Have you ever been made fun of?

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    Jul 26, 2013 3:06 AM GMT
    So I was browsing on youtube of the series transformers, when I ran into this video of an interview with the lead girl in transformers 3 Rosie Huntington Whitely, and it came as a shock to me but in this video they go into how SHE was made fun of when she was younger, and that they made fun of her big lips (starts at 3:10).

    It never occurred to me that people like her could be made fun of, and ironically I was made fun of as well for having big lips. I remember the guys in high school used to call me "dick lips" because they over heard a girl saying I had "thick lips" but mistaken it for "dick lips" thus giving me the title, well, that.

    It's so refreshing to see that she can laugh about it now, and still be happy with her self. I can honestly say I've also gotten over it.

    just curious, has any of you been made fun of? and if you were what were you called? have you, or have you not gotten over it?


  • deep388

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    Jul 26, 2013 3:16 AM GMT
    Curses!! The video is not available in my country. icon_rolleyes.gif

    Anyway, with regard to the topic, I use to always get teased for my rather large forehead. It doesn't really bother me but sometimes I get irked when I notice someone talking to me and then looking up at my head...icon_evil.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 26, 2013 3:25 AM GMT
    Yes, I've been made fun for the way I talk and my last name.
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    Jul 26, 2013 4:33 AM GMT
    A couple of girls in grade school called me Butterfly Butt. I tried for years to keep my hips from swinging when I walked. I eventually got over it.
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    Jul 26, 2013 5:57 AM GMT
    Of course. Constantly. In life, it never stops.

    You get over it and get used to it when you realize that you're fabulous just the way you are.

    Fly your freak flag PROUD!
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    Jul 26, 2013 12:33 PM GMT
    My entire life.
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    Jul 26, 2013 12:35 PM GMT
    Yep all my life when I was younger it bothered me to distraction. Now I don't really care what others think
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    Jul 26, 2013 12:39 PM GMT
    Um, yeah...you name it, I've heard it.

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  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 26, 2013 12:40 PM GMT
    I was a really sensitive kid, interesting what happens when you grow up and gain some success in life. We've all been made fun of, certainly. I think the "whether you got over it question" can be answered by each of us when we revisit some of those people, either in our minds or in person.
  • secondstartot...

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    Jul 26, 2013 12:42 PM GMT
    I was an 8 year old boy who did ballet.................no never
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    Jul 26, 2013 12:47 PM GMT
    secondstartotheright saidI was an 8 year old boy who did ballet.................no never


    I did tap dancing. Ditto!
  • madsexy

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    Jul 26, 2013 1:13 PM GMT
    Mesmer saidjust curious, has any of you been made fun of? and if you were what were you called? have you, or have you not gotten over it?

    Um YEAH on RJ about every third time I post something. It hasn't hurt me yet, though at least once I've fired back (and regret it, given the way some of the threads get polluted by the guys who flame for sport).
    As a gay boy, even though I was hyper-athletic and not girly at all, sure that alone got me my share of jibes. And being taller than EVERYONE else, OMG I can't tell you. But my older brothers told me it was like a ritual training to toughen me for the truly hard dents that one takes in life, and I developed my own immunity to it, occasionally going overboard and fighting or at least fighting back figuratively. Now I'm pretty much inured to that process, and no, only if someone I know and care about meaningfully criticizes me does it have any impact on me.
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    Jul 26, 2013 1:21 PM GMT
    There is a big difference between poking fun at each other and bullying.

    Bullying goes under the insecurity line, below the belt and marks the line at which people respect you and which people think they can get away with laughing at you.

    Know your boundaries and don't let anyone be mean to you, but learn how to be able to not take yourself too seriously and learn to take pride in harmless banter.
  • DJW525

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    Jul 26, 2013 1:51 PM GMT
    Yessir. People are rude, mean, jealous, etc. Most don't even need a reason. The real key is how you handle it. It's your choice to give them that power.
  • Generaleclect...

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    Jul 26, 2013 1:53 PM GMT
    Yup, a little bit.

    One kid made fun of my broad nose in elementary school, and a few kids asked me if they could pull off the skin tag near my ear. Meh.
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    Jul 26, 2013 1:58 PM GMT
    Just recently on real jock i was told that i " look " like a pot smoker because i have brown skin and " afro " hair .... I actually dont have an afro ( not that there is anything wrong with that ) and ironically enough, all the people that i know who smoke pot are blonde white people .... i dont smoke at all or do drugs
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    Jul 26, 2013 2:00 PM GMT
    secondstartotheright saidI was an 8 year old boy who did ballet.................no never

    Right.
    And I listened to grand opera.
    Being different really sets you up.
    BTW can we see video of your doing ballet now? That would be so damn hot.
    P.S. Are you a Panphile? I am.
  • MikeW

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    Jul 26, 2013 2:32 PM GMT
    Yes, of course, but it was so long ago now I don't even remember it. Many more things I'd rather remember than all that.

    As someone else pointed out, there is a difference between 'banter' and 'teasing' (which can actually be a kind of bonding ritual in some instances) and 'bullying'. A lot of it has to do with the emotional intent of the perp(s). Is this a 'pecking order' thing? Do they really not like you, are they trying to put you down, shut you down, embarrass you socially, even put you 'in your place' and keep you there? Or are they just kidding around, looking for a tit-for-tat exchange, a display of bravado or possibly even a kind of camaraderie if not affection?

