cant find love

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    Jul 27, 2013 5:18 AM GMT
    I think I actually liked 2 ppl in my life, 1 was a girl 1 was a guy. they didnt workout.....everyone keeps saying itll happen when it happens. im 24 I know ppl who are now married with kids, and I cant even like someone. like I care about ppl but it wasnt really romantic. I wanna pretend I care other times but I feel either nothing or relief after most break ups. I think I like the idea of a relationship, so I try to date but no one really makes me feel excited or anything. its a bummer.should I give up and just face facts that ill end up a old and alone. wtf is wrong with me...maybe Im just asexual lol
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    Jul 27, 2013 5:24 AM GMT
    How could you possibly expect people to love you if you don't? And how could you possibly love someone else if you don't know how to love yourself either?

    There is some truth when they say to stop looking and it will find you...because when you are actively looking, it gives off a stench of desperation and that's not an attractive trait. People like confidence and security.

    And God damn it - who ever said that we all need "someone to make us happy"? NOBODY and if anybody does, they are dead wrong. A significant other should not be making us happy or define us. It should ONLY be the extras. Life is a cake. It's got cake and frosting and it it scrumptious. A guy should just be the little flower on the top to make it pretty and make us happier. Listen - if you're happy not being with anyone then you are happier - case closed.
  • PR_GMR

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    Jul 27, 2013 5:46 AM GMT
    Feeling the same over here. Latest lover didn't work out. I don't care any more. I don't want to try again with anyone new. I'm 39. it's one thing when you're 24; you still have time. More than half my life is gone.. and I've no one that I could say was a soulmate.
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    Jul 27, 2013 5:52 AM GMT
    bangingwithmrcooper said
    PR_GMR saidFeeling the same over here. Latest lover didn't work out. I don't care any more. I don't want to try again with anyone new. I'm 39. it's one thing when you're 24; you still have time. More than half my life is gone.. and I've no one that I could say was a soulmate.


    you believe in the idea of soulmates? icon_lol.gif sorry but icon_lol.gif.


    Fuck you, pazzy.
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    Jul 27, 2013 6:09 AM GMT
    fuck it im just getting a cat or another dog who doesnt squirm when I want a hug
  • Webster666

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    Jul 27, 2013 7:06 AM GMT
    While you're waiting for Prince Charming to find you, getting a dog that you love, is a GREAT idea.
    You'll get instant affection.
    And, when you take him for a walk, all kinds of people (potential new boy friends) will stop you to pet your dog, and to ask you about him.
    Don't get an old dog. You'll want him to be around for as long as possible.

  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 27, 2013 7:37 AM GMT
    There was this program on tv where they did this study. They got a bunch of people and did not let anyone know who anyone was in the study group. All they give them was a small sign to carry with them and they would have to find the other person that had their matching sign is a very large city (I think it was NY) and they had until the end of the day to find them. They had no clue as to where anyone might go or what they looked like or were wearing or anything other than they would be carrying a matching sign. In almost every case the ones that kept looking for the person with the matching sign did not find them. But in every case where they just figured it would not be possible in a city so big and so they just went out sight seeing and enjoying them selves, they found the person with the person with the matching sign. So it really is true, just stop looking and go out and enjoy yourself.
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    Jul 31, 2013 11:55 AM GMT
    IceBuckets saidHow could you possibly expect people to love you if you don't? And how could you possibly love someone else if you don't know how to love yourself either?

    There is some truth when they say to stop looking and it will find you...because when you are actively looking, it gives off a stench of desperation and that's not an attractive trait. People like confidence and security.

    And God damn it - who ever said that we all need "someone to make us happy"? NOBODY and if anybody does, they are dead wrong. A significant other should not be making us happy or define us. It should ONLY be the extras. Life is a cake. It's got cake and frosting and it it scrumptious. A guy should just be the little flower on the top to make it pretty and make us happier. Listen - if you're happy not being with anyone then you are happier - case closed.


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    Jul 31, 2013 12:04 PM GMT
    Stop picky
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    Jul 31, 2013 12:11 PM GMT
    Oh stop it...at least you liked someone and experienced the feeling

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    Jul 31, 2013 12:11 PM GMT
    Dont worry most of those 24 year olds married now dont love each other and will more than likely be divorced at 42.
  • brickboy1966

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    Jul 31, 2013 12:13 PM GMT
    I'm 47 and haven't found my first love yet. Trying to be patient.icon_confused.gif
  • Fargo

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    Jul 31, 2013 12:13 PM GMT
    Sorry to break it to you, but there is a real chance you may grow old and alone. Saying "if you stop worrying about it, it will come to you" is so unrealistic.

    You do have to actively work on yourself first and at the same time look for someone else, not in a desperate manner but don't just wait for a knock on the door. And do it now, times fly so fast.