I called my roommate white and now he hates me

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    Jul 23, 2013 7:40 PM GMT
    So my roommate hates me now. Last night his girlfriend came over. She is not from the US and started asking me about the Trayvon Martin case, and if I thought America was a bad country to be black in etc.

    During the conversation my roommate mentioned that he felt like things like this could affect him too because he was latino. His GF and I both kind of laughed and told him that he would not be subject to that type of treatment because he didn't look latino. His GF is middle eastern.

    He said that it didn't matter because he was Latino. But his girlfriend told him that in America, to the common persons eye he was white.

    which is true.

    He's pretty much blonde with hazel eyes.

    He was really hurt by this and hasn't talked to me or her since. I haven't seen him all day. We usually go to the gym together. He is in incredible shape and never misses a day in the gym, but today he didn't show up (to avoid me I think.)

    Our mutual friend also spoke to me about it and said that he's really upset, and that he is very sensitive about people calling him white......

    I feel terrible. He's not really hypersensitive about anything, but this really seems to be bothering him.

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  • HottJoe

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    Jul 23, 2013 7:51 PM GMT
    Just tell him you're sorry. Say you never meant to offend him, but that you'll be more careful to respect him in the future. Hopefully, he will accept that you didn't mean to insult him.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 23, 2013 8:10 PM GMT
    Wow! you are really ignorant as to the prejudices that Lations and others face. Not only do Latinos face prejudices from "white right wingers" but also from blacks both left and right. I can't say that I blame your room mate, you seem to be living in a world that only revolves around you ... good luck with that.
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    Jul 23, 2013 8:16 PM GMT
    Latino/hispanic is NOT a race. If a hispanic looks white thats because he IS white ..... I dont know why so many people dont understand this.
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    Jul 23, 2013 8:16 PM GMT
    You did nothing wrong and the whole story seems ridiculous to me.
    I wonder how rjers would respond if you told someone he looked black and he was offended.
    Should a person apologize if they mistakenly think someone is black?
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    Jul 23, 2013 8:16 PM GMT
    whatta bunch of bitches u all sound like. icon_rolleyes.gif

    tell ur over-emotional roommate to get over it so yall can continue to suck eachother's dicks at the gym.
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    Jul 23, 2013 8:19 PM GMT
    It's so weird how latinos get offended when you refer to them as white. Latino is not a race, it's an ethnicity. Latinos can be of any race. I lived in Puerto Rico when I was little and I was referred to as white. I never heard the term latino till I came to Florida.
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    Jul 23, 2013 8:24 PM GMT
    I'm offended when someone calls me white! I can't help it if I am pale!

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    Jul 23, 2013 8:25 PM GMT
    Lightbringer saidIt's so weird how latinos get offended when you refer to them as white. Latino is not a race, it's an ethnicity. Latinos can be of any race. I lived in Puerto Rico when I was little and I was referred to as white. I never heard the term latino till I came to Florida.


    I tell people that all the time ! Why are people so damn stupid. saying latino is a race is like saying American is a race. And whats worse is people think someone can " look " Hispanic. People need to start using the terms blanco, negro, mulatto, cafuzu, mestizo and quadroon and creole, they sound sexier and properly break down race
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    Jul 23, 2013 8:28 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidJust tell him you're sorry. Say you never meant to offend him, but that you'll be more careful to respect him in the future. Hopefully, he will accept that you didn't mean to insult him.

    This.
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    Jul 23, 2013 8:30 PM GMT
    Tell him that you had no intention of causing offense and that you apologise and invite him to the gym or something, after all it was honesty and not intended as offense
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    Jul 23, 2013 8:31 PM GMT
    You're developing a pattern of making race threads aren't you.
  • JuneauMike

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    Jul 23, 2013 8:32 PM GMT
    President Obama delivered a major speech about some of these issues. Def worth a look at this article: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trayvon_Martin_could_have_been_me_35_years_ago Try to put things in context, from the perspective of people who have faced discrimination.

    As for me, I'll take an ignorant comment that someone apologizes sincerely for and never repeats over overt bigotry any day of the week!

