Were you ever caught cheating?

  • Fargo

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    Jul 25, 2013 11:28 AM GMT
    This would be very hard for some to admit they ever cheated (we're all angles after all!)

    So I'll start. Last year, I had a rough time with my BF, we had a big fight, and didn't talk for two weeks. He used to live with me, but after the fight he moved to his parents house again.

    During this time, I met a really nice and hot guy and got to know him. He asked me if I'm single and I said yes. One day he comes over while I was on the roof of my house doing some astrophotography and we started making out, he them pulls me to go downstairs to the bedroom. On the way down, to our combined shock, my BF was setting on the couch and watching TV! I was shocked, but you can imagine how shock this guy was as well, and my BF as well. The new guy bolted out without saying a word, and I felt extremely awful as my BF was there to surprise me and I surprised him with this.

    The good thing is that we got over that and we've been back together.
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    Jul 25, 2013 1:59 PM GMT
    You really think someone here is going to admit it? I'm looking forward to any responses because it'll give me some decent reading material.
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    Jul 25, 2013 2:00 PM GMT
    No. But i caught him and damn near killed him
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    Jul 25, 2013 2:20 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidYou really think someone here is going to admit it? I'm looking forward to any responses because it'll give me some decent reading material.


    Some wrote the same thing when I posted the topic "Is anyone here on food stamps?"

    I don't see how it is embarrassing to "admit" it here on a forum where nobody knows who you are and there are people admitting having attempted suicide.
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    Jul 25, 2013 2:43 PM GMT
    HETERO_DOLPHIN saidsome things are better left unsaid and should kept to oneself.

    Exactly, who needs to air all their dirty laundry so Erik has reading material to fall asleep to! LOL Oh and no, I have not been caught, probably because I haven't done it icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 25, 2013 2:44 PM GMT
    I'm incapable of cheating, because NO ONE owns me.


    It's not possible to cheat on me, because I don't own HIM.
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    Jul 25, 2013 3:17 PM GMT
    I've never cheated, but I was caught once, in error...

    I was dancing with my late partner, when he left the floor to get us some drinks. I kept on dancing by myself until he returned.

    Then the DJ turned on the strobe lights, and I closed my eyes, being epileptic. It's also why I wore custom tinted sunglasses on the dance floor, that reduced the effects of flashing lights. They also hid from view the fact that I was closing my eyes at times.

    Well another guy came up and started dancing next to me, but not touching, and I didn't realize it. My partner returned, put our drinks on our high-top table, and headed onto the dance floor, where he saw me apparently dancing with this other guy.

    All of a sudden I heard his deep, bass voice yell: "Get the fuck away from my husband, or you'll find your ass out in the parking lot!!!" My eyes snapped open and saw this guy dancing "with" me, and then my partner standing nearby.

    The guy froze, along with half the dancers around us. He tried to explain, but my partner shut him off. "Get the fuck outta here before I throw you out!" The guy fled in fear, and I almost did, as well. icon_eek.gif

    I tried to explain but my partner stormed off the floor. I caught up with him at our table, where he told me he knew I would never cheat on him, he just wanted to teach this other guy a lesson, and to anyone else who might try dancing with me. And for me to be more careful next time.

    I agreed to all his provisions, secretly pleased for 2 reasons. First, I had never had a man fight over me before. I'd heard some women liked when that happened to them, and now I knew why - it was wickedly flattering.

    Second, it was the first time he ever called me his husband, and in public, too, even if it was a gay club. I loved him all the more for it, even while knowing I'd have to watch my step more carefully in the future, not only to actually BE innocent, but to APPEAR innocent of cheating. And I succeeded on both counts. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 25, 2013 4:05 PM GMT
    Shawnathan saidThis thread is obtuse. I have never cheated or been caught cheating, but I dated a guy who was more than an acute cheater. I'll forgive him some day though, because we're all "angles", right?


    *cried.

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    On the Angles part, naa-No!
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    Jul 25, 2013 4:18 PM GMT
    HETERO_DOLPHIN saidsome things are better left unsaid and should be kept to oneself.

    Amen with thaticon_lol.gif
  • Aodhan

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    Jul 25, 2013 4:21 PM GMT
    HETERO_DOLPHIN saidsome things are better left unsaid and should be kept to oneself.


    I was going to say something like this, beat me to it icon_lol.gif
  • madsexy

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    Jul 25, 2013 4:22 PM GMT
    I've been cheated on by a partner who'd committed to our relationship as had I. The irony is that it wasn't, at the point of our commitment, something I wanted; it was his insistence that we "take our relationship to the next level". (I guess he did - later - when he cheated!)

    It came at me out of the blue - we were very happy, by then I was madly in love with him, and he did amazingly romantic things for me almost every day (as I did for him, which I'll admit I had to have my best friend coach me on because I didn't have any ideas of my own, but I carried them out beautifully and with full intent and meaning, which only made me fall more in love with him). And lots of "I'm so glad we're together, you're mine," etc. were exchanged in conversation all the time.

