Relationship Turn Ons and Turn Offs

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    Nov 10, 2008 5:51 PM GMT
    Early in a new relationship what are the top five things that you find to be a turn on and what are the top five turn offs?
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    Nov 10, 2008 5:58 PM GMT
    Turn Ons:

    - great sex;
    - consideration/politeness;
    - good listener;
    - interesting conversationalist;
    - likes to cuddle/snuggle.

    Turn Offs:

    - needy;
    - can't perform sexually (e.g. impotence);
    - only talks about himself;
    - bad hygiene (bad breath, body odor);
    - makes racist or cruel comments about others.
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    Nov 10, 2008 6:05 PM GMT
    On.....

    Hot Sex icon_biggrin.gif

    Romance icon_cool.gif

    Intelligence icon_wink.gif

    Style icon_cool.gif

    Lasting power icon_wink.gifCall Me


    Off

    Smoking/ drugs
    Lying
    Not caring about appearance
    No ambition
    Jealousy icon_neutral.gif
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    Nov 10, 2008 6:39 PM GMT
    Ons:

    Good conversation

    Great kisser and sexual partner

    Assertive, take charge attitude

    Fun to be around

    Affectionate



    Offs:

    Signs that he might be a player

    Pushover

    Lazy

    Bad kisser

    Bitchy
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    Nov 10, 2008 8:21 PM GMT





    ons:

    Really concerned about where you have been all day

    Eager to hold you at all times.

    Very sweet to you and puts your wants before theirs (I do the same for them)

    A bit possessive but not over protective.

    Prefers hanging out at home rather then going out all the time.

    Wants a family and a serious relationship

    offs:


    When I'm accused of something just because I’m on a website or in a bar, or others want me.

    Mean jokes to make you jealous

    Cheating/lying

    Someone that has the " do as I say, not as I do" attitude

    Feminine
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    Nov 10, 2008 8:27 PM GMT
    WOW, though I could think of some others, if held to 5 only, SurrealLife has already listed mine.
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    Nov 10, 2008 10:05 PM GMT


    Oh Man.

    Turn ons: courtesy of onslaught,

    Very sweet to you and puts your wants before theirs (I do the same for them)

    A bit possessive but not over protective.

    Prefers hanging out at home rather then going out all the time.

    Wants a family and a serious relationship

    courtesy of SurrealLife:

    - good listener;
    - interesting conversationalist;
    - likes to cuddle/snuggle.

    courtesy of GQjock:

    Romance

    Intelligence

    Lasting power

    courtesy of DigitalGhost:



    Ons:

    Good conversation

    Great kisser

    Assertive, take charge attitude

    Fun to be around

    Affectionate


    .... and of course, thinks with his heart and acts in regards to the needs of others besides each other.


    Turn offs:

    non-committal
    self-centred
    hater
    cheater
    has compulsive problems with smoking/drugs/drinking
    unsanitary to point of illness and contagion
    hates animals
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    Nov 10, 2008 10:06 PM GMT

    OK YungHungSFSD,


    What's yours?
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    Nov 11, 2008 12:29 AM GMT
    TURN ON :

    Their voice when I they call during a busy day to say that
    they're thinking of me.

    Their touch when were intimate.

    Their smell when we're snuggled close together.

    Slow personal revelation and discovery.

    Mutual conversation ( The ability to talk AND listen. )





    TURN OFF :

    Jerks and liars

    Bad hygene

    Possesive or clingy types

    Selfishness

    Inability to be romantic
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    Nov 11, 2008 12:42 AM GMT
    Turn-On:

    Intelligence

    Sense of Humor

    Smile

    Great Kisser

    Polite


    Turn-Offs: The opposite, of each of the above.
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    Nov 11, 2008 3:52 AM GMT
    Turn ons:

    Laidback

    Fun to be around

    Sense of humor

    Genuine

    Turn offs:

    Liars

    Having eyes peeled for something better.

    Drug and alcohol abuse

    Smoking
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    Nov 11, 2008 8:53 PM GMT
    My turn on's are as follows:

    Patner must be concerned about how your day has been

    Partner must be Eager to pounce on you when you come through the door and hold you at all times.

    A partner whose very sweet to you and puts your wants before theirs with compassion and deep understanding (I do the same for them)

    A partner who is a bit possessive( but not needy) and not over protective (or finds the need to lock u in a cage).

    A partner who would be a hopeless romantic finding a peaceful place at home instead of needing to be a social butterfly.

    One who has a place in his heart for family and a serious relationship

    offs:


    When I'm confrunted or accused of something just because I’m on a website or in a bar, or others want me. This really pisses me off

    Cruel Jokes to make you angry or jealous

    Cheating/lying

    Someone that has a " do as I say, not as I do" attitude

    One whom possesses "Extreme Femininity"
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    Nov 11, 2008 9:13 PM GMT
    OMG if I knew / seen my American husband in the way I do now. I'm sure our relationship may of never taken off. The thing that drives me nuts about him is: nothing is ever his fault, he would rather pass the blame, have a scapegoat, than stand corrected. He is well educated, a high IQ. But dose not have the balls to say OK, it's my fault. No he would rather put the blame on me, or anyone else. Not very manly at all. I find that a turn off. Yet My Russia husband is the total opisit. What a man......
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    Nov 12, 2008 3:45 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    OK YungHungSFSD,


    What's yours?


    On's

    1.) They can and do communicate what they are thinking and feeling regularly.

    2.) A good heart. is kind to me, to others, to animals, etc. Has a strong sense of compassion. Compassion can be a very sexy trait because it shows they have the ability to care about something beyond themselves and indicates a lack of severe narcissism so prevalent in American society today.

    3.) A little playfulness - sexually and otherwise

    4.) Likes physical intimacy - not just sex, but also just cuddling, and sex to..haha

    5.) Understands that it takes a little effort to make things work, effort at being romantic, effort at showing some interest in me, effort at learning about be, effort at realizing that I need to be pursued a bit and not taking for granted that I'm theirs.

    6.) A good mind - is able to have an intelligent conversation, think through things, see the deeper aspects,


    DEMANDING! I know...I working on lowing my expectations.

    OFF's (Pretty much the opposite of the On's)

    1.) Bitchy, meanness, cruelty, etc...people that aren't nice people will not go far with me.

    2.) Takes stuff for granted - me, life, what they have, their health

    3.) Dramatic hang ups for which they have only excuses. I can tolerate hang up's god knows we all have some. It's when they can't acknowledge them or make ridiculous excuses, for example I smoke 4 packs a day because my last boyfriend cheated on me, or I can't show love because my aunt was mean to me when I was three. Give me a break.

    4.) Show's only a passing interest in getting to know who I really am.

    5.) Has little interest in intimacy aside from putting on the show when we go out so I can fulfill by duty to be their trophy.

    6.) Lack of personal hygiene.

    7.) Addictions

    8.) Extremes of disposition - either completely irresponsible or so excessively concerned about everything that they can't let lose and have fun, doesn't care about money at all and will foolishly waste all they have, or completely materialistic and unable to think about anything but money, etc...