This is how I approach a guy at a club/bar/party. Only 3 steps very easy.

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    Jul 25, 2013 11:36 AM GMT
    If someone is around my height and build, and has a boyish kind face, he will get my attention. A good example of a boyish kind face is Cory Monteith's. They are nice people but can be very shy. That's why you need to make the first move. 

    First of all, judge the book by its cover. If he is in a tank top or deep v-neck, he is very likely a total bottom or sexually frustrated top. I am not sure if it is your type or not but he will be out of my radar. Also, the face is the reflection of his personality and I usually use Chinese physiognomy to make the judgement. e.g., John Boehner has a sex addict face and I won't be surprised if he has any sex scandal. 

    Then, try to make eye contact. If he doesn't avoid your eye contact, he won't avoid making conversation with you either. 

    Finally, walk to him and my opening usually is "Hey how are you? Where are you from?" or "Hey you look like you want to get to know me. What's your name?" if I am in a flirty mood. 

    I had no expectation or something but that was how I got my man. 



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    Jul 25, 2013 6:24 PM GMT
    Blah. Even when I've been in a gay club, I haven't been approached. I really should go out more often.
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    Jul 25, 2013 6:27 PM GMT
    FFFF saidI had no expectation or something but that was how I got my man.


    Yet your profile says you are looking for a relationship.
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    Jul 25, 2013 6:37 PM GMT
    I just applied this reasoning to myself. icon_rolleyes.gif



    Yikes if people look at me through this lense I'm in trouble.
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    Jul 25, 2013 7:09 PM GMT
    "First of all, judge the book by its cover. If he is in a tank top or deep v-neck, he is very likely a total bottom or sexually frustrated top."

    Folks do NOT use this guy's methodology! LOL
    I hope it was in jest or sarcasm. In Palm Springs right now it's 108 today....all people wear IS tank tops/T-Shirts (some Vs I'm sure) and shorts. Or no shirt at all.
    Why the pejorative towards bottoms? I say thanks for total bottoms! Especially muscular masculine ones icon_biggrin.gif. Nor am I sexually frustrated......I get laid as much as I should, yesterday btw and a date tonight. Only frustration is not finding a more serious relationship.


    "Hey you look like you want to get to know me. What's your name?" Unless he has a boner in his pocket that sounds disingenuous...really it's YOU that wants to meet him! Say so. After you've made eye contact (essential) and hopefully a sly smile exchange.....and the body language is "open" just say something NICE and give him a complement. After that it's only the deal breakers that prevent anything from happening.
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    Jul 25, 2013 7:22 PM GMT
    FFFF saidIf he is in a tank top or deep v-neck, he is very likely a total bottom or sexually frustrated top.

    Wow! Thank you for this factual information!
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    Jul 25, 2013 8:09 PM GMT
    Shawnathan said
    unckabasa said
    Why the pejorative towards bottoms? I say thanks for total bottoms! Especially muscular masculine ones
    Obviously, because the OP is a total bottom.


    And young. As we get older most guys just get what they want. Not bottoms pretending to be tops. They become comfortable being what they are. Some are truly "flippers", not me. I tried to be a bottom when I was young....never seemed to work for me. So I really VALUE what a good bottom goes through! Nothing disgusts me more than a self-loathing fag. OWN it.
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    Jul 25, 2013 11:10 PM GMT
    I was just saying that total bottoms and not-so-desirable tops were not what I was looking for. I hope you don't get offended and try to offend me back.

    I wasn't talking about in a gym or at a costume party. But in a casual night club/bar, your choices in dress make a statement about your self-image. Your character is reflected in the way you dress.

    Tank tops (with thin straps) or deep v-necks are more feminine. Gay guys in them either :
    1, consider themselves as a pretty boy (= submissive boi),
    2, or are boi seekers who try too hard to assimilate themselves with the pretty boys they are into.