    One day at the gym the phone rang of the guy on the machine next to me while it was sitting on a bar of the machine. It vibrated, and it fell off, and it bounced across and hit my shoe. I picked it up, and my bf's pic and name was the call ringing in on the screen! I almost said, "Oh, you know my bf, Carl," but I didn't. Instead I just handed him the phone, and honestly I only didn't say something because I thought if I distracted him another ring or two and the call would go to voicemail. Then I overheard him starting out with "Hey, babe," which really got my attention, then "Yeah, I can't wait."

    It was apparently meant for me to find out, because we were both early in our workouts, both doing upper body, so in the same area in the gym for quite a while after that. So I casually talked to him, first mentioning my phone versus his, etc. Then I said with a smile, "The call you got - HANDSOME guy!" And he blushed and then just started telling me how they'd been off-and-on for TWO FUCKING YEARS, how he knew that "Carl was in a bad relationship now since he and Carl had gotten back together FOUR FUCKING MONTHS BEFORE . . . " I will not defend my sneakiness nor will I take credit for cutting it off at that point and just finishing my workout with as much dignity and composure as I could muster.

    THEN we hit the showers at the same time, and I admit that I did take happy notice that Carl, who was a stunning stud in every physical way, obviously had a vast contrast on his hands between me and "the other guy" (I honestly don't even remember his name), and I was on the higher end of the percentile of hotness-in-comparison-to-other-guys scale versus the other guy.

    THEN the guy hit on me! HARD! PERSISTENTLY! So finally when I'd casually thanked him for the compliment and brushed it aside about four times I finally said, "We're both bottoms, dude, so let's leave this one alone." He of course said, "How did you know I'm a bottom?" And at that point I couldn't stop my lips from moving and my vocal chords from saying, "Because your bf who called you has fucked me enough times for me to know he's a total top and doesn't like vers guys, just total power bottoms."

    Again, the fates were working with me that day because I was dressed and he wasn't, and as I finished the sentence I'd stuffed my gym bag and hoisted it and took off out of there. A few hours later, during afternoon classes, Carl called me. Then he texted me: I guess we should talk. I just texted back: It's not necessary. When I got to my dorm room, Carl had come and my roommate had let him in and he'd taken his stuff and had left me a card and a note and said he was sorry and if there was any way he could take it all back and not put me through it he would.

    I spent a month without running into him, which my best friend said Carl had "taken off the other way" a few times and had deliberately not come to games or anything when I was playing like he always did before (not because of me; that's how we met actually). But I wondered things like "Why didn't he even make an attempt to work it out with me? Obviously he likes the other guy better!" and "What did it all mean? Was it just a game to him or what?" Basically I drove myself crazy.

    I took a bad injury at a game about a month after our breakup. A friend who I hadn't seen since the breakup, who was a close friend of Carl's, came to see me in the hospital one day. (I found out I had a lot of friends and learned something about friendship from that whole injury/recovery thing that made me a better person.) So Derek, Carl's friend, gives me a card from him and asks if he can give me a card from Carl. I said sure, with no emotional intent or issue, just didn't have any reaction energy in me anyway. Then he said Carl wanted to come and visit me and had asked him to ask me because he didn't want to come if it would be a problem for me. I said sure, because actually it sparked something in me that was the first "fight" I'd had in me since the injury and a lot of head crap I was going through.

    He came about a half hour later - Derek had texted him. When he came two of my friends who were there - big athlete friends of mine - turned to me and said "You want us to kill this asshole before we throw him out of here or after?" I hadn't told anyone he'd be coming because frankly I was surprised he really had the balls to.

    Carl brought me a white rose and said, "I know I don't deserve your forgiveness, but you deserve my sincere apology and the opportunity to have me do anything you want to make up for what I did to you." So we had the "why" discussion, and of course it was just a mix of (sadly) typical male miscreance but penitent and honest, not daring to suggest I take him back, but telling me he knew he blew the best relationship he'd ever had and other stuff.

    Was it all BS? I don't know. What I do know is that ten years later I moved here from Chicago, and when Carl found out I was moving (he still lived in Chicago, too, at that point) he called me so out of the blue that I didn't even have his number in my phone and didn't know who it was until I heard his voice. He asked me if he could take me out to dinner to congratulate me on my new job and my change and move, and I went . . . and had a great time with him, the charming, interesting, uber-masculine jock he always was. Much later, when he was leaving my apartment, he hugged me and held me really tight and I realized he was crying. When I asked him, still wrapped around each other, he said: "I guess I have always thought we'd somehow someday get back together, and now you're leaving and I realize we won't. I made such a terrible mistake, Mads, and I'm still sorry for what I did to you, but I've been sorry for what I did to me, too."

    I was nice to him but sent him on his way.

