19 AM GMT
    The only truly ugly people I've met are the ones who have ugly hearts and souls. It has nothing to do with their physical attributes.