    If you're sensitive or if you're insecure about or unsure of yourself, as many gay boys/guys are growing up, you tend to not know how to deal with these kinds of attacks. Rather than deflect them or, better yet, give it right back to them (everyone has something they could be teased or embarrassed about), we let it get under our skin and it becomes a piece of our negative self-image. If it gets bad enough, if we can't see ourselves objectively but only through the eyes of our critics, both inside and out, it can become the thing that defines us to ourselves. "It's true, I am bad, I am ugly, I am stupid, I am worthless, I'm a queer, homo pervert, I will never be happy and never be loved." (etc.) As we all know, this can even lead to suicide.

    It all really boils down to our own inner sense of self worth. THAT, unfortunately, is often made up mostly of the 'reflections' of ourselves that we've gotten from parents, siblings, extended family, community and the society around us. Growing up gay, feeling confusion, guilt, shame, hurt and so on, can leave us pretty messed up. At least I know I was as a teen and young adult.

    It is too bad that kids aren't taught to 'self reflect' -- or, put another way, to 'see themselves' without looking in a social mirror. We're not taught the maxims: "Know Thy Self" and "To Thy Own Self Be True." We're seldom if ever told "What someone thinks or says about you says more about THEM than YOU!"

    On the contrary, from a very early age, most of us are conditioned to SEEK social approval. And the implication is clear: If we don't get it, we're not worth shit and might as well crawl in a hole and die.

    It's totally fucked up.

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    Jul 26, 2013 2:55 PM GMT
    Of course! All through Elementary school and junior high!
    It was a nightmare for me. When that movie James and the Gaint Peach came out...I couldn't even walk down the hallway without somebody calling out, "Hey look everybody, it's James and the Gaint Peach."

    And then I got made fun of for the way I walked and how my voice sounded. Eventually I built-up an immunity to the name calling but still it hurt.
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    Jul 26, 2013 2:58 PM GMT
    I got made fun of as a little kid mainly because of my name. It was so easy to rhyme it with a lot of other words that people start having little slogans for me. For the most part, whatever they said didn't bother me too much because I took this saying to heart: "Stick and stone may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." Also, I was following church teaching a bit too much back then too. So I literally would turn the other cheek if someone was to hit me and not fight back. Lol. (Now, that might be a little different.)
    The other kids stop making fun of me a few years later when I was considered one of the smarter kids and also the more athletic ones in class. It wasn't so bad when everyone wants to be in your group or team.
  • Hothouse

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    Jul 26, 2013 3:15 PM GMT
    I was teased in school, even through High School for being skinny. One guy especially would make fun of me, but he was just as skinny as I was.
    I can't say it hurt me that much, but it got old and I hated being so thin, I wanted to fill out and be muscular.

    In college I got a job at the YMCA and started working out. I ran into someone I went to school with and they said something about how great I looked and they had heard I turned into a "body builder."
    This actually made me laugh, because I still thought at the time that I was skinny, but I realized that I had indeed "filled out" compared to my HS days.

    Went to a ten year HS reunion and some of the guys and girls too, had really "filled out" to the point of being overweight - I was thinking if they wanted they could call me skinny and I'd be proud of it!

    I also got teased and called "sexy Rexy" since my name is Rex - I hated that, but now I know it's so true! Sexy and I know it! LOL!
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    Jul 26, 2013 3:21 PM GMT
    I was called "the nose" or "bean pole" all through school because of my big nose and being extremely skinny. And once they found out I was gay, forget about it. Constant bullying and name calling until I got to high school. The moment I turned 19 I got a nose job. Two years later it shifted and had to get another one. Looking back, there was really nothing wrong with my nose, but being so skinny made it look bigger than it was. I wish I had my original nose back. I went through all that pain trying to please others.
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    Jul 26, 2013 3:36 PM GMT
    Oh sure. And even now as a teacher I'm not so naive to think students don't make fun of me. It just comes with the territory. I like being made fun of when it comes to flaws I have that I need to fix only in the company of friends.
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    Jul 26, 2013 3:44 PM GMT
    I'm often self-deprecating and make fun of myself. Some people see that as an invitation to make fun of me as well. I'm also uncomfortable with confrontation so I rarely call them on it. They'll interpret that as meaning it's ok to continue doing it.

    I'm not entirely sure about it, but I think women are more likely to make fun of me than guys; that seems to be my experience. Perhaps they think men are tougher and can take it.
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    Jul 26, 2013 3:56 PM GMT
    Kids have been poking fun at other kids since the beginning of time, I think. I had a great-grandmother named "Electra". She said that back in the 1890's kids would sometimes touch her shoulder - pretend they'd been shocked - and call her "Electricity".

    In my own case, as a kid I was too tall and skinny, so one of my brothers called me "Giraffe" until I learned to lift weights, play water polo - and fill myself out - as a sophomore in high school. The other brother made fun of my zits (I had acne on my forehead sometimes, until I started using Phisohex).

    One time in grade school, I took part in giving a kid some guff about his last name, which was "Butt". Another time I took part in calling a fat kid "Fatty Arbuckle". I called my one brother "Atom Ant" for being small. The other brother (who was a cruel, mean ass) I called "Jack Mule". I once filled out a card at an ice cream store for a free ice cream cone on his birthday - and had it sent to our house in the name of "Jack Mule". He hated it, but had to admit to that name when he presented the card at Baskin Robbins - otherwise - no free ice cream.