1.) They can and do communicate what they are thinking and feeling regularly.
2.) A good heart. is kind to me, to others, to animals, etc. Has a strong sense of compassion. Compassion can be a very sexy trait because it shows they have the ability to care about something beyond themselves and indicates a lack of severe narcissism so prevalent in American society today.
3.) A little playfulness - sexually and otherwise
4.) Likes physical intimacy - not just sex, but also just cuddling, and sex to..haha
5.) Understands that it takes a little effort to make things work, effort at being romantic, effort at showing some interest in me, effort at learning about be, effort at realizing that I need to be pursued a bit and not taking for granted that I'm theirs.
6.) A good mind - is able to have an intelligent conversation, think through things, see the deeper aspects,
DEMANDING! I know...I working on lowing my expectations.
OFF's (Pretty much the opposite of the On's)
1.) Bitchy, meanness, cruelty, etc...people that aren't nice people will not go far with me.
2.) Takes stuff for granted - me, life, what they have, their health
3.) Dramatic hang ups for which they have only excuses. I can tolerate hang up's god knows we all have some. It's when they can't acknowledge them or make ridiculous excuses, for example I smoke 4 packs a day because my last boyfriend cheated on me, or I can't show love because my aunt was mean to me when I was three. Give me a break.
4.) Show's only a passing interest in getting to know who I really am.
5.) Has little interest in intimacy aside from putting on the show when we go out so I can fulfill by duty to be their trophy.
6.) Lack of personal hygiene.
8.) Extremes of disposition - either completely irresponsible or so excessively concerned about everything that they can't let lose and have fun, doesn't care about money at all and will foolishly waste all they have, or completely materialistic and unable to think about anything but money, etc...