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    Jul 23, 2013 10:04 PM GMT
    People occasionally tell me they thought I was Jewish. (I'm being serious).
    I've been merely saying, "No I'm not" but from now on I'm going to get offended and demand an apology. How dare they get me wrong.
  • TheBizMan

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    Jul 23, 2013 10:20 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidWow! you are really ignorant as to the prejudices that Lations and others face. Not only do Latinos face prejudices from "white right wingers" but also from blacks both left and right. I can't say that I blame your room mate, you seem to be living in a world that only revolves around you ... good luck with that.

    Fuck off.

    You've probably mistaken a latino for a white man yourself.
  • TheBizMan

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    Jul 23, 2013 10:24 PM GMT
    CopperDevil saidLatino/hispanic is NOT a race. If a hispanic looks white thats because he IS white ..... I dont know why so many people dont understand this.

    Boo boo just stop. You live in America. I'm not saying your words don't have credence but in America latino/hispanic is distinctly categorized as a race.

  • TheBizMan

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    Jul 23, 2013 10:28 PM GMT
    And Deki all you can do is sincerely apologize.

    But you already knew that. icon_wink.gif
  • WhoDey

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    Jul 23, 2013 10:35 PM GMT
    I really offended my friend one when I called him white. He claimed he is mixed race because his grandma was from Japan or something. It's amazing how things like that can offend someone.
  • deep388

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    Jul 23, 2013 10:42 PM GMT
    I can relate in some ways and understand why the guy in question got offended. Race is a very sensitive issue after all, and if people call you something that you don't or are not even affliated to, then it would bring about annoyance. In my case (a little bit different), people would comment after I told them that I have mixed Nepalese-Indian heritage that I don't look very south asian. I'm proud of my South Asian heritage and do get offended when people just think they can make up what they think my race is based on what tan colour I have and how I look.
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    Jul 23, 2013 10:50 PM GMT
    WhoDey saidI really offended my friend one when I called him white. He claimed he is mixed race because his grandma was from Japan or something. It's amazing how things like that can offend someone.

    Getting annoyed is one thing.
    Getting so offended that you won't talk to someone is being a prima donna.
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    Jul 24, 2013 1:34 AM GMT
    Why are All your threads about white people!!! lol WHYY!!
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    Jul 24, 2013 1:40 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidWow! you are really ignorant as to the prejudices that Lations and others face. Not only do Latinos face prejudices from "white right wingers" but also from blacks both left and right. I can't say that I blame your room mate, you seem to be living in a world that only revolves around you ... good luck with that.


    People joke around.. get over it

    Your friends acting like a punk.. lol Just apologize.. people tell me I act white but you don't see me crying about it or ignoring someone I could be having sex with (his GF)

    Seems like something else that is bigger is tied to this.. something that really hurt him you don't know about, no one should cry over just being told they look a different race... If this is true then he may have a right to be sad but not to blame you for something you knew nothing about

    Sense he is avoiding you, chase him down and talk to him about why it made him sad
  • SaniBasco

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    Jul 24, 2013 1:40 AM GMT
    Import saidwhatta bunch of bitches u all sound like. icon_rolleyes.gif

    tell ur over-emotional roommate to get over it so yall can continue to suck eachother's dicks at the gym.


    +1. Well, minus the suck dicks part lol
  • SaniBasco

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    Jul 24, 2013 1:46 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidWow! you are really ignorant as to the prejudices that Lations and others face. Not only do Latinos face prejudices from "white right wingers" but also from blacks both left and right. I can't say that I blame your room mate, you seem to be living in a world that only revolves around you ... good luck with that.



    Your flippant approach and comment was hardly necessary because I'm sure he is completely capable of empathizing with the prejudices that Latinos face, just like most other people who are of African descent in this country. So please fuck off.
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    Jul 24, 2013 1:51 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidJust tell him you're sorry. Say you never meant to offend him, but that you'll be more careful to respect him in the future. Hopefully, he will accept that you didn't mean to insult him.


    +1, OP, maybe your intention were right but the way you came at him was incorrect or mean? IDK, tell him to get over it, be friends again and take him to have some yogurt to make up and go to the gym again! Arh, college time is fun.