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    Jul 25, 2013 11:30 PM GMT
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    Jul 25, 2013 11:33 PM GMT
    As they say .... tanks for tops icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 25, 2013 11:54 PM GMT
    I'm not sure why being in a tank or a deep v neck shirt means that you're likely a "total bottom." What do the two factors have to do with each other?

    Anyway, I'm just wondering this; does anyone regularly get approached in non gay bar/club settings? Living in a conservative area, it's sometimes hard to know whether guys are too nervous to make a move, or if there just aren't very many gay men at these events.
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    Jul 26, 2013 12:12 AM GMT
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    Haha I rarely go out to the clubs and after this great summation I feel like I just did! Crazy funny accurate!
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    Jul 26, 2013 12:21 AM GMT
    Shawnathan saidThis total bottom less than threes me

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    It took this picture for me to understand what the hell less than three meant.


    -.-
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    Jul 26, 2013 12:34 AM GMT
    If someone ever approached me with the line 'looks like you want to get to know me' I'd laugh in their face before telling them to have their vision checked and sending back to their corner to cruise for the next guy!

    By the way, I wear tank tops regularly in the summer and i'm neither a total bottom or frustrated top. So you might want to use a new formula to figure out who you're approaching.
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    Jul 26, 2013 12:46 AM GMT
    TheBizMan said
    Shawnathan saidThis total bottom less than threes me


    It took this picture for me to understand what the hell less than three meant.


    -.-


    I was in the same boat!!

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    Jul 26, 2013 1:41 AM GMT

    ....."total" bottoms "not-so-desireable" tops????

    It's an amazing litany of judgmental BS, that, somehow, we shouldn't be offended by......"and try to offend me back." Classic passive aggressive icon_rolleyes.gif

    You might as well say "N______ are _______" It is that blatantly offensive. It's the difference between discrimination and discriminating taste.

    You've crossed the line from just being a snob to characterizing a whole group of people........GAY people no less, as undesirable! You would have been on the same train as the rest of the Fags to Auschwitz.

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    Jul 26, 2013 1:47 AM GMT
    Lol hahaha cute story! This is my 3 steps! works every time ....

    1/ Get drunk or drink some alcohol to loosen up (i'm a big flirt when I'm on alcohol)

    2/ Cruise around, lock the room on a cute guy, look at him, smile and if he reciprocate and smile back yeah I'm going in...

    3/ Coming closer to him and say *hey baby!! if he likes what he sees, I'll come even closer, grab his waist and just making small random talk about maybe 5 - 10 minutes later, then I'll just kiss either his neck or cheek while feeling his butt/waist Lol. icon_redface.gif

    That worked on the last guy I brought home lol! he was cute, boyish, air force guy, younger than me 28 yo.


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    Jul 26, 2013 1:56 AM GMT
    xsocalguy8x saidLol hahaha cute story! This is my 3 steps! works every time ....

    1/ Get drunk or drink some alcohol to loosen up (i'm a big flirt when I'm on alcohol)

    2/ Cruise around, lock the room on a cute guy, look at him, smile and if he reciprocate and smile back yeah I'm going in...

    3/ Coming closer to him and say *hey baby!! if he likes what he sees, I'll come even closer, grab his waist and just making small random talk about maybe 5 - 10 minutes later, then I'll just kiss either his neck or cheek Lol. icon_redface.gif

    That worked on the last guy I brought home lol! he was cute, boyish, air force guy, younger than me 28 yo.




    YES to number one.
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    Jul 26, 2013 3:50 AM GMT
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    What does he know about rejection?
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    Jul 26, 2013 3:52 AM GMT
    Neight said
    FFFF saidIf he is in a tank top or deep v-neck, he is very likely a total bottom or sexually frustrated top.

    Wow! Thank you for this factual information!
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    Jul 26, 2013 4:03 AM GMT
    Phillips_73 saidI'm not sure why being in a tank or a deep v neck shirt means that you're likely a "total bottom." What do the two factors have to do with each other?

