Arizona Man Leaves Wife And Five Children, Resurfaces 16 Years Later With Gay Lover

  • metta

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    Jul 23, 2013 9:31 PM GMT
    Arizona Man Leaves Wife And Five Children, Resurfaces 16 Years Later With Gay Lover

    http://www.queerty.com/arizona-man-leaves-wife-and-five-children-resurfaces-16-years-later-with-gay-lover-20130723/


  • metta

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    Jul 23, 2013 9:33 PM GMT
    His last statement really bugs me:

    Myers believes he made the right decision to return. “To live in a disguise is a horrible prison,” he said.


    Does he ever consider how his choices are affecting his original family?
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    Jul 23, 2013 10:15 PM GMT
    Disgusting.
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 23, 2013 10:22 PM GMT
    Being in the closet is a terrible place to be. It forces you to lie to people you supposedly love. This guy took it way too far and destoyed his family's lives in the process. What a shame.
  • TheBizMan

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    Jul 23, 2013 10:31 PM GMT
    He is a loser.
  • Sportsfan1

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    Jul 24, 2013 3:01 AM GMT
    Such a sad story. Men and I guess women that do this sort of thing do not realize the harm they cause to the people closest to them. He can try to justify his actions by trying to blame his upbringing but others have had similiar or worse upbringings and did not do what he did. What a jerk!
  • Suetonius

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    Jul 24, 2013 3:10 AM GMT
    No excuse for his disappearing act. Lots of married men "discovered" they were gay in that era - and got divorces.
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    Jul 24, 2013 4:27 AM GMT
    Good For Him! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 24, 2013 4:46 AM GMT
    My first thought is that he should have stayed dead. So she has to come up with $800k now? Seems like he should be responsible for paying it back.
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    Jul 24, 2013 4:56 AM GMT
    I worked with a guy whose dad did this same thing, leaving a wife and two young sons. My co-worker and his brother learned to do without their dear old dad. The grandparents stepped in with money to help with the expenses, mortgage, school tuition, etc. About 20 years later, the dad was found in New Mexico (he'd been from Palo Alto, CA). The dad had been a geologist and staged his disappearance while out on a dig for the U.S. Geological Survey. He was unhappy with his marriage, and met a young native American woman and took up with her. For nearly 20 years, the dad and his new girl ran a little store in the middle of nowhere in New Mexico. One day another geologist the dad had known 20 years earlier stopped at the little store to buy something and recognized his former co-worker. Busted. The dad came back to Palo Alto for a terse reunion with his wife and grown kids, and his aged parents. It did not go well, and he went back to his native American girl in New Mexico. The wife had to pay back the insurance money (not sure the amount). So - some of these selfish, irresponsible guys just simply don't love their families enough to stick around - - - gay or straight.

    I'd be interested in knowing how many guys would welcome back a dad like this one? Remember - he didn't voluntarily come home, as in the Arizona story. The New Mexico dad was discovered. He only went home begrudgingly and then didn't stay. Personally - I think I'd tell him I did fine without him for twenty years, and I didn't see any need to have a relationship with him now. What do other guys think they'd do???
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    Jul 24, 2013 6:11 AM GMT
    scumbag.
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    Jul 24, 2013 6:21 AM GMT
    The things bisexuals get up to.icon_redface.gif
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    Jul 24, 2013 6:25 AM GMT
    I too knew I was a poofter at six, and was open and truthful about; oh boy what they did to me for doing so at such a young age in the 1960s. But I now get to look back on my life with pride.
  • rman23

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    Jul 24, 2013 8:50 AM GMT
    Do I even care? Nah! It happens. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jul 24, 2013 5:16 PM GMT
    I feel sorry for his family and children. The fact that this fu*ck ran away makes it even worse. not only is he a disgrace to gays but he also a disgrace to manhood. A real man never run away from his responsibilities
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    Jul 24, 2013 5:20 PM GMT
    His family could have suffered also if he came out of the closet back in 1992.
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    Jul 24, 2013 5:22 PM GMT
    wow, that is the height of selfishness. He has kids, apparently he doesn't care at all about them. Sad.
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    Jul 27, 2013 10:59 PM GMT
    bangingwithmrcooper saidwhat i want to know is why gay media outlets like queerty and huffington posts seem to be focused on white guys 90% of the time and half of the time, the shit isn't even news or has anything to do with being gay. it's almost like some white pride type of shit. they'll have some male model, celebrity, some youtube wannabe star, vlogger or whoever, who of course is white, giving them some news time when they really aren't doing or saying shit that is newsworthy. like give me a break. who the fuck are the editors, writers of these damn gay outlet magazines?


    Oh for Christs sake Pazzy. This thread was going along just fine and you have to start shit about race again. Give it a fucking rest. Life is NOT all about white vs black.
  • Suetonius

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    Jul 27, 2013 11:47 PM GMT
    flguy57 said
    bangingwithmrcooper saidwhat i want to know is why gay media outlets like queerty and huffington posts seem to be focused on white guys 90% of the time and half of the time, the shit isn't even news or has anything to do with being gay. it's almost like some white pride type of shit. they'll have some male model, celebrity, some youtube wannabe star, vlogger or whoever, who of course is white, giving them some news time when they really aren't doing or saying shit that is newsworthy. like give me a break. who the fuck are the editors, writers of these damn gay outlet magazines?


    Oh for Christs sake Pazzy. This thread was going along just fine and you have to start shit about race again. Give it a fucking rest. Life is NOT all about white vs black.


    +1 Amen !
  • Artique

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    Jul 27, 2013 11:53 PM GMT
    tru_blu_ozzie saidThe things bisexuals get up to.icon_redface.gif


    +2
  • Timbales

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    Jul 27, 2013 11:56 PM GMT
    I'm from a small town and I could have been in a similar situation, so I do have a tiny bit sympathy for what he was feeling at the time. But it goes out the window when I think about what it would mean for me to be a father, have children and put them through the horror of thinking I was dead just because I couldn't face them and the rest of my family with the truth about who I am. I think it's selfish and unforgivable
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 28, 2013 12:59 AM GMT
    A deadbeat dad is still a deadbeat dad he was obliged to his responsibility that he created ... Divorce was the only logical option.
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    Jul 28, 2013 1:31 AM GMT
    bangingwithmrcooper saidwhat i want to know is why gay media outlets like queerty and huffington posts seem to be focused on white guys 90% of the time and half of the time, the shit isn't even news or has anything to do with being gay. it's almost like some white pride type of shit. they'll have some male model, celebrity, some youtube wannabe star, vlogger or whoever, who of course is white, giving them some news time when they really aren't doing or saying shit that is newsworthy. like give me a break. who the fuck are the editors, writers of these damn gay outlet magazines?


    oh God...
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  • MixedJock91

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    Jul 28, 2013 1:34 AM GMT
    tru_blu_ozzie saidThe things bisexuals get up to.icon_redface.gif


    what do you mean? say "SOME BISEXUALS" when you address shitty situations like this...not all of "US" do this
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    MixedJock91 said
    tru_blu_ozzie saidThe things bisexuals get up to.icon_redface.gif


    what do you mean? say "SOME BISEXUALS" when you address shitty situations like this...not all of "US" do this


    But one did not say all, thus no need to say Some since we are all shoved under the one banner.