    Why do people have to cheat? Particularly when he never had to to begin with, HE forced it to an agreement between us that then made it cheating. That's what I don't understand. I'm NO fan of monogamy for me unless I'm wildly in love with someone, and that's happened RARELY. I'm a self-proclaimed, highly-acclaimed slut. But I've NEVER cheated on anyone ever . . . and I doubt I could no matter the circumstances. WTF icon_question.gificon_question.gificon_question.gif
  • madsexy

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    Jul 25, 2013 4:24 PM GMT
    eb925guy said
    HETERO_DOLPHIN saidsome things are better left unsaid and should kept to oneself.

    Exactly, who needs to air all their dirty laundry so Erik has reading material to fall asleep to! LOL Oh and no, I have not been caught, probably because I haven't done it icon_smile.gif

    Whoops probably should have read this before my keyboard purge above! icon_redface.gif
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    Jul 25, 2013 4:30 PM GMT
    I'm not afraid to admit it, I did it once and I was caught. I have no excuse.
    I was sure my boyfriend was cheating on me. He was acting weird and I knew he would talk to random guys on gay chats. But instead of confronting him about it I stupidly kept it for myself.
    Then one day I went to see a movie with an other friend who happened to be into me. We drank a lot after that and he kissed me in the street. Several times. And I didn't refuse.
    But it happened that a friend of my boyfriend saw us. It's crazy when I think about it. The very time I cheat on him, we are seen by his friend, in a big city like Paris. That must be Karma.
    Then my boyfriend dumped me and I felt like shit.
    You will never catch me cheating on anyone now. I learnt the lesson. In a way cheating on my boyfriend made me a better person.
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    Jul 25, 2013 5:14 PM GMT
    eb925guy said
    HETERO_DOLPHIN saidsome things are better left unsaid and should kept to oneself.

    Exactly, who needs to air all their dirty laundry so Erik has reading material to fall asleep to! LOL Oh and no, I have not been caught, probably because I haven't done it icon_smile.gif


    Gee, what a way to ruin my fun eb925guy! icon_wink.gif
  • selim

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    Jul 25, 2013 5:25 PM GMT
    Never ever!icon_smile.gif
  • MikemikeMike

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    Jul 25, 2013 5:34 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidI'm incapable of cheating, because NO ONE owns me.


    It's not possible to cheat on me, because I don't own HIM.


    THIS icon_cool.gif

    And for the few who said this shouldn't be discussed- what a cop-out it means they cheat or have been cheated on -- Or felt justified in their minds cheating at that time.
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    Jul 25, 2013 6:52 PM GMT
    Never b/c I never cheat on someone I'm dating but I've caught them.
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    Jul 25, 2013 7:27 PM GMT
    Madsexy wrote:
    "Whoops probably should have read this before my keyboard purge above!"

    Nah, actually I read the whole thing....pretty insightful.
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    Jul 25, 2013 7:38 PM GMT
    My adage: When I'm married I'm monogamous, when I'm single I'm a slut.

    My first lover cheated on me. By the time I found out I didn't give a shit about the abusive insecure twit. It was the tip of the iceberg.

    Once, when a couple we knew were breaking up after 15 years he said "I hope we don't break up after all those years."

    I said "You won't have to wait that long!"


    2nd lover, never a problem. He got transferred 1200 miles away.

    3rd lover.....he broke up with me 3 or 4 times toward the end. I made one of them final and went "out" and his best friend saw me thinking I was cheating! It was not the case. It really bothered my ex, we hashed that out after his friend died, and I still love him dearly.....he's my best friend.
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    Jul 25, 2013 7:41 PM GMT
    BTW I'm the world's WORST liar, so I can't cheat!

    Until last Friday I was seeing a guy for a while, 5-6 days a week since 6/1.....and previously when I was visiting on vacation.
    He supposedly had an "open" relationship. Turns out it wasn't all that open. That made me a partner to a cheater...I didn't like that.

    I saw on someone's profile "Don't make someone a priority when you are an option." I didn't like that path either.

    The sex was REALLY HOT..........don't regret it one bit! An open affair is OK as long as it's OK by everyone.
  • Suetonius

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    Jul 25, 2013 7:43 PM GMT
    Never had; and yes, Madsexey's account was interesting reading.
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    Jul 25, 2013 7:53 PM GMT
    no, cuz im not a cheater. I almost cheated on my ex and then a week later we were broke up
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    Jul 25, 2013 8:02 PM GMT
    Things were bad, I cheated, lost the best thing that ever happened to me. Lesson learned loud and clear.
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    Jul 25, 2013 9:14 PM GMT
    JDR62 saidThings were bad, I cheated, lost the best thing that ever happened to me. Lesson learned loud and clear.


    Damn dude! I'd never cheat on you icon_exclaim.gif

    And the thing to remember (for me) is if I ever "got" the guy, he'd probably cheat on me too.
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    Jul 25, 2013 9:37 PM GMT
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    Anyways, cheating is awful icon_confused.gif