    Anyway, I'm just wondering this; does anyone regularly get approached in non gay bar/club settings? Living in a conservative area, it's sometimes hard to know whether guys are too nervous to make a move, or if there just aren't very many gay men at these events.


    I explained above. In one word, you dress like what you think you are.
    I like those guys who don't care about clothes and always wear their unimpressive shirts with the most boring colors. They are down-to-earth people. Some of them may have a more attractive body or look than most people but they dress like every other normal guy, because they do not consider themselves to be better than others.

    For your second question, in non gay bar/club settings, 95% people are actually straight and most of the other 5% pretend to be straight. So, no I never want to approach others and never expect other gay guys to approach me outside of gay bars/clubs.

    But if you are wearing an interesting text t-shirt, people will be likely to come talk to you in a friendly way. I know when I wear a t-shirt with some funny saying, there always are random strangers friendly point it out to me.
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    Jul 26, 2013 4:44 AM GMT
    FFFF said
    Phillips_73 saidI'm not sure why being in a tank or a deep v neck shirt means that you're likely a "total bottom." What do the two factors have to do with each other?

    Anyway, I'm just wondering this; does anyone regularly get approached in non gay bar/club settings? Living in a conservative area, it's sometimes hard to know whether guys are too nervous to make a move, or if there just aren't very many gay men at these events.


    I explained above. In one word, you dress like what you think you are.
    I like those guys who don't care about clothes and always wear their unimpressive shirts with the most boring colors. They are down-to-earth people. Some of them may have a more attractive body or look than most people but they dress like every other normal guy, because they do not consider themselves to be better than others.

    For your second question, in non gay bar/club settings, 95% people are actually straight and most of the other 5% pretend to be straight. So, no I never want to approach others and never expect other gay guys to approach me outside of gay bars/clubs.

    But if you are wearing an interesting text t-shirt, people will be likely to come talk to you in a friendly way. I know when I wear a t-shirt with some funny saying, there always are random strangers friendly point it out to me.


    Still, I think you're generalizing. Down to earth guys shouldn't care about how they look? I have to admit, you sound very judgmental, and I think you're needlessly closing yourself off to meeting some potentially nice guys.
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    Jul 26, 2013 6:05 AM GMT
    FFFF said
    First of all, judge the book by its cover. If he is in a tank top or deep v-neck, he is very likely a total bottom or sexually frustrated top. I am not sure if it is your type or not but he will be out of my radar. Also, the face is the reflection of his personality and I usually use Chinese physiognomy to make the judgement. e.g., John Boehner has a sex addict face and I won't be surprised if he has any sex scandal. 


    Who the fuck are you? Seriously you possess more bravado than any faceless torso on grindR , I am awestruck

    Source: construction working g-unit baller top that owns tanks for comfort and muscle flaunting
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    Jul 26, 2013 6:22 AM GMT
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    FFFF said
    First of all, judge the book by its cover. If he is in a tank top or deep v-neck, he is very likely a total bottom or sexually frustrated top. I am not sure if it is your type or not but he will be out of my radar. Also, the face is the reflection of his personality and I usually use Chinese physiognomy to make the judgement. e.g., John Boehner has a sex addict face and I won't be surprised if he has any sex scandal. 


    Who the fuck are you? Seriously you possess more bravado than any faceless torso on grindR , I am awestruck

    Source: construction working g-unit baller top that owns tanks for comfort and muscle flaunting


    icon_biggrin.gif This is awesome.

    On a side note, I'm sure everyone's looking forward to the rest of your photos being reviewed icon_redface.gif

    Because of RJ I've tried to muster the courage to just talk to guys that catch my attention. Unfortunately, I only have the conversation skills to chat with a guy provided that he makes the slightest effort to keep the conversation going. I find most guys seem taken aback and it feels like pulling teeth...
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    Jul 26, 2013 8:52 AM GMT
    Bloody hell boys and thats how some of you are acting, boyish not manly.

    Just introduce yourself Hi my name is ...

    sheesh