I lost 100 lbs and it's been such a long journey (with more work ahead)

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    Jul 22, 2013 7:00 PM GMT
    Hello all!

    I'm new here but very excited to join. I'm 26 and like a lot of guys, I was okay in high school, but then college came around (and puberty wore off) and damn, the pounds piled on fast. It also didn't help that I suffered a series of shoulder dislocations that required surgery and prolonged rehab.

    But that's only half the story. You don't get to 285lbs without some psychological issues thrown in as well. For me, it was the closet. I don't know why, but early as a teen I just decided that I couldn't be the person I wanted to be in life and also be gay. I thought being gay was disgusting, effeminate, that anal was gross, etc. Stuff that all gay guys struggle with at some point. But what's frightening was how close I actually came to succeeding in burying that part of my life forever: for a long time I basically became asexual and shut myself off from thinking about ever having a relationship. If you never plan to be in a loving, sexual relationship, it's hard to motivate yourself to stay in shape.

    Then, about 2 years ago, something snapped inside me. I was already trying to lose weight for health reasons when I met this guy. He was just like me in terms of our life background, jobs, politics, sense of humor, etc. Except (1) he was in stunningly great shape, and (2) he was openly gay and completely confident. My friends growing up were all straight guys (hunting, sailing, etc) and I could never come out to them. But he was actually friends with these same guys, and while they sometimes gave him shit about being gay, you could tell they respected him for being out.

    Anyways, long story short, that was my turning point. I went into a severe depression thinking about all the time I'd lost, but I came out on the other side 100lbs lighter (thanks to a grueling diet & exercise plan I put together on my own). I was so out of shape when I first set foot in the gym that all I could do for a bicep curl was 15lbs each. I researched physical therapy techniques and basically designed my own rehab program to get enough strength before I could do normal exercises.

    Now I'm at 190, with about 20 more lbs to go (but at least some of that weight is muscle). I can bicep curl 40lbs each and that's just the beginning But the thing is: I've gone as far as I can go on my own. It's become a lonely road and I need support, but I'm just not the type for a weight watchers meeting lol. Then I found this site. Awesome-- just what I need. Like I said, from a fitness standpoint I'm practically starting from scratch and could use all the advice I can get re exercises, techniques, injury prevention, etc. I've already been following some of the workouts on the site and really like them. Plus it's just more fun for some reason to share workout tips with other gay guys, etc--I don't know, it's motivational I guess?



  • Rhi_Bran

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    Jul 22, 2013 10:36 PM GMT
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    Jul 22, 2013 11:35 PM GMT
    Congratulations!!
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 22, 2013 11:46 PM GMT
    That's great ... keep up the great work!
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    Jul 23, 2013 4:51 AM GMT
    Congratulations on your continued success and ability to find a partner who shares your politics!
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    Jul 23, 2013 4:59 AM GMT
    Congrats bud!
  • josephmovie

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    Jul 23, 2013 5:04 AM GMT
    Consider subscribing to the Youtube clips for StrengthCamp. The guy's name is Elliot and while he isn't gay, he always has the odd thought provoking message. It isn't all "Do this do that and now buy this supplement/program" which seems to be about 90% of YT fitness videos.
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    Jul 23, 2013 9:43 AM GMT
    Lord_Trollileo saidFuck yeah! I can definitely relate. Didn't lose anywhere near as much weight as you have, but as soon as I came out of the closet I decided to not only live a healthy life mentally/emotionally, but also physically. Weird how they go kind of hand in hand for some of us?

    Congratulations, man! Keep it up!


    Exactly dude, it wasn't till I came out of the closet and admitted to myself just how lonely my life had become/how much I really wanted a normal life, that I was able to actually start losing weight. The one was impossible without the other!
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    Jul 23, 2013 9:52 AM GMT
    Well done. you're more on your way than a lot of the guys here! Keep it up!
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    Jul 23, 2013 10:03 AM GMT
    Rhi_Bran saidwho-is-awesome.jpg


    I actually can't tell if this is sarcastic or not (my original post was a little embarrassing now in hindsight, so I kinda deserve it if it is). But either way I just have to say-- that's the cutest f*cking dog I've ever seen.
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    Jul 23, 2013 10:52 AM GMT
    You go!I need to lose 18 pounds and I am too lazy to do it!100 pounds wow!
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    Jul 23, 2013 10:55 AM GMT
    rm71186 said
    Rhi_Bran saidwho-is-awesome.jpg


    I actually can't tell if this is sarcastic or not (my original post was a little embarrassing now in hindsight, so I kinda deserve it if it is). But either way I just have to say-- that's the cutest f*cking dog I've ever seen.


    Beagles are adorable!
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    Jul 23, 2013 11:03 AM GMT
    Same thing happened to me. The moment I accepted myself, the weight instantly began coming off. Though I'm in a bit of a rut now (see my recent post in the Losing Weight form), I just have 10-15 pounds to go!

    Congrats and good luck.